Bad sign if girl says you're 'adorable'?

[daboss]

A couple years ago I was a graduate student and TA for a science class. The students had to fill out forms to provide feedback to me in the middle of the semester, and one of the girls in my class wrote that I was 'adorable'. I'm not sure if I should've been offended by that as she saw me as not masculine, or if that's a good thing since she was way out of my league. I am still a virgin and have very little dating experience, so she probably was able to tell that easily.

I didn't place too much importance to it at the time since she could've just said that as a way to manipulate me into grading her easier. But she seemed like a nice/honest girl and didn't complain even though she constantly didn't do great on her assignments and I think she got a C in the class.

Should I have gotten in contact with her after class ended, just to see if she really was interested or not? It's too late now since she may have forgotten about me and I now live far from that school

 

[FortunateSon]

A lot of guys say that words like 'sweet, cute and adorable' are negative words and they are to a man because these are everything a man should never aspire to be.

However if a girl calls me any of those things I take it as a compliment, it's not like she is calling you a jerk or something of that ilk.

A compliment or a descriptive word isn't necessarily an accurate measure of what a girl may or may not think of you.

The only way you'll ever know is if you ask her out and she says yes and things progress further from then on.

 

[Greasy Pig]

"Adorable" doesn't scream "I'd fvck his brains out" to me.
It's almost condescending but it still is a compliment I guess.
Hit her up for a drink and find out!

 

[AttackFormation]

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A lot of guys say that words like 'sweet, cute and adorable' are negative words and they are to a man because these are everything a man should never aspire to be.
That's right. It's fine and even positive from time to time if you're otherwise the confident jerk because you become the jerk with a heart of gold, but you don't want to regularily be complimented with the same words she uses for her puppy dog not for no reason but because it's an indicator of how you've behaving

However if a girl calls me any of those things I take it as a compliment, it's not like she is calling you a jerk or something of that ilk.
Being called a jerk is generally a good thing - you have to be masculine to be a jerk

A compliment or a descriptive word isn't necessarily an accurate measure of what a girl may or may not think of you.
I guess it might not be, but probably mostly if you're not sure how to interpret it

 

[SgtSplacker]

"Adorable" is like the first step down the friend zone ladder.

It starts with "Adorable"

Stop trying to be their friend and command their respect.

 

[SeymourCake]

She emasculated you.

 

[FortunateSon]

Attack Formation, you're not wrong, it depends on the girl. Now if I hear cute, adorable or sweet from a girl once I accept it as a compliment, if I hear it more than once then I know I'm in the friendzone and I just write her off and keep her for social networking. I'm not outcome dependent, so I don't care what women think of me and words like adorable sure as hell don't affect me in the same way they affect some other men. I'm learning to stay more grounded, get less emotional and remain rational at all times and it's working. That said, I'd prefer to be called handsome to adorable.

Just one of many learning experiences I've gotten from this forum over the past four years.

 

[El Payaso]

I really don't see the big deal. When a girl calls you adorable, don't get phased by it. Girls will call you all kinds of stuff to get in your head.

 

[Don-Kong]

It's like when baby says, "I love you so fvcking much" and doesn't realise what she is saying. Sometimes the unconscious comes through letting you know how they really feel. Yet, you don't know if this is friend zone stuff or attraction stuff.

It's not a bad sign, here's why:

Women are emotional and romantic and think lots. They have LITTLE control over their minds, fact. You need to find out what adorable means to her. Adorable to a young teenager means something different to a sexy chick who is dating you. How is she thinking about you? Is it sexually orientated? Is it, oh he's such a good buddy, that's nice? Adorable as in, 'I'd smash that' or 'oh look at his dimples'.

Your adorable is worlds apart from her adorable.

Example, a week ago I was on a date with an 8. I was slightly drunk and I said she was cute, as in, I wanna fvck you so bad type cute. She was mortified, because cute was like a puppy in her mind.

Point is find out what it means to her

 

[Kailex]

I've been called "adorable", "nice", "sweet", "cute", etc, etc, etc... you get the idea. And I've had no trouble turning that around into future lays.

It's not about what she says, it's about how you react to her and what she says that really matters. If you are offended or put off by it, then you are definitely helping her form the complete opinion on what she just said.

Learn to respond back when someone calls you "adorable". It's only a friendzone term if you allow it to be.

 

[Dgwizdal]

When my girl gets wasted she constantly tells me that she adores me out of the blue and then proceeds to jam her tongue down my throat and rip my pants off.

Not a bad sign - this word should not be the pivoting point of being friendzoned for you. You should have far more clues to gauge her interest and if you don't; you're doing it wrong.

 

[GS750]

The girl I'm seeing has called me cute, adorbale, handsome, hysterical, etc. On one occasion I said "babies are adorable". She said "I'll call you luscious instead". I don't take any of those things negatively. As long as a girl doesn't say the word "friend" to me, I'm good.

 

[skinnyguy]

A lot of guys say that words like 'sweet, cute and adorable' are negative words and they are to a man because these are everything a man should never aspire to be.

However if a girl calls me any of those things I take it as a compliment, it's not like she is calling you a jerk or something of that ilk.

A compliment or a descriptive word isn't necessarily an accurate measure of what a girl may or may not think of you.

The only way you'll ever know is if you ask her out and she says yes and things progress further from then on.

I would much rather be called a jerk. Jerks get laid all the time. OP is spot on.

 

[CrimsonPanther]

I would much rather be called a jerk. Jerks get laid all the time. OP is spot on.

jerk
op is NOT spot on. people like you who aspire to being jerks are spot on the way to bitterland. don't try so hard, and maybe you will succeed.

look, OP, it doesn't matter what she called you. meet with her, kino and escalate. the results will tell you exactly where you stand.

quit being pvssies and go for it, the worst can happen is to be rejected which is way better than the masochistic friendzone.

jerk is the first sign of insecurity. jerks can get laid, but i saw no jerk that is alpha. wannabe alpha, yes. but not genuine, that gets respect from others. it is never about nice guy vs jerk. both can be morons or smart.

so no worries, don't get caught up in words, that's what girls do. are you a man? act like it.

 

[FortunateSon]

I would much rather be called a jerk. Jerks get laid all the time. OP is spot on.

If you're looking to get laid off poor quality women with more issues than a UN security council meeting then yes, you probably will.

However only low quality men have the life ambition to get laid continuously by different women.

Who would I rather be? Some jerk with who scores with women or a multi-billionaire co-founder of Microsoft who in his youth was too busy building up a successful company rather than scoring lays with poor quality women? I'd choose the latter option every single day of the week.

Then again I'm ambitious and you're clearly not and it shows.