bad at public speaking (or class presentations), what tips have you?

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I think the majority of teh general public have issues with public speaking. Simply because we rarely get a chance to do it.

Anyway today i had a midterm for my art history class. We had to sit in a circle and discuss about the pieces of the museums that we've visited...generally your opinion, likes & dislikes.

Anyway before i got to class i had dreaded the idea of standing up in front of the class being the center of attention. Anxiety kicked in obviously, a mild form of it. But to my surprise we sat in our chairs in a circle, we eased the tension. We go alphabetical order by name, and with my name im always last. So when it got closer to my name, i lost anxiety. Confident speaking with clarity, using my hands to focus on my points.

So anyway here's the problem: At the beginning of the presentation i was speaking in full sentences fluidly, coherently, and transitioning topics well. But later on, my topic of discussion slowly turned to blobs of ideas, broken sentences, untransitioning..basically pieces here and there. And of course when that happens no one really wants to pay attention to someone who cant communicate efffectively.

This isnt the first time that its happened. In some other class early this semester this happened in addition to anxiety, which was worse cause of my wavering low voice tone. im slowly getting better at this cause in some other class we've been doing this weekly.

I knew my ****, but i chose not to read it off my journals. Still i couldnt construct my speech in my head as fast as my mouth moved...seems easier to do when you write it.

What really constitutes a good public speaker (aside from eye contact and body language)? And how can i fix my problem during my speech?
 

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I've taken a communication's class: it was great. Just a lot of practice.

One of the things that might help you, don't speak so fast, when presenting. No ummms , ahhs, just pause to collect your thoughts.

We practiced doing "impromputus", 2 minute spur of the moment presentations. The prof gives you a random topic, you talk about it. You can try doing this, as it gives you practice. If you can talk about some random topic, you can talk about one that you already know - in the future.
 

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just do it

the more you do it the easier it will become
 

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Originally posted by penkitten
picture everyone nekkid.

if that doesnt work , picture everyone nekkid with stupid hats on.
Dont do that, especially if theres hot chicks in the audience. I once pictured this hot girl in the audience naked, got a stiffy, and it wouldnt go away after my speech, so I had to walk with my hands in my pocket to hide the flagpole from the audience.
 

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The fear/nervousness comes from not knowing what you are going to say, or better said, from not having experienced giving a talk on whatever you are about to said.

Writing a paper is not the same as delivering it as a speech. There are voice inflexions, pauses, places where you need to breathe. In order to know where these all go you need to practice giving the talk beforehand: with a mirror, a friend, or someone who would listen. Then you will be more in control of yourself.

Unlike approaching girls, where we encourage just going up and rolling with the flow, the set parameter of giving a presentation poses different obstacles which make some people nervous.
 

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good replies. i was going to apply for a speech class this semester but chickened out and chose something else. But i guess it wouldnt be a bad thing to take one for next semester.
Defintely would improve my communication skills.
 

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Heres what I do. USe visual aids like powerpoint if at all possible. Throw a little humor into the slides if possible to make it easier. Also on the PP slides have an outline of what you say so you arent confined to following some dialogue as you brief the class. Key points and then hints on your index cards. Study up on what you need to say before hand and if necessary talk to the mirror. Remember Eye contact with the audience and dont just read off a paper, thats boring and causes you to speed up and often lose the line you are on if you pause.
 

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Originally posted by NYtomb
Heres what I do. USe visual aids like powerpoint if at all possible. Throw a little humor into the slides if possible to make it easier. Also on the PP slides have an outline of what you say so you arent confined to following some dialogue as you brief the class. Key points and then hints on your index cards. Study up on what you need to say before hand and if necessary talk to the mirror. Remember Eye contact with the audience and dont just read off a paper, thats boring and causes you to speed up and often lose the line you are on if you pause.
where did you dig this up from?
 

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Originally posted by comic_relief
where did you dig this up from?
I didnt dig this up from anywhere, just typed it up. Its what i did when i gave briefs in the Army for classes, intel briefs, blocks of instruction etc. I use it now as a college student for some of my classes. This is from 1st hand experience.
 

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Originally posted by NYtomb
I didnt dig this up from anywhere, just typed it up. Its what i did when i gave briefs in the Army for classes, intel briefs, blocks of instruction etc. I use it now as a college student for some of my classes. This is from 1st hand experience.
if you need an example i can email you the power point from a brief i gave for an organizational behavior class last week.
 
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