bad move?

[slickjesse]

heeey everyone. i spent this summer using DJ skills on my ex and her interest level has been brought back way up. after wanting me to come visit her all summer (3 hours away...home for college) i finally visited her last weekend. the first night i was there we talked about how she was taking time off this summer from dating cause she feels like she really doesn't know enough about herself and needs time for that. we layed in bed and started talking about everything we did when we were together and how much fun it was. i kissed her and we ended up having some fun (yea). the rest of the weekend was lots of fun. ive been dating lots of beautiful women my life but i have the most fun with her so i want to pursue a LTR. The night i got back she called me just to chat so her IL was obviously still high. the next night i wrote her an email and told her what i thought: im happy that she wants to discover and herself and that thats what everyone our age should be doing and that i agree people dont need another person to be happy but i think we have an understanding and such a good time that would make most people jealous. this derserves a chance to if it would be for the best for us...not now but when shes back for school.

i know it sounds lame but it made me feel better. this weekend she told me how much she loves me and how im the only one she knows or has ever dated that she though actually cared about her and didn't say just what she wanted to hear. was this a terrible move i just made? if so, how bad and what can I do from this point? (just sent it, she hasn't written back yet). thanks - jesse

 

[Slickster]

Well it sounds like you've placed the ball in her court. She has all the control. Not really the best move.

You may get her back, but the fact that she needs to "discover" herself probably means it won't be for long.

Also: Don't discuss relationship stuff through e-mail. Better in person.

 

[slickjesse]

yea, i know the whole "discovering" thing almost sounds like a lame excuse....but i know through tons of things that its not an excuse...everyone just has some points where they evaluate things. its true i put the ball in her court, which is the one thing i dont like but i just felt like it was something i need to let her know.

 

[slickjesse]

anyone else have an opinion?