Hello,
I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend over a year now. She is nice and I love her, but I feel like she is ****ing with my head lately. As expected we had sex all the time at first, then it gradually reached a plateau, until recently. We have not had sex in a month.
She is wild in bed and open to ANYTHING. She used to give me whatever I asked for (oral, anal, vaginal) sometimes multiple times a day, I didn't have to use a condom and could come inside her. The only reason I go into detail is to explain my situation.
There are two factors which I believe contributed to the decline of our sex life. The first is she has some health issues which I knew about going into the relationship that sometimes turns her off to sex. The second is I got complacent and clingy.
I feel like I may have been calling her too much and telling her I love her too much and doing favors for her, etc. and that this in turn is turning her off. The confusing part is if I don't contact her, she will contact me and if I don't tell her I love her she tells me she loves me. Lately I've been trying to keep contact (calls/texts) at a 1:1 ratio so there is at least a balance.
Another thing, for most of the relationship I was at the gym at least 3 nights a week or out doing something else, but due to a recent ankle injury I have been resting at home until it heals. I think maybe I started calling her too much because of this (I was bored and had nothing else to do).
She has legitimate health issues (fibromyalgia) which can flare up from time to time but she tells me her diet and physical therapy are making her feel better. In fact, she called me last night to say how great she felt. Sometimes though I think she is telling me she's not feeling well to avoid having sex with me. I do spend the night 1-3 nights a week and we kiss/cuddle though.
To sum up my question:
I want to continue the relationship because she is sweet and honestly is the best lover I have ever had (porn star sex).
What should I do to keep her interested? I have never been in a relationship this long.
Once my ankle is healed and I'm getting out of the house more will that make me appear less clingy in her eyes?
How long is too long to go without sex (due to health issues)?
Please respond if you've experienced any of these issue or have been in an ltr. Thanks.
I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend over a year now. She is nice and I love her, but I feel like she is ****ing with my head lately. As expected we had sex all the time at first, then it gradually reached a plateau, until recently. We have not had sex in a month.
She is wild in bed and open to ANYTHING. She used to give me whatever I asked for (oral, anal, vaginal) sometimes multiple times a day, I didn't have to use a condom and could come inside her. The only reason I go into detail is to explain my situation.
There are two factors which I believe contributed to the decline of our sex life. The first is she has some health issues which I knew about going into the relationship that sometimes turns her off to sex. The second is I got complacent and clingy.
I feel like I may have been calling her too much and telling her I love her too much and doing favors for her, etc. and that this in turn is turning her off. The confusing part is if I don't contact her, she will contact me and if I don't tell her I love her she tells me she loves me. Lately I've been trying to keep contact (calls/texts) at a 1:1 ratio so there is at least a balance.
Another thing, for most of the relationship I was at the gym at least 3 nights a week or out doing something else, but due to a recent ankle injury I have been resting at home until it heals. I think maybe I started calling her too much because of this (I was bored and had nothing else to do).
She has legitimate health issues (fibromyalgia) which can flare up from time to time but she tells me her diet and physical therapy are making her feel better. In fact, she called me last night to say how great she felt. Sometimes though I think she is telling me she's not feeling well to avoid having sex with me. I do spend the night 1-3 nights a week and we kiss/cuddle though.
To sum up my question:
I want to continue the relationship because she is sweet and honestly is the best lover I have ever had (porn star sex).
What should I do to keep her interested? I have never been in a relationship this long.
Once my ankle is healed and I'm getting out of the house more will that make me appear less clingy in her eyes?
How long is too long to go without sex (due to health issues)?
Please respond if you've experienced any of these issue or have been in an ltr. Thanks.