Being called 'nice', is this really bad?

[stevey_2000]

Being called 'nice' i think is definitely 'bad' news for girls you are wanting to date, does anyone agree with me?

for anyone in the same situation, i'm 26 but recently told i look 21 and have a 'baby face'i get on well with most girls, and use kino but most girls tell me about their boyfriends or they say i'm a 'nice' lad, is this bad news to hear from someone you want to give a good f***?

does anyone else get called 'nice' and pull it off with hot chicks and what did they do to do it?

discuss gentlemen...

 

[Dukester]

the trick to being nice/jerk

mix it up.
sometimes i'm nice. sometimes i can be a jerk

it all depends on the situation- but if you are genuinely nice all the time, then you wont get action.

girls like mystery- nice guys do not provide this. mixing it up a lil does

 

[HypeR]

It matters why they call you nice, if you're walking behind her ass the whole day buying her stuff it's bad. But if it's because you're a kind person there's nothing wrong.

 

[stevey_2000]

it's nice as in being happy, friendly and get on with everyone i'd imagine cos that's how i am but reading 'nice' on this board usually = nice guy= wussy ass guy who gives women attention all the time,

that's definitely not me but non-the-less take it as bad news if someone calls me nice, grrrrrr

 

[frivolousz21]

Nice isnt always bad.

it can mean your the "nice guy" who will never get laid.

or you are a nice person..which is good.

id rather be called nice..than be called *******

 

[blue17]

Well even when a nice guy is being a jerk, he is really kidding. If you are a naturally nice person, you shouldn't be MEANING to be a jerk.....usually it's done as a joke, or only when it's truly justified. Being a jerk just to be a jerk doesn't mean you are nice, even if you are usually friendly.

 

[Chemistry]

Who knows...

Its ambiguous... I've fvcked girls who've called me nice and there's other females who've called me nice and who will remain friends...

End of the day you looking for an indication of your whole style and their situation... some girls will just want to be friends because their perfectly happy in a LTR already, or because you're just not someone who they'd fvck because everyone has preferences...

If 'nice' is what you're all about then chances are you're doomed... if on the other hand you are nice at times, this at others, and that at other times then there's no problem..

It's about being multi-faceted...

 

[Luveno]

In today's world, people bastardize the term "nice", with the term "tryhard".

A nice person used to mean someone who gave respect where it was due - someone who didn't try to harm others to make their ego bigger. In other words, someone confident.

Now, nice means you are a "tryhard", lacking confidence and trying to be overtly polite and agreeable just to get on someones good side. You may get on their good side, but you won't be respected.

Being nice in the world of today IS a bad thing. It may get people to like you, but they won't respect you.

Being confident and standing up for what you believe in may make you enemies, but they WILL respect you.

Being respected is a hell of a lot more important than being well liked. Confidence = Respect.

 

[Chemistry]

You totally ignore the idea of being multi faceted...

Anybody that one dimensional isn't destined for success of any kind...

Do always stand up for your values tho, I agree with that much of what was said... don't start running around and being slave to Miss X and Miss Y... but same time if you pass through a door in front of them why let the door slam back on them when you can hold it a little longer?

Don't confuse confidence with arrogance or being rude...

 

[frivolousz21]

Here is what I think nice means:

BEING RESPECTFUL


Im not talking AFC nice..where u are some whipped ***** *****.

if you say thank you to a store clerk you are nice.
if you buy some women flowers because u have one-i-tis you are not nice you are a *****.

if you hold the door for a elderly lady you are nice.
if you work with a girl and do extra work for her to score with her..you are once again a *****.

if you tease, use C and F, neg hits...but dont degrade the women you are still NICE!!!!!
if you drive 1 hour to give some girl food at her work that u like and you have a report due the next day, or you are doing something else..and drop it for her. you once again are A *****!!!!!!!!!


ive been nice which i am now..and ive been a *****.

i prefere nice

 

[huge_guy_pimpin]

Originally posted by stevey_2000
Being called 'nice' i think is definitely 'bad' news for girls you are wanting to date, does anyone agree with me?

for anyone in the same situation, i'm 26 but recently told i look 21 and have a 'baby face'i get on well with most girls, and use kino but most girls tell me about their boyfriends or they say i'm a 'nice' lad, is this bad news to hear from someone you want to give a good f***?

does anyone else get called 'nice' and pull it off with hot chicks and what did they do to do it?

discuss gentlemen...

yes i get called nice, and yes ive been told i got a "baby face"
so what ? if u do what u wanna do and be succesful in life, and dont be anyones *****, being nice isnt a bad thing.

nice is not avoiding neg hits on hott women,
nice is giving neg hit to hott women and then when u got her in bed to lube up before u give her anal.

 

[Jason#4]

Be a jerk. There is this one girl who is interested in me. I have no interest in her so I ignore her, make fun of her, etc. I thought this would drive her off but it just increased her interest level. I think it depend on the type of girl though.

 

[Grey Fox]

Depends on who they are saying it to and how they are saying it.

They tell their boyfriend you are a nice guy, they are saying that to assuage any ill feelings he might be having about you and her.

She says it to her folks, she's trying to head off any questions about a guy she likes but doesnt want to say it out right yet.

She says it to you after you do a good deed she watched you pull with that silent, oh-wow-a-hero look. Thats not bad.

She says it to you when you are trying to lay down some game, not so good.

-Grey Fox

 

[Ladiesssman]

My current girl that i'm with, when i met her, she initially told me how nice i am. Then like a month or so later when she invite me to go park with her, I showed sign that i like her. I hold her hand to read her palm. Then when i actually holding it longer to lock her hand with mind, she pulled it away. She told me she just want to be friends. Now, she's the one always calling me. And she's the one who always want sex.

Just because a girl call you nice or nice guy, doesn't mean you're nice. Nor does it mean she can't like you. She may just be giving you compliments because she likes you.

Just because she tells you she just want to be friends, doesn't mean she just want to be friends. Take the chance. Take the risk. As long as she's around you, do it. If she really doesn't like you, she wouldn't even be around you, or bumping into you anymore.

 

[blue17]

Lots of good sh!t in this thread. I think the main difference between truly nice and 'wussy' nice is that if you stand up for what you believe in, don't be a pushover, and have confidence in yourself, then that is a good type of nice. Then there is the AFC type of nice....which anyone can fake if they try hard enough.

On that subject matter, what does easy-going actually mean? It is related to niceness...but not quite the same thing.

 

[squirrels]

Depends on the context.

 

[stevey_2000]

Glad this thread is turning into a good discussion!!

blue17,

i think the term 'laid back' can be based along the same lines as 'nice' BUT being laid back is also something i've been described as and i feel that this ranks alongside 'remaining cool and calm' whereas 'nice' is being a guy who people either respect or people see as an AFC wuss, it does depend on the context as squirrels said!,

Ste.