Becoming Fearless

[Bratt2230]

Any good - old - topics about this?

I have found a few, but perhaps some of you know some great topics about this... my fear is really killing me, i would like to turn it around, so that i would be the one killing the fear.

Thanks.

 

[joe henny]

Read the book of Pook. The only book you'll ever need...

 

[Lucifero]

Read the book of Pook. The only book you'll ever need...

Nah, read David X's ebook...."Who cares what they think"....changed my outlook on the "Game".

 

[moneyisking]

petari, sir although I don't qualify myself to give whole lot of advices about women like many gentlemen here can, but somethings about life, I can.

It's an illusion to think that man can become fearless. Think about it. Fear is part of instinct that is activated by our mind to save our trouble. Or even, there is absolutely no way to feel unshaken, fearless, definite all the time. Imagine Gandhi, the 300 Spartans, Alexander The Great... I guarantee you, all of em' had fears, and you and I, even the best players have fears, worries, confusion, doubts, and horrors. Sh!t, even Jesus (who was a technically a God) had fears. He feared crucifixion so much that he prayed for hours. In the end, feeling fears, worries, vulnerability in life is inevitable my friend. But remember that the only difference b/t champions and losers is that champions get hit by life, stumble, but always come back up. Don't think you can avoid fear. You will never be able to. But from now on, develop a character and personality that can help you to get up when you get hit.

 

[perseverance]

You have to conquer your fear and that means confronting it.

 

[Bratt2230]

petari, sir although I don't qualify myself to give whole lot of advices about women like many gentlemen here can, but somethings about life, I can.

It's an illusion to think that man can become fearless. Think about it. Fear is part of instinct that is activated by our mind to save our trouble. Or even, there is absolutely no way to feel unshaken, fearless, definite all the time. Imagine Gandhi, the 300 Spartans, Alexander The Great... I guarantee you, all of em' had fears, and you and I, even the best players have fears, worries, confusion, doubts, and horrors. Sh!t, even Jesus (who was a technically a God) had fears. He feared crucifixion so much that he prayed for hours. In the end, feeling fears, worries, vulnerability in life is inevitable my friend. But remember that the only difference b/t champions and losers is that champions get hit by life, stumble, but always come back up. Don't think you can avoid fear. You will never be able to. But from now on, develop a character and personality that can help you to get up when you get hit.

Yes, Completly Fearless is impossible.

But i guess David D's book is something i am looking for.

If is not to become fearless, it is to become (i do not know the word for it) Indifferent? i mean, i would like not to care about other peoples thoughts about me at all.. or atleast, don't give a **** about what they COULD DO COULD SAY when i approach

 

[Warrior74]

To become fearless you must first become brave. To be brave means to know that there is danger and to feel fear, but to push ahead anyway. Eventually you develop faith in yourself and abilites and faith + bravery = fearless. Just don't let being fearless make you reckless.

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

Fear is an unavoidable emotion/sensation.

We all feel it, but the real men channel fear into a positive emotion that forces them to overcome the obstacle and in return, they become stronger and braver. They stretch their bubble out, so they feel more comfortable in even tougher situations.

Reading about it isn't gonna help you... you need to find your fear and face it head on.

In history, fear was a survival mechanism to help us get out of and avoid potentially deadly scenarios.

We're still wired the same way, but there's very little risk in doing anything, these days. even dangerous activities have so much safety precautions that most people walk away if things go bad.

If you're afraid of women, then you're down at the bottom of the mountain and staring up, my friend.

Just start climbing.

 

[joe henny]

Read the 7 steps by player Supreme

 

[joe henny]

Nah, read David X's ebook...."Who cares what they think"....changed my outlook on the "Game".

David ex is cool but most these guys are too fvcking nerdy to come off like david x..he's a bad ass ex biker most of these guys is 100lb nerds

 

[Galactus]

Petari, there's no automatic solution to this. You have to get it in your head that you won't transform overnight, but if you keep at it, even when you feel like you can't take the discouragement anymore, you'll get there.

I don't know how bad it is for you, so I can't say where you need to start. But you probably need to just begin by going out and being sociable. Talk to anybody and everybody. Treat everyone the same. I mean don't show a hottie more respect than an old woman. You can't develop this behavior for just the people you want to fvck. At least not at first. At first you just need to be able to feel comfortable around anyone. Once you've done that, or while you're doing that, you can start focusing more on the women you're interested in.

I just started reading "The 50th Law" by Robert Greene, who also wrote "The 48 Laws of Power". I can't tell you how good this one is yet, but it's about being fearless. Of course, like you said, completely fearless is impossible. That's okay, you just charge right through the fear.

Just don't rush it. That's why people give up, because they expect results too quickly. What you need to do is recognize your progress as it's happening. If you come home and realize you smiled at a woman and she smiled back, and this was something previously hard to do, then recognize that you've made progress.

Get that testosterone pumping. Besides exercise, you should adopt a bold posture, and project your voice. Don't be needy. Be willing to walk away from anyone who disrespects you. Value yourself at all times, above everyone else. Realize that women want and men respect the leadership traits. Be decisive, mean what you say, follow through on promises, show compassion but don't be a sucker, and so on.

Losing fear doesn't happen in a vacuum, none of this DJ stuff does. That's the problem with this forum. People will say to do something, but you can't because you might not have reached the stage where you're ready for that. We really have to know where you are before we can get to specifics.

Other than the book I previously mentioned, and my post "FEARLESS", which I know you've read, I can't give you any other resources off the top of my head. Get Googling.

Good luck, and don't beat yourself up along the way.

 

[slaog]

You could try to care less. There should be little fear if you knock women off their pedestals.

 

[mustfirstregister]

I hope this can help you.
http://www.thecomedynet.com/wp-content/gallery/newimages9d/fearless-motivational-pics_opt.jpg

 

[Bratt2230]

I hope this can help you.
http://www.thecomedynet.com/wp-content/gallery/newimages9d/fearless-motivational-pics_opt.jpg

Hahaha .. i like this picture.

But to the rest of You, thank you for replying to this post, most of the answers was really helpfull..

I guess i will just have to come FACE to FACE with my Fears of women...

Traveling 100 mph in a 30 mph zone is nothing.
Sky diving is nothing.
Bungee is nothing.

But talking to a women? .. god damn, i fear it as much as i fear wrestling a bear in a snake nest.

 

[WhatdoyoumeanAIDS]

Any good - old - topics about this?

I have found a few, but perhaps some of you know some great topics about this... my fear is really killing me, i would like to turn it around, so that i would be the one killing the fear.

Thanks.

Yes. so here's what you do, if your stuck in a rut. Do you like to act? Imagine your a real life actor, and you KNOW that that personality isn't you, but just go along with it and have fun. Assume that ****y funny guy. I find that being myself gets so boring sometimes, dealing with all these dumb insecurities, that I really enjoy assuming these roles and playing games with girls. I get a huge kick out of it actually. And trust me does it work!!!! It's almost like an out of body experience. In the end, you know that no matter what happens, good or bad, it doesn't really matter because it was never the real you anyway.

Also, another thought that has helped me is how much it all doesn't matter in the end. Think about it- do you care about the personality that some dude assumed 1,000 years ago to pick up some girl? It doesn't really matter in the end, all you can really do is have fun with it, because in the end it is a game. You can't win or lose the game, all you can do is play.

 

[1337]

People often confuse the fears. 2 types of fears psychological fear and instinctive fear. Instictive fear is when u see a tiger in ur bathroom or a gun is held point blank at u fight or flight respondes as well as andrenaline kicks in. Psycholological fear includes anxiety related emotions about stuff that won't send u to fight or flight it raise it andrenaline (basically things that aren't real threats to you that trigger fear are psychological fears caused by the mind and society).based on some studies, as babies we only respond in fear to objects falling and loud noises, the rest of the fear list builds up ad we get older psychologically. Distinguish the difference between what's life threatening and not have faith in yourself push on and u will be fine

 

[Pancho]

As we speak, right now, in the universe out there MILLIONS of galaxies are colliding. There are billions upon billions of stars in each one of those galaxies, and trillions of planets orbitting those billions stars. There are more galaxies in the universe then there are grains of sand on our planet.

The world we live on can't even be seen from the end of our tiny solar system. It is a like a speck, orbitting around a smallish star, in the middle of an average galaxy.

And you are worried about what? You are worried about some girl, who will be old and grey in fifty years, dead in a hundred, and completely and utterly forgotten within two hundred years?

The fact is, nothing you do matters. Your death doesn't matter. Your life really matters to no one but you and small group of your friends and families.

You have one chance to do what you want to do on this Earth. Have fears if you must, but never forget that, in the end, you have no reason to submit to those fears. Live your life man.

 

[terran2k]

fear of what? talking to a girl? only way you'll get over it is to do it, reading may help guide you a bit, but really you got to just do it.
don't get stuck in "research" mode, where you're just trying to absorb all this information, just reading this, asking for advice on that, but never actually doing anything.
oh yeah that David X ebook mentioned earlier is good stuff. I remember reading all those ebooks and I have to say David X's book is probably the best, the one that stuck in my head the most that's for sure.