AW or interested?

[JMoneyINC.]

I'm going to try and make this short.

I met this girl at college, mutual class. After a test I approached her and asked her how she did. From there on, she started to sit next to me in class and what not.

Asked her if she had b/f, she said yea. Week later, asked her if she wanted to go to the bar, she agreed. I was getting ready to leave, she gave me her email and said let me know what classes your taking next semester.

Emailed her, gave her my schedule, and phone number.

She texts me, saying hey here's my number, looking forward to another semester.

I guess the question becomes, is this chick just an AW, wanting some random attention? I mean she has a b/f why go to such lengths, giving me her email, sitting by me, etc.?

Or is she interested? If so, what's the consensus on messing around with another dudes girl on this forum (right/wrong)? I usually wouldn't, but she might be the exception.

Thanks for the help.

 

[Strelok]

I don't see any romance,flirts or anything,just two people sending emails and texting about school related stuff.

It happen with same sex friends too,she probably just wants to have a friend,did u try to have some contact to see her reaction?
Anyway if she really has a boyfriend let it go,it's not worth and most of all even if you get her you lose cause you get a b1tch.

 

[5string]

Sounds like she's interested in you, and not the BF.

Looks like you are the next guy in line. Classic case of branch swinging.

 

[neghitzbrah]

She's very forward. Looks like she's interested in you.

1. She sat next to you.
2. She agreed to go to a BAR with you.
3. She gave you her e-mail address.
4. She took the initiative to text you.

I'm interested to see how this turns out. Let us know how things turn out for you.

 

[RSanders219]

Just because she gives you her number, agrees to hangout, and sits next to you doesn't necessarily mean she's an AW. She might just be looking to be friends. I would say definitely follow through with the hangout and see where things go from there.

There's also the possibility her BF might just be a boring dude and she wants to find someone else, that's where you come in!

 

[JMoneyINC.]

I don't see any romance,flirts or anything,just two people sending emails and texting about school related stuff.

It happen with same sex friends too,she probably just wants to have a friend,did u try to have some contact to see her reaction?
Anyway if she really has a boyfriend let it go,it's not worth and most of all even if you get her you lose cause you get a b1tch.

I wanted to the keep the post short, but there is definitely some flirting. I obviously try not to go overboard with it, because bottom line, im the prize not her. Don't want her feeling too special hahahaha.

Thanks for the post man.

 

[JMoneyINC.]

Sounds like she's interested in you, and not the BF.

Looks like you are the next guy in line. Classic case of branch swinging.

I was thinking the same thing. Would you suggest the best form of action would be to continue to spin plates, and let the relationship run its course or initiate something or see where it goes? NC was also an option I was leaning towards.

Thanks for the advice.

 

[JMoneyINC.]

She's very forward. Looks like she's interested in you.

1. She sat next to you.
2. She agreed to go to a BAR with you.
3. She gave you her e-mail address.
4. She took the initiative to text you.

I'm interested to see how this turns out. Let us know how things turn out for you.

Right man, breaking it down like that puts it into a better prospective. I'll definitely keep you updated.

Thanks for the post man.

 

[JMoneyINC.]

Just because she gives you her number, agrees to hangout, and sits next to you doesn't necessarily mean she's an AW. She might just be looking to be friends. I would say definitely follow through with the hangout and see where things go from there.

There's also the possibility her BF might just be a boring dude and she wants to find someone else, that's where you come in!

So true. However, I definitely don't want to be friends with someone I'm attracted to, I just don't see that working out. I'm leaning towards the ladder though, her b/f does seem rather boring.

Thanks.

 

[RSanders219]

So true. However, I definitely don't want to be friends with someone I'm attracted to, I just don't see that working out. I'm leaning towards the ladder though, her b/f does seem rather boring.

Thanks.

I see where you're coming from here, and you definitely have potential to raise IL when you two go out. But even if things do not work out and she just wants to be friends, think of her as an asset. An attractive girl you can hangout with and get girls that are attracted to you jealous, therefore raising IL from other girls.. (Who might be just as, or more attractive)

I have plenty of attractive girl friends and this works for me all the time. The other night I was out at a bar kicking it to this pretty cute girl, she turned to talk to her friends and I just got bored and joined 2 of my friends at a table (who happen to be attractive girls). She kept staring over at me the rest of the night and I would just smile back at her. Letting her know "Hey I'm having a good time over here.. If you don't want to talk, that's cool!" Needless to say, I didn't number close.. But I demonstrated to her that I have the power to walk away if she bores me no matter how attractive she is. Something that a lot of these types of girls need to learn.

 

[JMoneyINC.]

think of her as an asset.

Wow so true, never even thought of it like that. But now that you mention it, I've seen exactly what you just said work out first hand. I was just under the impression I was working it, but in reality, she was doing all the work for me.

Great post man, thanks.

 

[JMoneyINC.]

Can anyone suggest the best plan of attack for this situation if she IS interested? I was thinking about just going in for a kiss after a night at the bars and see where it goes from there???
Thanks.

 

[Johnnyventana]

When you go to the bar -- employ Kino. And be interesting. Mostly you can accomplish that by listening. Try to slightly steer the conversation into more sexual stuff. Don't be her buddy. Her pal.

 

[jafyk]

Lol, well I'd say that you should go for the kiss as this will show you what she might be wanting from you.
Now, if she rejects you then she might just be wanting friendship in which case if you can handle it without catching a bout of one-itis like I did (more on that later) then she can be an asset. If you can't handle it then you should get out quick before the one-itis gets into your system.
I met a girl (she says she has a BF) at school we've been going out for food and drinks, she comes to work to see me, even texts me like 7am. Anyway, I'm really into her and I know she enjoys my company...and then I caught one-itis and ended up puking my feelings on her. Then she suspended me for a few days saying she needed to be alone. So, 4 days later she contacts me saying she hopes that by now my feelings are gone, lol. To which I told her my feelings are my problem and I will deal with them. Anyway, this past weekend we went to a party. She came to my place to pick me up the next day and we shopped. Anyway, some have said I'm in ahopeless situation and others say I need to cut contact and resume it and try to redirect things. I'm going for the latter option. I'm on day 2 and I'm already having withdrawal symptoms. She was sending me an IM on facebook today and it was tough to ignore her but I did. yesterday she texted me and I haven't responded yet.
Maybe, it's not correct to say we are sort of going through the same thing but I'd like to follow up on your story while I'm attempting to do my one week of no contact. This might even be hard to do considering she knows where I work (at school) and she could just show up unannounced. (I feel so stuck, lol)
I know some here will say I should spin plates, and I agree. I was out on 3 dates last week and although I'm only in touch with one of them (I'm not getting any vibes from her that she wants something romantic). My point is building up the plates to spin to begin with can be hard. Especially if there's a girl who enjoys your company but is either really not wanting to be more than friends or is just really playing hard to get.

 

[sirBill]

Similar situation here.

She does all the work, texts me to set stuff up and doesn't flake. We have a really good time together. We've been doing exercise classes together and a bunch of other date-like stuff and I'm having a good time.

She has a bf, and lies to him about hanging out with me. We make eye-contact like crazy and I definitely keep the conversations sexual. The only problem is anytime I go to escalate physically she doesn't let it happen.

Do I have one-itus for her? No, I have other plates spinning and don't see her very often. Is she using me? Perhaps, and I'm certainly looking like a surrogate boyfriend, but I have a good time too, and I'm not losing sleep over her. Am I in the friends zone? ****, I don't know, she sends a lot of buying signals, but they are all mixed, so as long as she's doing most of the work to set stuff up and I'm having a good time I'll keep hanging out with her and try to escalate. Seems pretty simple.

 

[jafyk]

Similar situation here.

She does all the work, texts me to set stuff up and doesn't flake. We have a really good time together. We've been doing exercise classes together and a bunch of other date-like stuff and I'm having a good time.

She has a bf, and lies to him about hanging out with me. We make eye-contact like crazy and I definitely keep the conversations sexual. The only problem is anytime I go to escalate physically she doesn't let it happen.

The 2nd half of this is my experience as well (about not letting things escalate). She does most of the initiating and even picks me up. We do have fun. People are even asking me about her as if we are together, lol.

 

[jafyk]

JMoneyInc, so any updates on this situation of yours?

 

[JMoneyINC.]

JMoneyInc, so any updates on this situation of yours?

Here's a brief update. Went to the bar again with her, but this time with mutual friends. Sat down, she sat next to me. Initiated kino, she was accepting, didn't move from my touch, but actually seemed to lean into it.

While there, mutual friend commented on "how it's obvious we like each other." Supposedly she blushed, (couldn't tell, I was sitting behind her) by mutual friend's comment of "your both blushing."

Left bar, walked her to her car (we park in the same lot). That was that. Plan to go in for the kill within the week. Will def keep you updated.

 

[JMoneyINC.]

Similar situation here.

She does all the work, texts me to set stuff up and doesn't flake. We have a really good time together. We've been doing exercise classes together and a bunch of other date-like stuff and I'm having a good time.

She has a bf, and lies to him about hanging out with me. We make eye-contact like crazy and I definitely keep the conversations sexual. The only problem is anytime I go to escalate physically she doesn't let it happen.

Do I have one-itus for her? No, I have other plates spinning and don't see her very often. Is she using me? Perhaps, and I'm certainly looking like a surrogate boyfriend, but I have a good time too, and I'm not losing sleep over her. Am I in the friends zone? ****, I don't know, she sends a lot of buying signals, but they are all mixed, so as long as she's doing most of the work to set stuff up and I'm having a good time I'll keep hanging out with her and try to escalate. Seems pretty simple.

Bro, pretty much the story of my life hahaha. I figure I'm just going to keep doing what I'm doing, because as it stands now, I really have nothing to lose, but almost everything to gain.

Thanks for the post man.

 

[sirBill]

No problem dude! Best of luck.

I think that if I had to pick a piece of knowledge to give back to this community it would be to not get too caught up in winning or losing, and to just have fun with it. If you make it your goal to go out and meet as many interesting people as possible, get to know them, be genuine, and be the best version of yourself you can be you're going to be just fine.

I'll post back with how things go, I've turned up the heat on this girl lately with suggestive conversations and kino and am trying to lock on for the kill. It's been fun, I felt a turning point the other day when she playfully pushed me as we were walking around and joking and said "hey you, what's up with you lately, you've been acting different" with a big smile on her face. I told her she was crazy and to stop walking so slow. lol