Being a DJ versus having a career

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The further I'm down the path of both, the more I realize that in the end I can only pick one. It's better to be good at one thing or another, than to be halfassed at both. Any of you guys have similar experiences?
 

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Being a DJ is not a job, it's a state of mind. As you go along further on your journey you will realize that this has tremendous positive impact on your entire life - just like being raised by good parents and rich.
 

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You might want to keep reading, or read parts of the DJ bible again. If you think you have to choose between DJ and anything else (but an alternative philosophy), you're just not getting what its all about.

Right this very moment you're either living as a DJ, "nice guy", or some other alternative philosophy.
 

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Actually you achieve everything in life, by living in the sosuavian theorem.

Right now, you think that being a DJ is all about women, while it is about women you must look at it on the whole as a life style of CANI (constant and neverending Improvement).

Being a DJ is living your own life as you want to.

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Solarium said:
The further I'm down the path of both, the more I realize that in the end I can only pick one. It's better to be good at one thing or another, than to be halfassed at both.
So why do you feel that either one needs such a concentrated effort?
 

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Isn't having a career that you want part of being a DJ?

I think you thinking in some PUA thing putting massive effort in getting as much ass as possible. Look to Backbreaker circle of life thread.
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
So why do you feel that either one needs such a concentrated effort?
It seems like the DJ mentality and being a doctor (humble, serious) don't mix. I'm currently in med school, and playing the girls here in my last 2 semesters got me a bad rep in a way. Here in an enclosed community of about 400 students who see each other every day, gossip spread pretty fast. I'm realizing that friends are more important than your sex life, especially when I may be working with the people who I fvcked with later on. We'll see though, of course I'm not totally abandoning the DJ mentality, since it has its own perks. I'm going to keep reading pook though to avoid going back to AFCish, but while trying to better myself I will also remain modest in a way that I get along with other people (especially other males).
 

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DJ's SHOULD get along with other males...
DJs actually get along with anyone who's not intimidated by them. :up:
 
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Just Be A Man going to Med school - problem solved!!
 

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Solarium said:
It seems like the DJ mentality and being a doctor (humble, serious) don't mix. I'm currently in med school, and playing the girls here in my last 2 semesters got me a bad rep in a way. Here in an enclosed community of about 400 students who see each other every day, gossip spread pretty fast.
This sort of plays along with don't bang your coworkers. If your med school community is really that closed, then you should not use your DJ skills on it. Especially when there are plenty of other places to find women.

And being a DJ is all about improving yourself. Becoming a doctor is a great way to do so. I see the two as compliments rather than opposites.
 

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Solarium said:
It seems like the DJ mentality and being a doctor (humble, serious) don't mix.
*Cough*(Bullsh1t)*Cough*
Solarium said:
I'm currently in med school, and playing the girls here in my last 2 semesters got me a bad rep in a way. Here in an enclosed community of about 400 students who see each other every day, gossip spread pretty fast. I'm realizing that friends are more important than your sex life, especially when I may be working with the people who I fvcked with later on.
You've just learned the lesson why a DJ should not go through with hooking up with anyone in a small town or at work. Being popular is one thing, getting the reputation of a player is another. Oh yeah, same goes for when you do your residency; stay away from the nurses! They can easily make your life a living hell.:nervous:
 
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"DJ" is just a term, deep down the root of the material at sosuave is about self-improvement esp. in the self-esteem/self-respect area, on this site it's related to women as the goal but true self-confidence is something that in general will enhance your entire life.

If your thinking about constantly going out and picking up women, that's a whole different thing, hell in a place serving enough alcohol pretty much anyone can achieve it.

The whole "DJ" idea is about developing your best qualities, which include having a good self-esteem, being able to be assertive etc.
I consider my father a real "alpha male" if you will... does he sleep around? No, is his new wife hot? No. He's just himself, he's not afraid to speak his mind, he's a happy guy and enjoys his life... that's what it all comes down to IMO.
 

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i'd like to think I am an example that you can't have one without the other.

DJ is a sate of mind. a way of life. not playing women.

I have 1 GF right now. If I left her, i can have a date in 2 days. I can go to Dubai for the next year, come back and have a date within 2 days.

Being a DJ partly is not ****ing x amoutn of women, it's knowing that that part of your life isn't a concern.
 

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Solarium said:
It seems like the DJ mentality and being a doctor (humble, serious) don't mix. I'm currently in med school, and playing the girls here in my last 2 semesters got me a bad rep in a way. Here in an enclosed community of about 400 students who see each other every day, gossip spread pretty fast. I'm realizing that friends are more important than your sex life, especially when I may be working with the people who I fvcked with later on. We'll see though, of course I'm not totally abandoning the DJ mentality, since it has its own perks. I'm going to keep reading pook though to avoid going back to AFCish, but while trying to better myself I will also remain modest in a way that I get along with other people (especially other males).
So don't DJ your school mates. Go out to bars/clubs/parties.
 

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Your post doesn't make any sense. Are you working on your job every Friday and Saturday night? Very very few people are. In fact, if you take some time to unwind on weekend nights, you can probably release a little stress and be in a better frame of mind during the week.

It sounds like you are making excuses.

Solarium said:
The further I'm down the path of both, the more I realize that in the end I can only pick one. It's better to be good at one thing or another, than to be halfassed at both. Any of you guys have similar experiences?
 

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Can't you talk to women who are not in your program? I'm sure they exist.

Solarium said:
It seems like the DJ mentality and being a doctor (humble, serious) don't mix. I'm currently in med school, and playing the girls here in my last 2 semesters got me a bad rep in a way. Here in an enclosed community of about 400 students who see each other every day, gossip spread pretty fast. I'm realizing that friends are more important than your sex life, especially when I may be working with the people who I fvcked with later on. We'll see though, of course I'm not totally abandoning the DJ mentality, since it has its own perks. I'm going to keep reading pook though to avoid going back to AFCish, but while trying to better myself I will also remain modest in a way that I get along with other people (especially other males).
 

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You can do both but you are right in focussing on one area of your life and improving it is easier then focussing in on two. Men are very talented at focussing in on a single goal. Multitasking is a talent women have naturally but comes more difficultly to men. Good luck in your deciding what you want to spend your time working on right now, building a business, a sex life, a social circle, or whatsayou.
 
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