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Got this in an email today and it's a pretty good breakdown for the newbies why girls act mean at lot of times:
Now onto today's life changing newsletter!
This concept is very important for you to understand. Read
this email twice if you have to.
You must realize that beautiful women literally get hit on all
the time by men that don't know what they are doing.
It has been said that from the ages of 19 to 23, a beautiful
woman gets hit on at least 7,500 times!
How many of those guys do you think she actually has
value for? Probably not a whole hell of a lot.
Beautiful women are so tired of being opened with the
same line and they are so sick of talking about where they
work, live, sleep, eat, breathe, etc.
Those topics are not emotionally stimulating for women.
Now don't get me wrong, there is a time and place to ask
questions that relate to those topics because they build
rapport with women, but they don't do much to build attraction
in the first 3 to 5 minutes.
If you approach a woman asking these kinds of questions,
she will automatically bunch you into the category of a regular
guy that she has seen a million times.
You're essentially MR. BORING!
She then will do everything she is programmed to do over
the years to get out of talking to you.
Her: "Oh really. I have a boyfriend" or "I have to
go to the bathroom Stacy."
Those are the kinds of responses you get when you approach
women and immediately start asking those kinds of questions.
So what do you do? You come up with openers and things
to say that are fascinating, different than she has already heard
a million times, and you speak with enthusiasm and passion.
I guarantee that you will start hearing less of those automated
responses barreling out of her mouth if you are different than all
the other guys.
Empathy Exercise
Pretend that you are a beautiful woman for a second. I
know....it's weird but just do it. We have to see things from
a woman's perspective for a second.
Visualize that you are 19 years old (you are Canadian) and
you are getting ready to go to your first club. You're excited
and interested to see what all the hype is about. You arrive with
all your girlfriends in a tight pink dress, glitter on your face, and
high heels on.
Over the course of the night you had about 15 different guys
come up and talk to you. They were nice but you ended up
talking about the same thing over and over. You gave out your
phone number 9 times and had a lot of fun.
Flash forward 1 year into the future.
You now would consider yourself a "party girl" and you
frequent clubs and bars 3 times a week. Now you're used
to guys coming up to you and you have developed tactics to
ignore them.
You are basically indifferent to many men.
Flash forward 3 years into the future.
You now have been out to the clubs hundreds of times
and have developed and perfected tactics and techniques for
blowing off men that you THINK are not potential suitors for
you of who don't qualify as one of the "COOL GUYS."
If a guy opens you with, "Excuse me. I just wanted to tell
you that you are gorgeous. Can I buy you a drink?" You know
exactly what to say and do to get rid of him or tool him.
Here are some different tactics that you could choose from
to get rid of him:
1. "Sure. Get me a shot of patron please." Then you talk
to him for 3 minutes out of curtsy, down the drink, and then
tell your girlfriends that you really need to use the bathroom.
2. "**** off." It's weird because this is kind of mean but
for time management purpose THIS WORKS FOR YOU!
No guy challenges you when you say this and they just slunk
off with their shoulders down and walk away.
3. "Uh.....is that your best pickup line? You've been
watching too much of that Pickup Artist show on VH1."
Alright. Now you can stop thinking that you're a woman.
I give you permission
Notice how at 19 she is friendly to guys because she is not
socially savvy yet. Then she becomes indifferent when she gets
a bit of experience under her belt, and after enough time and after
she has grown accustomed to men coming up to her
constantly, she gets hostile or says things that are kind of mean.
In all actuality, she may not be that mean at all. She has just
programmed herself with tactics and techniques to get rid of
men that she doesn't perceive as having any value.
Most likely the programming develops on an unconscious
level. She doesn't even have to think about her response
anymore because it has become completely automated.
Do you understand now why she does things to protect
herself?
Remember that she can not possibly give every guy a first
date that comes up to her.
Side Fact:
If you are in a bar and it's packed with more men than women,
some women actually get scared! I have been out with many
women in bars that I have dated or are friends with and they can
verify this to be true.
So even if you approach correctly and do everything right, you
may still get a really nasty response, so don't take it personally.
Until next time,
Andy Anderson
http://www.SocialChemistry.net
