Avoiding STDs

[coolhandj2290]

Hi!

I want to **** a bunch of chicks and not necessarily get into relationships with them. I have one major paranoia though: STDs. My plan is to get tested with the girl before every physical relationship I get into.

I would do something like get hot and heavy with her until we're making out hardcore and she's rubbing my pen0r against my pants, then say something like, "Look, ____, there are a lot of guys out there who are going to want to get physical with you but you have no idea where they've been or who they've been with, or what they have. My point is, I think the smart thing to do is to get tested before we get any more physical."

My question is: Am I being too paranoid? Is it possible to bang lots of girls with such a policy or would it be a major hindrance? The way I see it, all it takes is sleeping with one wrong girl to get genital herpes, which is incurable. I don't want that. I want to avoid that at all costs.

Thanks for the help, guys

P.S. Yes, of course I would always wear a condom.

 

[JimMac]

use a condom, or you'll have to get tested to be sure.

 

[coolhandj2290]

use a condom, or you'll have to get tested to be sure.

Definitely a good idea. I'd always use a condom. But it doesn't prevent against all STDs. I want more security than that.

Would getting tested before every physical relationship make it next to impossible to have fbuddy relationships?

Does anyone here have this policy or do you just use a condom and not worry about it?

 

[Hughman]

I'd think that would blow it if you asked her for a test. Use a condom until you're in a LTR. Plus she might not be on reliable birth control, if any.

 

[coolhandj2290]

I'd think that would blow it if you asked her for a test. Use a condom until you're in a LTR. Plus she might not be on reliable birth control, if any.

Well, I'd try hard to not make it seem like I think she's a *****. We'd both get tested. Also, birth control is not an issue. Don't consider it in your assessment.

Condoms are great but they're not perfect. I don't want to get some test results one day, find out i have herpes, and regret not getting tested before EVERY physical relationship I got into.

 

[Scars]

I think you're being a little paranoid. There are safe ways to have sex without having to test every girl you bed with. Firstly, just be smart about who you're with. If the girl has a reputation, you're going to find out about it sooner or later. You should be able to distinguish a slutty girl from an averagely horny one anyways. Aside from that, always use condoms. No matter what. They can't prevent everything, but they can still prevent a lot. Most STDs are curable. I've had mulluscum contagious, it took 6 months but now it's completely gone. I've also had a yeast infection unfortunately (yes, it's possible for men..) but that has also gone away. Both I got while having PROTECTED sex. There's also a few guys on here I know that have suffered gonorrhea and chlamydia.. but both can be cured by a prescribed pill from the doctor. The main ones you need to really watch out for are herpes and HIV. Obviously if you feel sores, or see slight indications of scars, that should be a red flag. A lot of times people won't know they have an STD, so always get checked regularly. If you only plan on having sex with LTR girls, then perhaps you could get away with trying to get her tested. However if you think any random girl is going to go out of her way to hand you a paper saying she is clean just to have sex with you then good luck with that my friend.

 

[coolhandj2290]

Thanks for the reply, Scars.

Any othere opinions/comments are welcome!

 

[Captain]

Always use a condom, unless you have seen her STD test.

 

[pLaYtHiNg]

I think it's an excellent idea!

 

[horaholic]

Taking showers immediately before sex helps too. It's what licensed hookers practice. It at least washes the top layer of any germs., and immediately after sex, wash your whole crotch area with antibacterial soap. Nothings gauranteed, but it lessens the chances.

 

[DonJuan11]

Hi!

I want to **** a bunch of chicks and not necessarily get into relationships with them. I have one major paranoia though: STDs. My plan is to get tested with the girl before every physical relationship I get into.

I would do something like get hot and heavy with her until we're making out hardcore and she's rubbing my pen0r against my pants, then say something like, "Look, ____, there are a lot of guys out there who are going to want to get physical with you but you have no idea where they've been or who they've been with, or what they have. My point is, I think the smart thing to do is to get tested before we get any more physical."

Girl: "Cool Hand, I am so comfortable on this couch, I think I love you."

CoolHand: "Look girl, I don't know how much of a slut you are, but I ain't taking no chances. Lets go get tested with long needles in the doctors office right away before we go any further because it ain't no thang but a chicken wing."

I don't think that would sound very sexy to a girl who is about to take her clothes off for you. If you are that worried about it, use a condom or go get tested before hand. Don't bring it up while she is rubbing this and that, it will kill her libido faster than the RoadRunner.

My question is: Am I being too paranoid? Is it possible to bang lots of girls with such a policy or would it be a major hindrance? The way I see it, all it takes is sleeping with one wrong girl to get genital herpes, which is incurable. I don't want that. I want to avoid that at all costs.

Thanks for the help, guys

With "such a policy"? Is this a business transaction?

Again, use a condom. Your laziness is using one is pathetic.

 

[oakraiderz2]

Definitely a good idea. I'd always use a condom. But it doesn't prevent against all STDs. I want more security than that.

Would getting tested before every physical relationship make it next to impossible to have fbuddy relationships?

Does anyone here have this policy or do you just use a condom and not worry about it?

Dude, wanting to bang a lot of girls and having a gay ass policy like this dont compute. Condoms are the only way to protect your sh*t. Youre paranoid because you dont know jack sh*t about any of this. Google all this information or dont have sex.

 

[Duffdog]

I just ask the girl straight up right before sex if she has ever had anything or has anything. A couple of times the girl was honest about things she had and I just told her "sorry, you can suck my d1ck, but thats it." There is no guarantee that she won't lie, but its better than nothing.

 

[Captain]

I always wear a condom, no matter what she says, because women can and will lie.

 

[Unbridled_Phoenix]

I 2nd that.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

The Myth of the Dodged Bullet

In my lifetime I've had sex with over 40 women and I never once caught a venerial disease, nor did I get anyone pregnant. I can also point to men I know who contracted Herpes from the only women they'd ever had sex with. The fact of the matter is that you can equally be a rock star and tap hundreds of women without any consequence and you can be a virginic saint and contract a disease on your wedding night. The myth of the dodged bullet is an AFC social convention that's rooted in the rationalization that monogamy serves the purpose for controlling sexually transmitted diseases and thus fewer partners are more desirable than many. From a statistical standpoint this may seem logical on the surface. Fewer opportunities for sexual intercourse would indeed decrease the risk from a single individual, but unfortunately this isn't a practical estimate. You'll also have to base the numbers not only on how many sex partners you and your monogamous partner have had, but also how many prior partners they've had and how many those partners had as well and so on exponentially. Yet inspite of all this, the odds that you'll die from a form of cancer, heart disease, smoking or obesety related diseases or even an alcohol related traffic fatality far outweigh any risk of dying from a venerial disease in western society. The mortality rate of contracting gonnerhea, syphilis, clymidia, herpes and even HIV pale in comparison to many - in some cases more easily preventable - diseases.

Of course, since this is a social convention, I would be grossly negligent and severely criticized by the public at large for even implying that I'm condoning, much less advocating, that a man explore his options and open his experience up to having sex with multiple partners. This AFC social convention/rationalization is unassailable; it sounds like it makes good sense, "boy, am I sure glad I got married/shacked up/limited my sexual potential and didn't catch a disease, pffew!" It sounds like conviction, when in fact it's a rationalization for a lack of other realistic options with women or an innability to deal with a fear of rejection from multiple sources. Beware of turning your lack of game into a virtue, you're only fooling yourself.

And yes, wear a condom. Every time. Especially when she says "don't put that on, I want to FEEEEL you!"

 

[godofanxiety]

I had a crappy situation, my ex gf, the only woman I've had sex with, was to put it mildly, the queen of histrtionic *****s of hell. And she seemed so nice. The point is that OP is not wrong to be very cautious about whom he's getting it on with. The statistics don't mean ****, I had one woman and I'm lucky not to have anything.

OP, testing before sex has one flaw, the window period, I think it's called in English. She could be clean on paper, but since AIDS and heps need at least a month to show in blood, you should use condoms with everyone, until you reach a level of trust where you can reasonably assume that she's alright.
And you should take your time. Of course, oral sex is a high risk activity.

But don't fall to deep into paranoia, like I have, just be smart.

 

[Duffdog]

The Myth of the Dodged Bullet

In my lifetime I've had sex with over 40 women and I never once caught a venerial disease, nor did I get anyone pregnant. I can also point to men I know who contracted Herpes from the only women they'd ever had sex with. The fact of the matter is that you can equally be a rock star and tap hundreds of women without any consequence and you can be a virginic saint and contract a disease on your wedding night. The myth of the dodged bullet is an AFC social convention that's rooted in the rationalization that monogamy serves the purpose for controlling sexually transmitted diseases and thus fewer partners are more desirable than many. From a statistical standpoint this may seem logical on the surface. Fewer opportunities for sexual intercourse would indeed decrease the risk from a single individual, but unfortunately this isn't a practical estimate. You'll also have to base the numbers not only on how many sex partners you and your monogamous partner have had, but also how many prior partners they've had and how many those partners had as well and so on exponentially. Yet inspite of all this, the odds that you'll die from a form of cancer, heart disease, smoking or obesety related diseases or even an alcohol related traffic fatality far outweigh any risk of dying from a venerial disease in western society. The mortality rate of contracting gonnerhea, syphilis, clymidia, herpes and even HIV pale in comparison to many - in some cases more easily preventable - diseases.

Of course, since this is a social convention, I would be grossly negligent and severely criticized by the public at large for even implying that I'm condoning, much less advocating, that a man explore his options and open his experience up to having sex with multiple partners. This AFC social convention/rationalization is unassailable; it sounds like it makes good sense, "boy, am I sure glad I got married/shacked up/limited my sexual potential and didn't catch a disease, pffew!" It sounds like conviction, when in fact it's a rationalization for a lack of other realistic options with women or an innability to deal with a fear of rejection from multiple sources. Beware of turning your lack of game into a virtue, you're only fooling yourself.

And yes, wear a condom. Every time. Especially when she says "don't put that on, I want to FEEEEL you!"

I agree with your premise that many men use the threat of STD's as a way to rationalize their inability to score with women they want, but it still sucks to go to the bathroom in the morning and piss blood because you have an infection. It hurts...terribly. It makes you wonder if you want to continue fvcking random females like you have been or if you should stop and just pick a clean one.

But then you have to weigh your options: 1) never have sex with any hot girls and jack off the rest of your life till you get married. or 2) enjoy your life and take the risk as it comes, making no apologies for the life you live.

 

[coolhandj2290]

Well, after a bunch of research, I've made up my mind.

Yes, I plan on getting tested with every partner before the relationship turns physical and every 3-6 months thereafter while in the relationship. It has always been my plan to wear a condom, ALWAYS, when having sex. Will this reduce the amount of sexual partners I can have? Yes. Will one night stands be an option? No. But, I'm fine with that. My health is more important. And yes, I realize that this isn't foolproof. It's impossible to completely avoid STDs but I think this will do a LOT to help. Like I mentioned previously, the way I see it, all it takes is sex one time with one chick who has herpes or some other incurable STD and it could be passed on to me. Then, I have to live with that for the rest of my life. I'd rather give up a few nights of sex and dramatically lower my chances of getting an incurable STD.

Thank you for all of your input.

Edit: If you do decide to get tested for STDs, specifically request a full test

 

[The_Reaper]

Best of luck, man.

I'm seriously considering ending one night stands, because the type of girl who is willing to bang on the first night is the type of girl who's likely to have, or have had, an STI.

Herpes is TERRIFYING.