I have came back and forward to this site numerous times over the years as a lurker but during my time away from I met someone decent and had an amazing little girl. That relationship lasted 6 years and broke down just in time for the annual Christmas party. I was there feeling super confident had the rest of my life In check, working out allot,own a nice house and a nice car etc was in a good place so must of been giving off a good vibe. Now there's 1 chick in my work place who everyone wants to ****. She's quiet but very attractive. She was at this work party and early on during our meal I could see her looking over playing with her hair and earrings when talking to me etc and I remember thinking she's eyeing me up here. Cut forward a few hours and she comes up to me and grabs me by the hand and asks me to go dance with her ( dance floor is opposite end of the bar) so we leave the group and dance away hand in hand with allot of touching and geinding g etc. So soon I get abit tired and say to her let's grab a drink. So bare in mind I've not done this for a while and I'd drank a huge amount of vodka I fall in the first trap I buy her a drink, I know I know but never mind I was feeling confident and didn't care. So we chat for a while about work then i start interviewing her with the usual are u single etc to which she says yes then I say very confidently "so am
I any good to u then " 2nd mistake. She then says that she thought I was spoken for and I reply "I'm not but I have a daughter". She says that's ok most people out age have children so green light! I then say give me your number and we exchange numbers and I get out of there and re-join the rest of the group we continue the party all dancing and drinking etc. Now a few hours later it's time for her to go get her pre-arranged bus home with a few other work mates so they disappear and I make mistake no 3. I txt her to see were she is. She replys she waiting on her bus which is 30mins late and has had to take her shoes off as her feet are sore with all the dancing. So full of alcohol and feeling very confident I reply : forget the bus you should come to mine nobody will know (meaning other work colleague) and I'll drive u home in the morn. She never replied to this txt at all it was ignored. So I sober up feel stupid for not waiting to txt and feel that horrible feeling inside coming that horrible mix of chemicals going round my blood I feel oneistis coming dam this ***** is making me feel 18 again I've not felt this for a long time I kind of like it. So anyways i generally feel sorry for myself for a wk or so . I wasn't at work the wk following as I was on holiday so I went back in after my break on Wednesday and see her a couple of time passing we say hello etc and nothing more. Now Thursday comes and I'm there's a big breakdown and she comes and gets me to fix the machine so I fix it and afterwards I'm standing checking the machine she comes over and stand really close to me and we start talking about various things and the party etc she says she had a really good time but her feet had blisters from dancing with me etc not once is the txt I sent about coming to mine mentioned by either of us. So I keep the topic and conversation on her asking her how old she is etc keeping things ****y and funny and she is moving closer as I am asking her questions and agin she seems really into me so then I end it saying machine is fine and I have to go and I disappear.
Now I've read many things over the years and read over things this wk but still I'm in too minds what to do:
Now it's been 2 wk since I got her number And apart from the night I got it and txt I haven't txt again (because she didn't reply)
Will this of harmed my chances??
I was hoping she would of cracked and txt me by now if she was interested and considering how she seems into me I person but she hasn't so is she actually not into me??
Do I txt her again now and try and build some more rapport and try for a date
Or
Do I try and keep flirting with her at work and wait till we are face to face at work and ask her then for a date ( this feels abit unprofessional)
Normally I wouldn't care less and would of txt her again a few days after or I would of txt calling her out but as she is a colleague I kind of need to stay on speaking terms with her as I will be dealing with her on a daily basis when she starts her new role
Another point is she hasn't told anyone at work i tried to get her to mine or we exchanged numbers is this significant? I couldn't care less if people know but don't wanna push things to hard and make work awkward
Any tips? Or is it time to draw a line under this one even though I'd really like to **** her and admit I made 3 big mistakes move on and find more girls
I any good to u then " 2nd mistake. She then says that she thought I was spoken for and I reply "I'm not but I have a daughter". She says that's ok most people out age have children so green light! I then say give me your number and we exchange numbers and I get out of there and re-join the rest of the group we continue the party all dancing and drinking etc. Now a few hours later it's time for her to go get her pre-arranged bus home with a few other work mates so they disappear and I make mistake no 3. I txt her to see were she is. She replys she waiting on her bus which is 30mins late and has had to take her shoes off as her feet are sore with all the dancing. So full of alcohol and feeling very confident I reply : forget the bus you should come to mine nobody will know (meaning other work colleague) and I'll drive u home in the morn. She never replied to this txt at all it was ignored. So I sober up feel stupid for not waiting to txt and feel that horrible feeling inside coming that horrible mix of chemicals going round my blood I feel oneistis coming dam this ***** is making me feel 18 again I've not felt this for a long time I kind of like it. So anyways i generally feel sorry for myself for a wk or so . I wasn't at work the wk following as I was on holiday so I went back in after my break on Wednesday and see her a couple of time passing we say hello etc and nothing more. Now Thursday comes and I'm there's a big breakdown and she comes and gets me to fix the machine so I fix it and afterwards I'm standing checking the machine she comes over and stand really close to me and we start talking about various things and the party etc she says she had a really good time but her feet had blisters from dancing with me etc not once is the txt I sent about coming to mine mentioned by either of us. So I keep the topic and conversation on her asking her how old she is etc keeping things ****y and funny and she is moving closer as I am asking her questions and agin she seems really into me so then I end it saying machine is fine and I have to go and I disappear.
Now I've read many things over the years and read over things this wk but still I'm in too minds what to do:
Now it's been 2 wk since I got her number And apart from the night I got it and txt I haven't txt again (because she didn't reply)
Will this of harmed my chances??
I was hoping she would of cracked and txt me by now if she was interested and considering how she seems into me I person but she hasn't so is she actually not into me??
Do I txt her again now and try and build some more rapport and try for a date
Or
Do I try and keep flirting with her at work and wait till we are face to face at work and ask her then for a date ( this feels abit unprofessional)
Normally I wouldn't care less and would of txt her again a few days after or I would of txt calling her out but as she is a colleague I kind of need to stay on speaking terms with her as I will be dealing with her on a daily basis when she starts her new role
Another point is she hasn't told anyone at work i tried to get her to mine or we exchanged numbers is this significant? I couldn't care less if people know but don't wanna push things to hard and make work awkward
Any tips? Or is it time to draw a line under this one even though I'd really like to **** her and admit I made 3 big mistakes move on and find more girls
