Back to Incel Status :)

[SargeMaximus]

I’m not an incel

This aged well

So I'm back for a minute. Basically I've been an incel since this post. Had sex a grand total of 7 times this year compared to 82 times last year, and over 200 the year before that.

Part of me wants to blame the, I don't even know what you call it, current economic and social climate? Who knows. All I know is it hit me today when my fwb was back in town this weekend and we found each other on the dating app. She says she has a steady BF rn (and yet shes on a dating app), anyhow the fact she didn't want me when last time she was around we were ****ing like rabbits, kinda hit me in the "WTF happened to me?" zone of my brain.

I thought taking some time off of this forum would help. I did find a new fwb for a while but things just ended. Our last convo was about tofu and my last response to that was tofu harms testosterone. No reply and I never reached out, so that was that.

So.... yeah. I just feel a bit lost RN. When I came to this forum the last time, I was abundant with 5-6.5's and looking to up my game. Now I'm an incel that gets laid 7 times in a year. Wtf happened?

In other news, got a new job and making a **** ton of money. Ironically I feel like this has made me an even further beta since I'm an employee again, although I am diverting most of my pay to my investments in my hail mary to get to financial freedom.

Hope you guys are well.

 

[corrector]

You can't claim you are an incel if you are getting laid 7 times a year. It has to be like once a year or less. You don't meet the cut-off.

 

[SargeMaximus]

You can't claim you are an incel if you are getting laid 7 times a year. It has to be like once a year or less. You don't meet the cut-off.

That makes me feel a bit better, thanks, but you see why I feel this way. What a drop

 

[corrector]

That makes me feel a bit better, thanks, but you see why I feel this way. What a drop

No, actually I can't. I haven't been intimate with any woman since my ex-wife in 2014. Neither can I picture or understand going with that many women in the first place. I can't even fake up numbers with prostitutes as I had a near mental melt-down after dealing with one of them.

What it does sound like to me is each encounter you have with women sounds meaningless. I have memorised all of the body-smells of my past ex-gf, ex-wife, and another woman I dealt with in the past. How would you memorise the body-odours of that many women? That's too much. I remember how my ex-gf tits taste like despite being 10 years ago. Every encounter I had meant something.

Anyway, for what its worth, you still had 7 women. I'm trying to find out why that's not a big deal with you that you were vaidated by 7 women who thought you were worthy of their bodies and are able to feel bad about any drop? It just sounds crazy with me.

 

[SargeMaximus]

No, actually I can't. I haven't been intimate with any woman since my ex-wife in 2014. Neither can I picture or understand going with that many women in the first place. I can't even fake up numbers with prostitutes as I had a near mental melt-down after dealing with one of them.

What it does sound like to me is each encounter you have with women sounds meaningless. I have memorised all of the body-smells of my past ex-gf, ex-wife, and another woman I dealt with in the past. How would you memorise the body-odours of that many women? That's too much. I remember how my ex-gf tits taste like despite being 10 years ago. Every encounter I had meant something.

Anyway, for what its worth, you still had 7 women. I'm trying to find out why that's not a big deal with you that you were vaidated by 7 women who thought you were worthy of their bodies and are able to feel bad about any drop? It just sounds crazy with me.

So, I don’t get oneitis anymore (not saying you do, just trying to explain my angle) and I’m extremely selfish after living a life where people **** on me when I’m kind and compassionate. So, I guess I sort of got hurt too many times and now have emotional scars. I’m after results which means p in v.
And, to be fair, I wasn’t with 80 women last year, I only had sex 80 times. Maybe 10-12 women last year I can’t remember.

which brings us back to “how can you be that way?”

i dunno man. I see it as fulfilling my life’s purpose as a male: to ****. That’s the point of life. If I can achieve my financial goals and prolong my **** years that is ideal as well.

maybe I’m just a mess

 

[corrector]

I see it as fulfilling my life’s purpose as a male: to ****.

That’s the point of life. If I can achieve my financial goals and prolong my **** years that is ideal as well.

maybe I’m just a mess

Noted.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Everyone else is more selfish these days. Your ex-fwb, women on the apps, people you know, strangers on the street. I wouldn't say it's you necessarily Serge.

 

[SargeMaximus]

Everyone else is more selfish these days. Your ex-fwb, women on the apps, people you know, strangers on the street. I wouldn't say it's you necessarily Serge.

Thanks bro. As much as I want to avoid being a victim, I do believe sometimes one can indeed be a victim of circumstances. Literally night and day the results I was getting last year vs now

 

[Mike32ct]

A rough average for someone in a relationship is 100 sexual encounters per year (or roughly twice a week).

Your three-year average is still a very decent 96. But your point is well taken about the steep decline during the three-year period.

 

[SargeMaximus]

A rough average for someone in a relationship is 100 sexual encounters per year (or roughly twice a week).

Your three-year average is still a very decent 96. But your point is well taken about the steep decline during the three-year period.

Yes it is very unsettling to me atm. I’m trying to figure out what I can do but I really do think the climate has just shifted. I don’t know if it’ll get back to being how it was

 

[Foe]

So how much is allot of money a year?

Also man I sympathise with you, I've also had the nice guy beaten out of me and now just focus on getting laid. I miss the intimacy of a relationship but I'm being validated by strangers which is some kind of compromise.

I guess in some ways I'm now part of the problem....

 

[Mike32ct]

So how much is allot of money a year?

Maybe starting at $150k-ish.

"Six figures" to a chick doesn't mean $100,001 anymore.

TLDR: $100k is the new 5'10"

 

[member160761]

Focusing on sex and women is effeminate. You are at a point where you quantify your wellbeing by the amount of lays you had. What a joke. You are mentally at a low point and chicks can feel that, this is why even old flings avoid you.

Back in the day, in the Germanic tribes, it was a great SHAME when you had sex before you were 20 as a man. The greatest virtues and achievements were through battle. How low we have fallen. We cannot replicate these times but we can take an example out of this and ask ourselves: Why did the ancients think like this?

 

[SargeMaximus]

So how much is allot of money a year?

Also man I sympathise with you, I've also had the nice guy beaten out of me and now just focus on getting laid. I miss the intimacy of a relationship but I'm being validated by strangers which is some kind of compromise.

I guess in some ways I'm now part of the problem....

If I stay at this job I will have more than doubled wha I made last year. Around 60k this year

 

[SargeMaximus]

Focusing on sex and women is effeminate. You are at a point where you quantify your wellbeing by the amount of lays you had. What a joke. You are mentally at a low point and chicks can feel that, this is why even old flings avoid you.

Back in the day, in the Germanic tribes, it was a great SHAME when you had sex before you were 20 as a man. The greatest virtues and achievements were through battle. How low we have fallen. We cannot replicate these times but we can take an example out of this and ask ourselves: Why did the ancients think like this?

Why are you on a seduction forum if you believe this? Blocking you

 

[member160761]

Why are you on a seduction forum if you believe this? Blocking you

Touched a nerve here, didn't I?

 

[SargeMaximus]

Touched a nerve here, didn't I?

There is a Zen saying:

Before enlightenment: mountains are mountains, and waters are waters.

During enlightenment: mountains are no longer mountains, and waters are no longer waters.

After enlightenment: mountains are once again mountains, and waters are once again waters.

I suspect you are in the “During enlightenment“ phase.

 

[lost_blackbird]

A rough average for someone in a relationship is 100 sexual encounters per year (or roughly twice a week).

Sounds exhausting. Personally, I shall soon see in a full 4 years of celibacy, I don't miss female contact at all.

 

[SW15]

A rough average for someone in a relationship is 100 sexual encounters per year (or roughly twice a week).

An extended relationship isn't worth having if there are fewer than 100 days of sex in a 365 day year. The twice a week metric of sex is valuable.

Most men aren't going to get to 100 days a year of sex on casual sex arrangements and one night stands.

Now I'm an incel that gets laid 7 times in a year. Wtf happened?

If you've had sex 7 days in 2022, how many different women? I agree 7 days of sex isn't good but it isn't yet incel status. One year of no sex is incel status.

 

[corrector]

An extended relationship isn't worth having if there are fewer than 100 days of sex in a 365 day year. The twice a week metric of sex is valuable.

Most men aren't going to get to 100 days a year of sex on casual sex arrangements and one night stands.



If you've had sex 7 days in 2022, how many different women? I agree 7 days of sex isn't good but it isn't yet incel status. One year of no sex is incel status.

Yeah he is not even nearcel.