Bad friends..

[Drow]

College just ended for the summer, and I moved back to my home town.

The problem that exists here has been one of the biggest problems I have faced, and that is my 'friends'. My options of friends and things to do here are very limited. I can either stay at home, and think of things to do (there are plenty but..), or I can hang out with some of these people and actually have some interaction.

I get really bored and want to be around people after so long.. these 'friends' are pretty worthless when it comes to friends. Always constant stupid fighting and retarded sh*t.. I could go on about this..

Hopefully, I wont be here for long.. but I want to know what you guys would do.

Hang out with a bunch of punk friends who don't care about anything really but trying to fight boredom and their selves, OR do my own thing and try to just wait until college starts again.

I think I need people around, and a lot of learning comes from experiences.. but there would be a lot of bad experiences as well..

Any ideas? hope this makes sense

 

[FlyGuy]

I'd probably go out and interact with some NEW people...

 

[USSOCOM]

Ya new people or, you can take lead of the group and bring out the old friend that got you to like them in the first place. How does that grab ya!

 

[sustainable007]

Perhaps some intellectual Self-improvement

Why dont you quit being a pu$$y and take summer classes at your local college or community college??? That would be too easy wouldn't it???

 

[Drow]

Well if there were new people my age to interact with I would.. i'm from a small town and the choices of people are very limited.

I wish it were that easy.

sustainable,
what does that have to do with anything?

 

[leader_greenman]

Ignore sustainable, he is a lame b@stard and posts that stuff on everyone's thread.

Maybe find a place out-of-town that seems like a good place to meet people. You could drop by when you feel like going out, and just see what happens.

 

[TesuqueRed]

Small town is no excuse. Or don't use it that way--we all know the limitations of a small town, but I am amazed at people who don't let a small town (or anything, really) limit them and aren't limited. I jump on that phrase since it's an invidious mindset you have to strangle or it'll strangle you.

I'd say check in with the old friends and see if any one of them has gotten up off their @ss and is moving. Hook up with them and don't waste much time with the rest---it sounds like you know how costly being around them is and really don't want to take 3 steps back.

Summer classes is a great idea.

If the excitement doesn't come to you, you go to where the excitement is, or create it yourself (this is a self-starter or alpha-male attitude.)

Go to the local city and get what you're looking for.

No city nearby? Get a job. Get 2 jobs (both parttime) that require heavy interaction with the public and co-workers (restaraunts, cafes, etc.)

Take up a sport that requires others, or doesn't....soccer. Rock climbing. X-country biking. Hiking.

Guaranteed you'll meet new people. They won't all be in your age group, though. But you'll meet them...

 

[Pap]

One of the most important things for success in any social situation, whether with women, or maybe just being popular on campus...is being friends with the right people. Get friends that can be your wings to help you pickup chicks. Befriend the guys who throw the parties and know the ropes around campus.

You'll notice that pickup and your lifestyle are pretty close intertwined...and also your friends are a mirror representation of who you are and expresses things about your interests if your friends are with you while you are sargin chicks. Be with the IN crowd and make lots of friends and it'll help you get girls.

Cheers,

Papa

http://galileo.spaceports.com/~papa/

 

[sustainable007]

For Leader

I just tell people how it is...A spade is a spade...This guys situation is obvious..he misses the college scene, but he has not yet pursued intellectual fulfillment, and as a result he's surrounded by boring average people...

Eat me leader...

 

[trajhenkhet]

I'm not sure where your coming from but in my personal experience some of my friends accepted the new me. Others didn't. As a consequence I hang around the people that have accepted me a lot more than the ones who didn't. No time for negativity. Gotta get busy with other things.

 

[the_gunslinger]

about friends...

The problem that exists here has been one of the biggest problems I have faced, and that is my 'friends'. My options of friends and things to do here are very limited. I can either stay at home, and think of things to do (there are plenty but..), or I can hang out with some of these people and actually have some interaction.

+++maybe the problem is that you havnt made any real friends, your "friends" are merely people you work with or are in the same boat as you, ie: their in colledge and nervous around new people. i wouldnt worry about it, as people settle down, you can start to make new friends, you will in the 2nd and 3rd years, because people drop their acts and come out to people more.

I get really bored and want to be around people after so long..

+++again, i know that feeling. my mate james was sound, then he's just turned into a whiney little fvcker. my flatmate was the same till i broke his nose.

these 'friends' are pretty worthless when it comes to friends. Always constant stupid fighting and retarded sh*t.. I could go on about this..

+++people act in different ways. i leant that the hard way. Personally, i've found that you cant expect people to work in a way that suits you, you have to give a little and not expect everyone to conform to what you think isnt "retarded" or stuff. The worst thing happening here is that i had to argue with my
d!ckhead flatmates for 3 hours for them to be quiet cos i had an exam the next day. I know it sounds hard when people say "get used to it" but make the most of it. COlledge really is a facenating time to see how people tick.

Hopefully, I wont be here for long.. but I want to know what you guys would do.

+++colledge or in that situation?

Hang out with a bunch of punk friends who don't care about anything really but trying to fight boredom and their selves, OR do my own thing and try to just wait until college starts again.

+++bear in mind they are suppsoed to be your friends, you can't just cut yourself off from them completely or else you'll be back to square 1 next year. personally, i would keep in contact with them, but back off a bit so you can interact with other groups. if you place too much dependence in 1 social group, your options start to get limited.

I think I need people around, and a lot of learning comes from experiences.. but there would be a lot of bad experiences as well..

+++All part of life. Do what works for you.