Attraction's 100 Approach Challenge

[~attrACTION~]

Basically, I talk to women everywhere, but I usually don't take it much farther than the usual chit chat or light flirting. I should be trying for more.

I've been posting here a lot lately - I want to prove to myself that I'm not just some keyboard jockey because I'm starting to feel like one. I want to see if I got the balls to do lots of approaches and kill that inner beta male. And seeing other people do approach journals make me want to do one, because it seems cool.

There's no end-goal here. Just lots of approaches, hopefully I'll reach 100. I want to get more aggressive. To me, an approach is starting conversation with a woman I don't know. But I should also make some effort to keep the conversation going or close, depending on the situation.

I'm going to do 5 approaches a week at the minimum. I have terrible self-discipline, so I'm going to make a bet with you guys to hold myself to this. If at the end of the week I don't get 5 approaches, I will pay each of the people who posts in this thread $5 via Paypal. That should get me out there, LOL.

I start chubby-chasing tomorrow. Peace.

 

[thefonz]

mind if I get in on this too?

It's approachin season and I'm having trouble doing it by myself.

 

[T500]

good luck with it.

I'm thinking of doing this myself.. I just got out of a 3 year relationship.. so picking up is something I forget how to do.

 

[Doomsday Warrior]

I've been telling myself to go through with this challenge for some time now and if you don't mind, I'd like to do this as well.

Looking forward to seeing your progress(and hopefully mine as well)!

 

[danielzxc]

To me, an approach is starting conversation with a woman I don't know.

Just having conversations isn't all that hard, and really doesn't mean much or move you forward at all really. If you ask a closing question -- number, email, suggest a date, or even just go for a kiss -- that to me is what a real approach is. In my opinion, if you can become the kind of guy who can try a kiss close, and if you get rejected you just brush it off like it was nothing, that's the pinnacle of the game.

 

[thefonz]

Did 2 approaches today, saw an HB9 walking through the parking garage at school and asked her if the gym was open. She said she didn't know but as we were talking she was giving me major IOI's. I asked for the phone number and she said she had a boyfriend so I left it at that.

Ran the same routine on a cheerleader in front of the rec center and went for the number close. She she had a ***** shield up and was feeling very high-value (being around her friends and looking hot). She flat out said, "No" and kept walking. Damn, my game needs work. I basically study all day so I need to work on these things.

Attraction, I wanna see some approaches out of you. No more KBJing.

 

[danielzxc]

Good on you for taking the plunge fonz. Are you just doing this to get over fear of rejection, or do you actually hope to score some numbers/dates this way? I'm just asking, 'cos if you're just gonna ask if the gym is open and then *clunk* changes gears and ask for the number, you can probably count on a lot of rejections (unless they are really attrated to your looks). So if it's getting over the fear or rejection, no problems, 'cos you're gonna get a lot of practise. On the other hand, if you're actually expecitng good results with this, then just be prepared for potential disappointment. Either way, again, props for making an effort man; ten out of ten for that.

 

[thefonz]

Well on the first one I didn't go into it intending to sarge. I just pulled my car up to someone to ask if the gym was open, it wasn't a canned opener...Just a natural convo. But the girl was giving me a really seductive look so I just said "**** it" and asked for the number. That felt good, I used it again as a canned opener for sarging (trying to recreate the feeling of the first approach) but it didn't go over well the second time.

Approach 3 - Was at the library studying genetics and saw a hot library chick. I asked about a book about NMR spectroscopy then shifted to build rapport by talking about the rain and joking about it snowing again. I just said "I have to go now but let me get your number and I'll call you sometime." The number close didn't feel natural, it just didn't feel right coming out of my mouth. I probably needed to build more rapport, but she just kind of shyed away and said "I don't know." I said, "ok then, see you around." I didn't feel like pushing it (though I probably should have) so I made sure to leave the library after that. Whaaatever.

 

[thefonz]

Wow attraction, not even 1?? Come on I know you can do 1!!

I number closed HB7 at the gym I've been seeing on and off on weekends. I was kinda nervous on this one cus I've been buried in books for the past week. See said she had a boyfriend but said she'd take my number just to hang out. Whatever that means. It's all good.

 

[~attrACTION~]

In my opinion, if you can become the kind of guy who can try a kiss close, and if you get rejected you just brush it off like it was nothing, that's the pinnacle of the game.

Yes sir, that is the pinnacle of game, and I would love to reach that level some day. But for now it's just baby steps. The most important thing for me is just getting into that zone where I'm always approaching. It's a feeling that's hard to describe, but I know once I get the momentum going I'll be fine.

Did 2 approaches today...

You really got balls. But then again you are so right. I need to do stuff like that to warm myself up and just get into the habit of always approaching.

Approach 3...

I number closed HB7 at the gym I've been seeing on and off on weekends. I was kinda nervous on this one cus I've been buried in books for the past week. See said she had a boyfriend but said she'd take my number just to hang out. Whatever that means. It's all good.

Dang, great effort, honestly.

 

[~attrACTION~]

I finally did one though!

It made me feel kind of good. Anyway, I went to the mall and noticed this guy and his girlfriend on his lap. The mall was pretty empty so this was about all I could see around.

Approach 1

Me: Hey...do you guys know some cool hang-out spots around here? ...because the mall seems pretty dead today, like where is everybody?
Girl: Well, are you looking for like bars and stuff?
Me: No, just places like shopping malls, etc.
Guy: Well, come back here on Saturday
Me: Okay, so there's no other like downtown hang-out place with lots of people?
Girl: There's a place called blah blah pub I think it's cool
Me: Yeah, well I was looking for something more like a big area...
Girl: There's blah blah blah
Guy: Yeah, Saturday
Me: Okay, cool, so I'll come back Saturday...thanks

So I just walked off. The girl seemed a lot more friendly and talkative than the guy. The guy was serious/nervous - probably thought I was trying to hit on his girl or something, which I wasn't. I also tried making some conversation with the cashier (girl) at the coffee shop. Overall, there were some women glancing at me, but I felt kept feeling like approaching them would be stupid and that everyone would be watching. A couple times I went to approach and when I noticed other guys in the area I just veered off in a different direction like I wasn't approaching. I think if it was more crowded I wouldn't feel so much 'in the spotlight' so-to-speak.

Yeah, one approach. I actually drove 33 miles, because that's the closest shopping mall. It's totally cool though. I'm going to go out again tomorrow night also, and then again on Friday and Saturday. I want to keep my momentum going (as little as it may be). I need to loosen up a bit and stop taking everything so seriously - I notice I'm not smiling at all, and just so insecure.

 

[greenlake]

Babysteps my friend. Good job on your recent approach. I can't manage to approach a girl when there is a guy around especially if I know he's her boyfriend.