AW's playing the role of a victim???

[TruthTeller]

Do AW's play the role of a victim if they dont get their way from us guys??

Cuz from my experience, it seems that attention *****s find their way to get my attention. Then they think they have me wrapped up and hooked. But since I neva trusted females except my mother, I usually sense it and stop all contact. Then it varies from 1week to even a month where she contacts me back thru calling and/or texting.

Then I had a few of them play the victim card so what do I do? I decide to play along so I can check these females.

Have you guys ever gotten any AW's pissed off at you becuz she thought u would start chasing her down like she did to you since she thought u were going to be a wuss and start calling her everyday looking for her??

 

[KontrollerX]

Yes.

Thats what they are most good at and it is a big part of their appeal for guys so that a guy can live out his knight in shining armor rescue the damsel in distress fantasy.

That or worse the guy is vicariously trying to save himself through saving the broken girl in front of him. He doesn't consciously realize this is the reason she appeals to him so deeply but it is one of the reason guys with a certain kind of sickness themselves are drawn to AW's.

Anyway AW's game at doing this varies but one of the most mean spirited cruel and callous ways they will prey on a man's emotions is to say they were sexually victimized either raped or molested by a family member or someone. It is callous and cruel to make this lie up not only because of its manipulative nature to prey on the man's caring nature but also the lie trivializes female victims of abuse that were actually abused.

Like say a guy who is victimized by an AW finds out what a piece of garbage messed up woman she really is he then might mistakenly think all women who say they have been abused are liars or lying for some hidden cruel agenda when its just not the case. This is how AW's lies hurt more than just their male victims but the reputations of innocent women as well because an AW's effect on a guy who doesn't know what he is dealing with is so strong.

"Have you guys ever gotten any AW's pissed off at you becuz she thought u would start chasing her down like she did to you since she thought u were going to be a wuss and start calling her everyday looking for her??
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Most guys do the chasing once she coldly breaks it off with no explanation when you thought you two were closer than ever.

Through denial and dissociation, devalue and discard you become nothing to the AW.

She automatically uses these psychological protection mechanisms because she fears or literally cannot deal with true intimacy and closeness on a deep level so she pushes the men who truly love her away and goes for the stereotypical guy that treats her like sh!t or just a new guy in general so she can get wrapped up in his personality becoming someone new since they lack a fully developed personality of their own.

They also push people who love them away for a kind of vicarious revenge on their mother's for their lack of love to them when they were an infant.

AW's become AW's not through sexual abuse but through a disconnect experienced with their mother at the age of two.

The mother not returning the child's gaze of love with her own love and empathy damages and is deeply traumatic to the growing child's mind so they chase that love and attention their whole life through men but repeat the process their mother started when the men fall in love and look to get their love returned by the AW.

 

[TruthTeller]

Kontroller X. Thats a good post.

I also believe AW's are smarter than we think and if u dont cave into their web of them conquering u?, they will find ways to get their attention from u. Its either u call them out on it or u play their game and Im just the type that will not play mind games with chics. So what do I do instead is NOTHING. And guess what guys it does wonders for me becuz these AW's start looking like pitiful afc#s to the extreme. It sad I've gone thru this but my motto has always been to protect my heart even tho these chics think Im digging them hard. So in actuality I mirror their actions becuz my iL wasnt that high to begin wit either with AW's or normal chics.

 

[DJDamage]

Good Post KontrollerX.

I would also like to add that the victim role is an effective sh1t test weapon the AW learned to use to her advantage. When I was seeing this AW (prior to sosuave), this girl got away with her bad behaviour towards me because I couldn't get mad on her when I saw that she was suffering. See this girl had bpd and she often got depressed and cried alot so you are automatically put in a position of the bad guy if you try to question her odd behaviour and her treatment of you. You either accept her for who she was or walk away. I choose to accept her for who she was and she ended up walking all over me like a door mat.

Ironically if I would have treated her with indifference and only put up with her when she would please me, not only would she have respected me more but she would see that her sh1t don't fly with me and either take off on me rather quickly (when AW sees she can't get attention from you she goes to find the next chump/surrogate boyfriend who is available) or actually be genuinely interested in me.

 

[mtnkng]

Kontroller X. Thats a good post.

I also believe AW's are smarter than we think and if u dont cave into their web of them conquering u

Im not so sure they may be smarter than we think. PDs apparently are very adept at perceiving their targets emotions and vulnerabilities. They know how to manipulate the victim extraordinarily well.

I wouldn't necessarily attribute this to intelligence, but rather a learned gift of perception and manipulation. For that reason, its best to steer clear of them. You don't want them in your head - nothing good will come of it.