SmoothSmooth
Master Don Juan
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Background - currently dating 3 8/10 in looks women, aged 20-22 (I’m a man in 30s).
People often try to explain attraction in terms of psychology, but it is biological. People can’t help who they feel attraction to.
Women are wired to mate with the best man. It’s a matter of survival of the species.
Thus every man in a woman’s life is player vs player. No amount of ‘manipulation’, ‘game’ etc can override that women are comparing men OBJECTIVELY based on their looks, money and status (status meaning social desirability)
In the early stages of an interaction, a woman is trying to figure out your place in her hierarchy of options - are you a serious contender, are you mid level etc
Any time a woman rejects you it’s for one reason, you weren’t the best option. She wasn’t delusional, there was simply another option (or potential option) in her life that was better than you.
So it comes down to two things. You must first become a serious contender which is by improving looks, money and social desirability. The standards required to become a serious contender are based on upon the options she already has. If she already has two millionaire good looking men already messaging her, that she considers her best options, then that’s the standard you must compete with to get a shot.
Then let’s say she has 3 serious contenders, does she feel attraction to all 3 of them? No, most women are wired to only care about 1 man at a time. This is because caring about 3 would imply she is unsure who is the best option, and would imply a failure of her hypergamic strategy. So she must now test all 3 men and their BEHAVIOUR will reveal to her which is the most high status - most strongly correlated to his ‘smoothness’ during the courtship process (implying the man gets laid alot - so body language, persistence, non neediness, non reactiveness and wit) and the difficulty in obtaining his emotional investment and his presence (the most busy, hard to reach and reluctant to commit implies he is the highest status out of all her options)
and that’s literally all it comes down to. First being a serious contender on pure objective terms and secondly appearing to be more objectively of a challenge than other men (through covert behaviour signals)
All of this only applies to the most indemand women (8-10s aged between 18-24)….these women operate out of pure hypergamy so seducing them is different to women outside this group (that is why alot of game advice is conflicting because it mixes the traits required to attract both groups)
This is why it’s also easier to attract 8s+ if you meet their minimum threshold than to attract 6s. Most 8s+ are sharing the same 3% of men. Because the threshold is so high to become a serious contender (financially, social desirability etc) that - if you meet the criteria - you will only be competing with 1 or 2 other men at most in her circle. So just avoiding the normal mistakes of neediness etc will make you the glaringly obvious option to her. It’s also why the 8s are often more feminine and willing to tolerate cheating than 6s because they are in dating situations where the men are extremely rare (top 3% of men) and hard to replace, Whilst a 6 has potentially hundreds of men in her circle that meet her threshold because it’s objectively lower.
Most puas only date 6s-7s at most etc so their advice is catered to this demographic, for example - do not talk about your finances or lead with money. This works well with a girl where most men meet her financial threshold, so being mysterious is a good strategy. But for a girl dating men making 6 figures and more, you will absolutely have to show your financial prowess - not in a beta bucks way of paying for her affection, but by having a high living standard - nice home, nice clothes, vacations etc
A woman who is an 8 also **** tests in a different way to a woman who is a 6. The 6 will pull more direct **** tests for example mentioning other men on the date, whilst the 8 is a master of covert tests - for example she may subtly push for a relationship after you’ve been regularly sleeping together and if you oblige, you’ve failed the test because you’ve shown a hint of betaness when she expected you to withhold your commitment for a few more months. A 6 will often directly try to push your buttons to get you to show weakness, they’re just looking for reasons to disqualify etc and their tests can be quiet annoying. but an 8 is way more covert, the deciding test can be so small and subtle than most men won’t notice it
the hotter the girl, the more solely it becomes about your true market value - which is primarily social desirability but also looks and money
People often try to explain attraction in terms of psychology, but it is biological. People can’t help who they feel attraction to.
Women are wired to mate with the best man. It’s a matter of survival of the species.
Thus every man in a woman’s life is player vs player. No amount of ‘manipulation’, ‘game’ etc can override that women are comparing men OBJECTIVELY based on their looks, money and status (status meaning social desirability)
In the early stages of an interaction, a woman is trying to figure out your place in her hierarchy of options - are you a serious contender, are you mid level etc
Any time a woman rejects you it’s for one reason, you weren’t the best option. She wasn’t delusional, there was simply another option (or potential option) in her life that was better than you.
So it comes down to two things. You must first become a serious contender which is by improving looks, money and social desirability. The standards required to become a serious contender are based on upon the options she already has. If she already has two millionaire good looking men already messaging her, that she considers her best options, then that’s the standard you must compete with to get a shot.
Then let’s say she has 3 serious contenders, does she feel attraction to all 3 of them? No, most women are wired to only care about 1 man at a time. This is because caring about 3 would imply she is unsure who is the best option, and would imply a failure of her hypergamic strategy. So she must now test all 3 men and their BEHAVIOUR will reveal to her which is the most high status - most strongly correlated to his ‘smoothness’ during the courtship process (implying the man gets laid alot - so body language, persistence, non neediness, non reactiveness and wit) and the difficulty in obtaining his emotional investment and his presence (the most busy, hard to reach and reluctant to commit implies he is the highest status out of all her options)
and that’s literally all it comes down to. First being a serious contender on pure objective terms and secondly appearing to be more objectively of a challenge than other men (through covert behaviour signals)
All of this only applies to the most indemand women (8-10s aged between 18-24)….these women operate out of pure hypergamy so seducing them is different to women outside this group (that is why alot of game advice is conflicting because it mixes the traits required to attract both groups)
This is why it’s also easier to attract 8s+ if you meet their minimum threshold than to attract 6s. Most 8s+ are sharing the same 3% of men. Because the threshold is so high to become a serious contender (financially, social desirability etc) that - if you meet the criteria - you will only be competing with 1 or 2 other men at most in her circle. So just avoiding the normal mistakes of neediness etc will make you the glaringly obvious option to her. It’s also why the 8s are often more feminine and willing to tolerate cheating than 6s because they are in dating situations where the men are extremely rare (top 3% of men) and hard to replace, Whilst a 6 has potentially hundreds of men in her circle that meet her threshold because it’s objectively lower.
Most puas only date 6s-7s at most etc so their advice is catered to this demographic, for example - do not talk about your finances or lead with money. This works well with a girl where most men meet her financial threshold, so being mysterious is a good strategy. But for a girl dating men making 6 figures and more, you will absolutely have to show your financial prowess - not in a beta bucks way of paying for her affection, but by having a high living standard - nice home, nice clothes, vacations etc
A woman who is an 8 also **** tests in a different way to a woman who is a 6. The 6 will pull more direct **** tests for example mentioning other men on the date, whilst the 8 is a master of covert tests - for example she may subtly push for a relationship after you’ve been regularly sleeping together and if you oblige, you’ve failed the test because you’ve shown a hint of betaness when she expected you to withhold your commitment for a few more months. A 6 will often directly try to push your buttons to get you to show weakness, they’re just looking for reasons to disqualify etc and their tests can be quiet annoying. but an 8 is way more covert, the deciding test can be so small and subtle than most men won’t notice it
the hotter the girl, the more solely it becomes about your true market value - which is primarily social desirability but also looks and money
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