Be ready for those "Haters"

[pipe007]

Having “haters” is a GREAT thing

If you are on the path of self-growth, stepping up in life and trying to become a better version of yourself. You will notice that some people will admire your courage, some people will become inspired themselves and also discover their own path. Interestingly, whenever you are growing in life, there will MOST LIKELY find people who are “haters” people who will bring negative energy … your way!! Either purposefully or unconsciously in order to attempt to “shame” you for trying to step up in life and follow your heart. They will try to discourage you, or make you feel less than… FOR VERY SPECIFIC REASONS

Isn’t this an INTERESTING concept??? Why would anyone try to undermine or bring negative energy towards someone who is trying to build a bigger vision for himself or herself??

Well first of all, I want you to understand that if you have “haters” in your life, this is GREAT THING, it truly means that you are growing as a person and you are actually on your path to becoming your own unique person!!.. remember that it is inevitable, that if you are on your path to becoming the best version of yourself, it will make some people react in a negative way. Of course not everyone, like I said, some will truly admire you or even follow you for it!!

it is true what they say that no matter how hard you try in life, you will never, and you can never have everyone like you and your decisions. Some people just won’t like you no matter how hard you try. The funny thing is that the more you put youself out there and try, the more likely you are to bump into people like this ….

But why would anyone will willingly try to shame and undermine someones actions towards greatness?

Simple, people who bring negative energy towards your attempts towards greatness are simple PROJECTING their own insecurity, shame, and doubt towards you because they are struggling with the issue themselves. They wish they would have figured out a way to follow their heart, to be free from social conditioning to follow their hearts, and make it big in life… BUT for some reason, they can’t. it looks impossible to be this way, they accumulate years of frustration. When they see someone like you, trying to step up, it is only natural that they will want to undermine your attempts so you can be more like them…

some people will ACTUALLY CONFRONT YOU!!! what??? yes they will (example, have you seen that tyler from RSD video where some dude confronts him for daring to talk to a cute chick?).. yes some people will confront you, and you must be ready for this, you must expect this as part of the process of growing up in life. You have to deal with your anxiety of having people do this sometimes. This is the mark of a real man, a high status male.

DO NOT REACT TO THIS AT ALL … on the contrary!!!

REMEMBER, when you are growing and getting out of your comfort zone, your presence will hit deep inside some people’s frustrations, and they will react inmedieately trying to undermine and shame you for stepping up. RECOGNIZE THIS, not as a negative thing, but a sign post that you are actually reaching a new level and keep going… haters will always hate, you must continue on your path towards greatness!
Have a good week!

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[jimmy18]

Agreed.

"I don't know what the key to success is, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody".

 

[bigneil]

Any time you do something worthwhile, you're going to offend someone.

 

[pipe007]

Interestingly enough I learned this lesson this week while doing game..

I approached this 9HB a bit taller than me... HERE IS THE THING... I approached her in the most genuine way SINCERELY being just social and actually wanting nothing else from her... I was very calibrated and naturally social...
she shook my hand strongly, and she wasn't impressed by my approach (strong masculine polarity/personality on her, first thing I noticed).

well she proceeded to actively and VERY NEGATIVELY attempt to SHAME me and put me down for attempting and daring to try to approach a stranger invading their personal space like that. I could feel this surge of negative energy coming my way that was trying to make me REACT to her... she said with a lot of power "allow me to tell you that no girl will ever appreciate the fact that you are walking up to them like that, and blablabla,and why don't you just try to be yourself? why are you pretending? It was intense she had a lot of personal power

luckily I've done game for so long, and done meditation for so long that I found it amusing, I stook my ground and I told her that I felt disgusted by her silly attempts to shame me. I asked her, did my approach offend you? was I rude?

she stayed quiet. I told her if do not EVER say that to a guy who genouinely approaches you to start a conversation, if I would have been someone else, you would have crushed his confidence for a long time. you are just hating the fact that im free to do as I please without caring what people think, and you hate the fact that you cant do that for yourself, but you wish you did.

she did not know what to say, and said "im don't feel like pursuing this conversation any further am gona walk away... but she couldn't.. she stayed there, for whole 5 minutes. lol I told her. "listen you are the one who is staying here, you can walk away... well she did.....

but damnnn what an experience. this girl wasn't trying to reject me,, she was REALLY HATING on the fact that I was socially free.... and she was ACTIVELY AND PUROSEFULLY attempting to shame me and make me feel inferior

big difference.

 

[jimmy18]

Don't worry about b!tches like that man. You handled it well. What happened is a reflection of HER fvcked up inner state and has nothing to do with you.

To paraphrase Tyler from RSD: "get to the point where you are having so much fun and have such a strong reality/frame that if the girl doesn't want to get involved then it reflects bad on her and makes her look like a loser and social retard to everyone around"

 

[Rave18]

The Man, the Boy, and the Donkey

OP, your post reminded me of the following story.

A Man and his son were once going with their Donkey to market. As they were walking along by its side a countryman passed them and said: “You fools, what is a Donkey for but to ride upon?”

So the Man put the Boy on the Donkey and they went on their way. But soon they passed a group of men, one of whom said: “See that lazy youngster, he lets his father walk while he rides.”

So the Man ordered his Boy to get off, and got on himself. But they hadn’t gone far when they passed two women, one of whom said to the other: “Shame on that lazy lout to let his poor little son trudge along.”

Well, the Man didn’t know what to do, but at last he took his Boy up before him on the Donkey. By this time they had come to the town, and the passers-by began to jeer and point at them. The Man stopped and asked what they were scoffing at. The men said: “Aren’t you ashamed of yourself for overloading that poor Donkey of yours—you and your hulking son?”

The Man and Boy got off and tried to think what to do. They thought and they thought, till at last they cut down a pole, tied the Donkey’s feet to it, and raised the pole and the Donkey to their shoulders. They went along amid the laughter of all who met them till they came to Market Bridge, when the Donkey, getting one of his feet loose, kicked out and caused the Boy to drop his end of the pole. In the struggle the Donkey fell over the bridge, and his fore-feet being tied together he was drowned.

“That will teach you,” said an old man who had followed them: “PLEASE ALL, AND YOU WILL PLEASE NONE."

- Aesop's Fables.

Thank You Useful post.

 

[Jaylan]

This reminds me of a clip from the Boondocks. I dont pay haters any mind.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FhRvWcGbBxE