Been a great girlfriend, but tnight seemed shady

[Handsfull]

Finally been dating a girl that has been what we all want, on paper that is. She's basically traditional, looks to me for leadership, respectfull, strong character, comfortable with her femininity. I mean, on and on and on. She's extremly hot as well whcich has thrown me off because her behavior has been that of a hb5. Anything I have mentioned as being an issue for me over the course of the last year she has changed with gusto and tried to become the woman I want in my life. My only complaint might be is shes boring as fvck...

Here is the thing. She went on an overnight trip that is now a 2 night trip to a near city for a certification, which is fine, no big deal. She passed her exam with others in her industry and they had some drinks to celebrate, etc. Also fine. It's just that when she calls to tell me shes staying there it was odd. Call it hocus fvckin pocus or whatever you want, but the hair on the back of my neck is standing up. She calls, says her "friend" (Tori), who she met today...and theyre friends now apparently... didnt want her to drive back tonight. She also texted earlier in the evening to tell me that her and "Tori" were going to celebrate. A few minutes later she says, "they" convinced her to stay..She's the one who calls me and it's like shes not even on the other line. She's saying everything real "sing-songy", which she only does when shes drunk. It's dead quite. No ambient noise like a hotel lobby or bar.

She has displayed high character our entire time together but Im always vigilant considering some of my experiences with women. Like I said though, this feels like my insticts are trying to tell me something here. Somethings off. Either that or Im an insecure, fagot.
Seeking wisdom here, please.

 

[Cloudtopsun2100]

Our six sense is a reliable indicator when something is amiss. The thing that she is probably not telling you is that Tori (who probably exists) is also hanging with "Chad Big P1mping" who your gf is attracted to and probably hooked up with or is considering hooking up with. The female friend excuse is a basic tactic of girls, as if she, Big P1mping and some other girl are getting drunk together Big P1mping gets omitted to calm the nerves of the bf before the fvckfest commences.

 

[Handsfull]

^^Ha. I KNEW that was going to be the first response posted. Its cliche though. Ultimately, youre right though.

It's one of two things:

Big Pimpin is butt fvckin her in the ass titties right now

OR

Shes having drinks a celebrating like human beings will do when they pass a certification exam

I'm REALLY tempted to be a snoop when she gets back though, and I HATE THAT. Ive never done it. Id rather just bail. Snooping seems so weak to me...but I'm really tempted to.

She has givin me no reason to doubt her. And Ive always had a good frame with her. She got rid of her dog recently on her own volition because I told her if were gonna see each other in the mid term, the dog has to go (CRAZY NEEDY DOG with amjor issues)

I did not make a big deal of the conversation with her tonight and played it close to the vest, but Im thinkin "that waaaas straaaaange"

 

[EFFORT]

Your "Biological programming" is causing you to feel this way and its very accurate. Another dude probably is involved. With that said your programming when it comes to women being "unfaithful" is outdated and useless for the current time we live in. What difference does it really make if she hooks up with someone or not? What is snooping around going to do? You find something and have an argument? Then what? What's your ultimate goal anyways? You can't control another person. My advice is to let it go and let go of monogamy ideals.

 

[EFFORT]

Double post

 

[Cloudtopsun2100]

Ha, well you shouldn't snoop, thats kinda wack. You either have to give her the benefit of the doubt as sometimes things can be innocent BUT then again she may have gotten plundered by Big Pimpin so thats up to you.

When in doubt, its time to go out (get some new prospects and continue to monitor her behavior down the line while keeping your eye out for a girl who can be more trustworthy)

^^Ha. I KNEW that was going to be the first response posted. Its cliche though. Ultimately, youre right though.

It's one of two things:

Big Pimpin is butt fvckin her in the ass titties right now

OR

Shes having drinks a celebrating like human beings will do when they pass a certification exam

I'm REALLY tempted to be a snoop when she gets back though, and I HATE THAT. Ive never done it. Id rather just bail. Snooping seems so weak to me...but I'm really tempted to.

She has givin me no reason to doubt her. And Ive always had a good frame with her. She got rid of her dog recently on her own volition because I told her if were gonna see each other in the mid term, the dog has to go (CRAZY NEEDY DOG with amjor issues)

I did not make a big deal of the conversation with her tonight and played it close to the vest, but Im thinkin "that waaaas straaaaange"

 

[BrainDamage92]

The thing that really bothers me is you say shes "boring as phuck", I bet she senses you feel this way which puts a weight on her shoulders. From the sound of it, she doesnt stimulate you intellectually enough. The other thing which bothers me is you say her "behaviour is of a HB5". Why? Low self esteem + good looks = being unfaithfull in women, you should know this. Couse then she goes on to think like: "Oh this guy really seems to see me for the great person I am. WHat is his hand doing on my ass? Ah nevermind, hes such a good friend and really sees how great I am on the inside, besides my boyfriend wont find out"...

Remember, when someting seems too good to be true it isnt. SHe might have concealed her *****dom, couse she wanted to do things right with you, but its a wolf in sheeps clothing in the end.


And yes she cheated or is about to. Deal with it homie. This is why relationships suck ****.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

2 outcomes

1) she didn't cheat on you and you are being paranoid

2) she did cheat on you

I'm going to go with option 2 lol. WHY?? Well, I am going to assume that you left out enough information for us to call this case immediately lol. However, I found some crumbs in your op to attack. One, you says she's boring af. This tells me that this girl is the typical american sloot that only knows how to party and focus on a job. Plus, you are already worshipping this girl from the start of your op to make her seem like she's god's gift. This tells me she probably does not consider you much at all and you are just one of those types of bfs. Three, I looked at your previous topics and you posted about being mad about she used to date some white trash bum or something. Major red flag lol. This girl has no standards and is willing to potentially jeopardize her life because her panties got wet over some bad boy/I don't give af mentality that bums possess. You could have been lying though lol. You should have started preparing for a new ship after you figured this out lol.

In other words, you keep trying to tell us how classy and hot this girl is. If this girl was so classy than she would not have dated that white trash bum. Classy high status girls do not date below their caste regardless. If they are willing to date Tyronejavarusmagnus or Travis the drug dealer than they are a hoe.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

You told her to get rid of her dog? Why you are a scumbag I hope she rides every cack at the party

 

[MrNiceGuy23]

Tyronejavarusmagnus

This, right here, might be the single greatest thing I've ever read in my life. Kudos to you.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

This, right here, might be the single greatest thing I've ever read in my life. Kudos to you.

I need to start drunk posting lol

 

[_sideways_]

Lets take a vote.....all those who say shes cheating raise hands lol jk


The sing songey buzzed call with no ambient noise is a sign.

She was pregaming with tori. Made her shush while she called you. Shes a player bro.

Move on to better and dont invest ur thoughts on her anymore. More girls to be had that i nstead of calling you buzzed to end the night would rather facetime with you or whatever.

I bet shes 23.

 

[Rainman4707]

Her behaviour is disrespectful. I think she is trying to make you jealous.

Tell her that her behaviour in this instance is not acceptable & not something you're going to put up with.

 

[_sideways_]

So she can run away faster

 

[BrainDamage92]

Ye if she thinks you buy into her crap but then you clearly show her youre smarter than that she be gone with the wind.

Reality check. Always do a reality check.

 

[Building_and_Loan]

Well if you still have doubts, see what she's like when she gets back from her trip. If you're laying next to her on the bed and she's acting distant and doesn't seem her normal, loving self, that means she's feeling guilty about something she's done.

I don't know man, trust your gut. I really believe we men have a sort of sixth sense about this type of action. You can just feel it in your gut when something is amiss.