This is an approach I did yesterday morning that didn't go well and I feel I could have done better. I'm a beginner. This is like my 9th approach so far. Here's how it went.
So I see her standing alone by the roadside, possibly waiting for a taxi and looking very attractive. I'll rate her as an 8. Well, I was feeling quite confident so I walked towards her, made eye contact (she held my eye contact for about a second, and looked away)
Me: (Smiling) Hi, how are you?
Her: (Straight face) I'm fine.
Me: You're looking sweet this morning.
Her: (straight face) Thank you
Me: Is it just today or that's your normal look?
Her: What do you mean?
Me: I mean did you do something different today or this is how you look every time? Her: (she nods).
Me: Your natural hair looks nice too. Did you decide to keep it like this?
Her: No I just unbraided my hair.
Me: Oh okay I bet it even looks better than the braids.
Her: Silence
Me: Where are you headed?
Her
Straight face) .. I'm waiting for a friend.
Me: Okay... Have a nice day.
I feel I was conveying too much interest with my voice. I could have sounded more laidback and confident, and given her those compliments like I didn't really care about them. I gave off needy vibes cos even though I wasn't looking to pick her up, I wanted her to vibe with me and that made me come across as wanting something from her. Probably the reason why she gave me that bitchy attitude. Next time I should go into the set not caring whether she vibes with me or not. Just say your lines, smile, try to create convo... If it don't work, leave.
That's my analysis on the whole approach. But since I'm only a beginner, there's probably a lot I missed. Feel free to give me any pointers and tips to better handle such a situation next time. Thanks
So I see her standing alone by the roadside, possibly waiting for a taxi and looking very attractive. I'll rate her as an 8. Well, I was feeling quite confident so I walked towards her, made eye contact (she held my eye contact for about a second, and looked away)
Me: (Smiling) Hi, how are you?
Her: (Straight face) I'm fine.
Me: You're looking sweet this morning.
Her: (straight face) Thank you
Me: Is it just today or that's your normal look?
Her: What do you mean?
Me: I mean did you do something different today or this is how you look every time? Her: (she nods).
Me: Your natural hair looks nice too. Did you decide to keep it like this?
Her: No I just unbraided my hair.
Me: Oh okay I bet it even looks better than the braids.
Her: Silence
Me: Where are you headed?
Her
Straight face) .. I'm waiting for a friend.Me: Okay... Have a nice day.
I feel I was conveying too much interest with my voice. I could have sounded more laidback and confident, and given her those compliments like I didn't really care about them. I gave off needy vibes cos even though I wasn't looking to pick her up, I wanted her to vibe with me and that made me come across as wanting something from her. Probably the reason why she gave me that bitchy attitude. Next time I should go into the set not caring whether she vibes with me or not. Just say your lines, smile, try to create convo... If it don't work, leave.
That's my analysis on the whole approach. But since I'm only a beginner, there's probably a lot I missed. Feel free to give me any pointers and tips to better handle such a situation next time. Thanks