Being able to go out ALL the time

harhar

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Personally, i think i'm a pretty fun guy. I'm lucky in that i can make ANYONE laugh, but it seems that's not enough.

I've got the problem that i don't get invited to a lot of stuff.

It's not that I don't have friends to hang out with, it's just that I'm not as close to the guys in my different social circles as they are with each other. This results in me only being invited to the big gatherings such as parties and meals etc., but not the little things like playing football at the park on the weekend or being invited when a someone is having a few guys stop round their house.

I've been trying to resolve this by inviting them out to go to town, arranging meals etc. in which they all come along, but it ends up being the same old story of us hanging out at big things but never me being invited to stop round someones house when they'e got other people stoping round etc.

Sometimes, i don't even get invited to the same parties they go to due to them knowing/ being tighter with someone i'm not.

My best mate at school seems to get invited to most things, he just has 'it', but i just can't put my finger on what 'it' is.

How would you guys suggest i go about trying to resolve this problem?

Furthermore, how would you guys suggest joining new social circes at school?

I'm currently at 6th form in which the year i'm in is joined to the year above so theres like a 100 new people to get to know.

And also, how to get into the social circles of people i already know somewhat who are in my year but who i'm not really friends with, more like aquantainces. because after like 5-6 years of the circles being established it's hard to join it so late.

I'd really appreciate your thoughts/suggestions.
 

Deadly_Ripped

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I have found that the ONLY way to make friends with have who already have friends is to be aggressive and set up a pattern of seeing that person or group of people regularly... so that when they're together they ask "where's so and so?" It also helps to get to know several people within a given social circle, thereby increasing the odds that you'll be invited to something.
 

tafakna

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Harhar,

It may sound weird and outdated but read "How to Win Friends and Influence People", it's still the bible on the subject (and you can find the pdf all over the net).

Than read it again.

I have no doubt that you are a fun guy, but certainly there's something missing.
 
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