Be a cool guy and people will want to know you.
I don't know about you, but I like things to be easy. Why make things harder on yourself right? If you focus on these points here, your ability to score with hot women will become much easier. If you're a cool guy, then these things take a lot less effort. Girls will approach you. Guys will want to be your friend. Everyone wants to know the cool guy. And the hottest girls in the club will notice everyone else trying to impress you.
***REFRESHER***
A lot of issues I discuss here are expanded from my original post here: Returning after many years, here's what I've learned!
PHYSICAL - you don't have to be good looking. I've got a huge nose, and quite often bad skin. And my hair is receeding! But I'm in good shape and I show it off with my clothes. I wear concealer on my skin blemishes. I've grown my hair long enough to cover my hairline. Not much I can do about my nose but hey, if you have the rest covered it's not a big deal. If you're too fat, or too skinny, then forget women and get a fitness regime until you're in at least decent shape. Sorry but it's a cold hard fact. Unless you're not fussy
ATTIRE - I'm amazed when I go out and see single guys, obviously looking to score with a chick, wearing an old, saggy t-shirt and unshaven face and messy hair. What the hell do they expect? If they don't make an effort, then they can't expect to score a girl who does. You need to tailor your attire to your scene. If you want to get the attention of the hottest chick out there then make your your clothes are CLEAN, NEW and SNAPPY. And accesorize. If you can come up with something a little unique or innovative that fits the style without looking stupid, then you're on to a winner and you WILL be noticed. I don't think any of this need to be expensive (depends on your scene) but at least make sure it looks like you made an effort. If you have no idea what I'm talking about then do some research on fashion for your scene. It's called GROOMING and it's seen throughout the animal kingdom among alpha males who mate with the most attractive females.
BE SOCIABLE - If you've got the above points down correctly, you will barely need to approach anyone. You will most likely be approached by GIRLS who want to attract you, and GUYS who want to be like you. You will also intimidate a lot of people, but this is okay, but be aware of it. The biggest point is to be the guy who talks to everyone, regardless of whether they start a convo or not. It doesn't matter one tiny little bit what you say. Talk to everyone who comes into view. Be enthusiastic. It's contagious. And everyone else will see you being entertaining and will want to know you. That's the key factor here. If the people you are talking to are hot girls then all the better. But I'd suggest aiming for that, or other cool guys. Don't be seen as the king of the chumps, or worse, standing on your own. If you find yourself standing alone with no clear conversations to open, then move away from that spot and go and find one. Practise makes perfect! I repeat, it does't matter what you say. Just be socially active and be seen doing it.
BE AWARE - This is about social intuition and is a huge subject, and its something that comes with practise. If you don't have it then you're going to miss opportunities and make mistakes. This is okay, but make sure you learn from them. I'm going to go into this in a lot more detail in a later post. Social intuition comes from AWARENESS. You have to be so aware of everything that's going on around you. This includes self awareness which I touched on in the last point, being aware how you appear at all times to other people which is largely what this post is about. But also be externally aware. The social dynamics of the group you are interacting with. The emotional state of the girl you are talking with and the signals she is giving you which are so easy to misinterpret. Learn how to tell if someone is engaged in the conversation, or is looking for an exit. It's really easy to spot these things, the hard part is paying attention. So, people, PAY ATTENTION. And practise. And I'll say it again, forget worrying about what you're saying. It's not important. Really.
BE ENTERTAINING - Okay, actually it is. But it's not. The point is that the words aren't important. It's more about the emotions evoked. If you can focus on the emotions, then the words will flow. You are designed to be a social, emotional being. Not to think about words. If your brain doesn't know how to internalise these things, then watch some stand up comedy, and chat shows. Watch how people tell stories, and make people laugh. You don't need to know what your learning, you will just absorb it. And it will come out next time you speak. Practise, practise practise!!!!
Hope it's helpful. G'night!
I don't know about you, but I like things to be easy. Why make things harder on yourself right? If you focus on these points here, your ability to score with hot women will become much easier. If you're a cool guy, then these things take a lot less effort. Girls will approach you. Guys will want to be your friend. Everyone wants to know the cool guy. And the hottest girls in the club will notice everyone else trying to impress you.
***REFRESHER***
A lot of issues I discuss here are expanded from my original post here: Returning after many years, here's what I've learned!
PHYSICAL - you don't have to be good looking. I've got a huge nose, and quite often bad skin. And my hair is receeding! But I'm in good shape and I show it off with my clothes. I wear concealer on my skin blemishes. I've grown my hair long enough to cover my hairline. Not much I can do about my nose but hey, if you have the rest covered it's not a big deal. If you're too fat, or too skinny, then forget women and get a fitness regime until you're in at least decent shape. Sorry but it's a cold hard fact. Unless you're not fussy
ATTIRE - I'm amazed when I go out and see single guys, obviously looking to score with a chick, wearing an old, saggy t-shirt and unshaven face and messy hair. What the hell do they expect? If they don't make an effort, then they can't expect to score a girl who does. You need to tailor your attire to your scene. If you want to get the attention of the hottest chick out there then make your your clothes are CLEAN, NEW and SNAPPY. And accesorize. If you can come up with something a little unique or innovative that fits the style without looking stupid, then you're on to a winner and you WILL be noticed. I don't think any of this need to be expensive (depends on your scene) but at least make sure it looks like you made an effort. If you have no idea what I'm talking about then do some research on fashion for your scene. It's called GROOMING and it's seen throughout the animal kingdom among alpha males who mate with the most attractive females.
BE SOCIABLE - If you've got the above points down correctly, you will barely need to approach anyone. You will most likely be approached by GIRLS who want to attract you, and GUYS who want to be like you. You will also intimidate a lot of people, but this is okay, but be aware of it. The biggest point is to be the guy who talks to everyone, regardless of whether they start a convo or not. It doesn't matter one tiny little bit what you say. Talk to everyone who comes into view. Be enthusiastic. It's contagious. And everyone else will see you being entertaining and will want to know you. That's the key factor here. If the people you are talking to are hot girls then all the better. But I'd suggest aiming for that, or other cool guys. Don't be seen as the king of the chumps, or worse, standing on your own. If you find yourself standing alone with no clear conversations to open, then move away from that spot and go and find one. Practise makes perfect! I repeat, it does't matter what you say. Just be socially active and be seen doing it.
BE AWARE - This is about social intuition and is a huge subject, and its something that comes with practise. If you don't have it then you're going to miss opportunities and make mistakes. This is okay, but make sure you learn from them. I'm going to go into this in a lot more detail in a later post. Social intuition comes from AWARENESS. You have to be so aware of everything that's going on around you. This includes self awareness which I touched on in the last point, being aware how you appear at all times to other people which is largely what this post is about. But also be externally aware. The social dynamics of the group you are interacting with. The emotional state of the girl you are talking with and the signals she is giving you which are so easy to misinterpret. Learn how to tell if someone is engaged in the conversation, or is looking for an exit. It's really easy to spot these things, the hard part is paying attention. So, people, PAY ATTENTION. And practise. And I'll say it again, forget worrying about what you're saying. It's not important. Really.
BE ENTERTAINING - Okay, actually it is. But it's not. The point is that the words aren't important. It's more about the emotions evoked. If you can focus on the emotions, then the words will flow. You are designed to be a social, emotional being. Not to think about words. If your brain doesn't know how to internalise these things, then watch some stand up comedy, and chat shows. Watch how people tell stories, and make people laugh. You don't need to know what your learning, you will just absorb it. And it will come out next time you speak. Practise, practise practise!!!!
Hope it's helpful. G'night!
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