Being Alpha.

[LinkinParkROX]

I'm pretty much on the bridge from an RAFC to a DJ, like 70% across to being a full DJ. My only problem now is being alpha. I have the whole alpha attitude and stuff, and I do feel alpha. But I don't really think people around feel like I'm alpha. I feel like they feel like I'm trying too hard, probably like I'm a beta trying to be an alpha.

I too feel like that sometimes. Maybe it's because it's true? This probably looks confusing, I'm confused myself. This next sentence is going to sound lame, but how can I become alpha? On a sidenote, I'm overly mean to people. Especially to girls. This also comes from trying to be alpha/confident. What can I do to fix all this and just be alpha?

 

[VinnydaVoyuer]

You can start off become an Alpha by putting down your sisters panties and not masturbaiting all over your comic book collection! lol. And for the love of God stop wearing the Brut you cheap bastard! LOL! Vincenzo.

 

[FairShake]

Try not using the word "alpha" so much.

Then stop being so mean. Seriously, a lot of "that word" guys are mean but if that's not you don't do it. Besides, the world could use less ****heads.

 

[jophil28]

Being mean is not being Alpha it is just being mean for its own sake.
Some of you younger guys just do not get this yet. Acting like a snarling objectionable dyckhead is not going to win you any votes.

Women are not drawn to mean guys, they are attracted to cool, confident men who speak with authority and move with a 'presence'.

Think James Bond.

 

[Interceptor]

Being Alpha means that you have excellent skills in DISCERNMENT.

You know what you want, what you dont want, what is good for you, what is not good for you, where to go, where not to go, who is trustworthy, who isnt, etc .....


When people defer to an Alpha attitude, its because there is some trust.

Trust in that persons frame. And hopefully, trust in their judgement, intuiton, awareness, and discernement. If that person has those traits, people will often look to him for leadership. Why?
Because he has good discernment, and is not a 'mean' ass hole.


Being mean comes from being hurt badly inside.
It is a way to aggressively wrest power AWAY from others and TAKE it for oneself. That is not Alpha at all.

Being Alpha means that you know WHO you are on deep level, and you know where you're going. You trust yourself and your judgement.
In addition, your discernment is such that you can be exclusive, in that you dont allow negative or draining people into your life , but you are also INCLUSIVE, in that you DO allow people who are exhibiting what you find is beneficial to you into your life.
And that comes from strong Personal Boundaries, thus, good judgement and discernment.

When people are ass holes, jerks, and d*cks, it means they are being intentionally EXCLUSIVE. That is, arbitrarily not letting people into their life, and actually taking from the other person. That is not being Alpha.
That is not building ALLIANCES, nor building trust and respect.

Remember, that we live in a civilized society. We share resources. We live along side each other.
Often when we feel the need to take from another, it means we havent built our resources sufficiently. The true Alpha recognized WHO he is, remember.
Thus, he recognized what are his strengths and weaknesses. He is at peace with himself. And is comfortable in his own skin.


Good luck.

 

[Captain Harlock]

Being mean is not being Alpha it is just being mean for its own sake.
Some of you younger guys just do not get this yet. Acting like a snarling objectionable dyckhead is not going to win you any votes.

Women are not drawn to mean guys, they are attracted to cool, confident men who speak with authority and move with a 'presence'.

Think James Bond.

I've always thought of James Bond as nothing but a british snob. Though he was kind of cool when Craig Daniel played him.

When it comes to actors and movies I'd say Vin Diesel is an excellent example of an alpha male. He's obviously not a guy who talks a lot but he makes every word and oneliner count.

 

[search1ng]

bloody love the new James bond. Awesome style, seems the be the DJ that the other James Bond could only ever emulate.

 

[Kal0051]

To me alpha is a trait of leaders. It's the ability to get people to look at you with trust and admiration. It's not being a ****head, that's not alpha.