johnny_br4vo
New Member
hi world,
1st of all i'd like to introduce myself: 29, male, living in vienna/austria. please excuse my spelling!
my life has been kind of confusing for about 1 1/2 years now. for sure caused by a nice blonde one... arghh.
facts: i've been TRYING and trying. in the beginning it was from her side like "hm, i'm not sure, there's still another guy". then she said "no way". ok - i was DOWN but i could handle it.
next stage: she became the girlfriend of a "friend" of mine. but why? he was in my situation and told her, that he'd stop seeing her if she didn't give him a chance. three month later, she left him. then she had another boyfriend - three month later he left her.
next stage: i thought "ok, you can't have her, but you still like her" (ok, it's more than that, still in luv however...). so we became "friends". does this make things easier? no way. why? we don't have sex, but she's got no problem with snuggling up to me. i like it / i hate it. ok, this is personal - how ever i think this whole board is personal, but it's not ONLY sex i'd like to have with her, it's more than that, i think you can understand. her lying next to me gives me the rest, i see her about one or two times a week - hard for my mind
many words...
1.) i'm her best friend (she tells me). i'd be an ******* if i abandoned this friendship cause in the end she really hast not got too many friends out there and this is true
2.) i should think about me first, i think that's the way it really should be
3.) i can't imagine how it'd be to NOT see her anymore (kind of refering to point "2"...)
4.) i think she just gives me SOME closeness to keep me "happy"
5.) very often she's depressive - i honestly listen, i guess not everybody does that - she knows where to go when she's down
6.) she finished her studies in psychology, still studies economics - so she knows about other minds very well and can handle changing situations.
7.) i hate it to be THAT weak!
IS THERE A SOLUTION FOR ME?
things like "forget her" "stop seeing" her will not avail i guess - i'm too stoopid for an easy solution like that - and i still don't wanna be a loser in that case, too important - it's definitly HER i want
kind regards and thx 4 your replies
-johnny-
1st of all i'd like to introduce myself: 29, male, living in vienna/austria. please excuse my spelling!
my life has been kind of confusing for about 1 1/2 years now. for sure caused by a nice blonde one... arghh.
facts: i've been TRYING and trying. in the beginning it was from her side like "hm, i'm not sure, there's still another guy". then she said "no way". ok - i was DOWN but i could handle it.
next stage: she became the girlfriend of a "friend" of mine. but why? he was in my situation and told her, that he'd stop seeing her if she didn't give him a chance. three month later, she left him. then she had another boyfriend - three month later he left her.
next stage: i thought "ok, you can't have her, but you still like her" (ok, it's more than that, still in luv however...). so we became "friends". does this make things easier? no way. why? we don't have sex, but she's got no problem with snuggling up to me. i like it / i hate it. ok, this is personal - how ever i think this whole board is personal, but it's not ONLY sex i'd like to have with her, it's more than that, i think you can understand. her lying next to me gives me the rest, i see her about one or two times a week - hard for my mind
many words...
1.) i'm her best friend (she tells me). i'd be an ******* if i abandoned this friendship cause in the end she really hast not got too many friends out there and this is true
2.) i should think about me first, i think that's the way it really should be
3.) i can't imagine how it'd be to NOT see her anymore (kind of refering to point "2"...)
4.) i think she just gives me SOME closeness to keep me "happy"
5.) very often she's depressive - i honestly listen, i guess not everybody does that - she knows where to go when she's down
6.) she finished her studies in psychology, still studies economics - so she knows about other minds very well and can handle changing situations.
7.) i hate it to be THAT weak!
IS THERE A SOLUTION FOR ME?
things like "forget her" "stop seeing" her will not avail i guess - i'm too stoopid for an easy solution like that - and i still don't wanna be a loser in that case, too important - it's definitly HER i want
kind regards and thx 4 your replies
-johnny-
