Attracted To A Married Woman

[Powerlifter]

I decided to copy and paste my post and bring it here to get some feedback since I wasn't getting any response.

Will appreciate any replies you have and or experiences.

Thanks

I have recently met a physcial therapy at the nursing home where my mother is staying. She is married with 2 boys and a girl and very attractive sorta looks like Jennifer Aniston just a sexy looking lady.

When we were introduced by the admissions officer of the nursing home she introduced her as one of the physcial therpist there and I comedically said at the time I feel I need physcial therapy. Before she left she smiled and said it was nice meeting me and I said the same.

I didn't realize this would be the same lady who would be giving my Mom physcial therpy and as time has gone on I took note that one time her husband called her while I was in the therpy room and she slammed the phone down in which one of her co-workers remarked wow! whats going on and another co-worker said she married thats what and then the one I like says no you just married the right one.

During this exchange I noticed her eye contact was strong at me and she even walked away and started messing with her hair putting it up exposing her neck after this she was talking and saying to her co-workers she will be 40 this summer and she won't be there working and she will be on a beach somewhere in a bikini.

Long story short this lady has given me strong eye contact plus the most wide and teeth showing beautiful smile I have ever experieced with a woman. I also noticed one time she pulled her car up next to my truck as when I parked it she was in the parking space up front to the left of me and when I came out it was next to mine driver side facing mine at the time I didn't know this was her car until later and I was sensing a hint of something she was trying to say without saying it.

Off and on now for 6 weeks now her smile is always warm and feel there is something there but I stop myself because she is married. I also asked the admissions officer about her and she said she was happyly married but the signs this lady gives says she is ready for adventure and I am willing to give it but really don't know how to get started.

She still wears her wedding band but I notice she use to wear two rings now it's only the one not sure what that means.

Any suggestions on where to go from here as my Mom will be going home in a couple weeks and won't be seeing her I am 50 in great shape single with no kids of my own and would really like to see where this can go also forgive my grammer and spelling.

So far I have not given her any compliments but have talked with her about Moms progress and have not really dug deeper in what makes her tick.

Thanks for any suggestions.

Powerlifter

 

[boomerick]

P-lifter----If she was just in a relationship or married with no kids thats one thing and still not a very good thing....BUT....she has kids who don't get to be involved in the relationship you two might have but who could potentially have to deal with a lifetime of consequences if it goes bad. I've read here all the arguments for and against the married woman deal (good karma vs. why not? someone else will!) but if you are as together as you say you are you really don't need to pull this chick and possibly f*ck up some innocent kids. Give her a pass. Or wait it out untill she divorces. Over and Out.

 

[zekko]

she has kids who don't get to be involved in the relationship you two might have but who could potentially have to deal with a lifetime of consequences if it goes bad. I've read here all the arguments for and against the married woman deal (good karma vs. why not? someone else will!) but if you are as together as you say you are you really don't need to pull this chick and possibly f*ck up some innocent kids.

That's a pretty good argument actually. Can't say I've ever heard it before, even though it should be obivous.

 

[sodbuster]

IF she divorces him first, go ahead. IF she wants to cheat on him[with 3 kids in the balance],she'll cheat on YOU[I've been the guy she cheated on you with-I've never chased a married woman,she was divorced and cheated on the BF that broke up the marriage- with me][she was NEVER considered as LTR material] IF she is all that unhappy,she needs to do the right thing.

 

[BobMo']

The same thing happened to me several times when my mother was in a nursing home. An occupational therapist used to regularly lean over and show me her tits, and another, very attractive nurse did the same thing and was very seductive. We both knew what they were up to, and it was just a fun thing. Women do it for fun.

I wasn't much in the mood, so my policy was to smile and thank them for their charming attention, and let it pass. A pleasant memory, and a boost to my confidence. Nice to know that I'm still attractive to younger HB's.

 

[amoka]

I hate to tell you this but it is time for you to get your own. Stop depending on the fruit that have already fallen under the tree and get your own from the tree. Just like someone already said, if she leaves her husband and kids for you, there is no reason to think she won't do the same to you with another man.

 

[( . )( . )]

if she leaves her husband and kids for you, there is no reason to think she won't do the same to you with another man.

No reason a woman who's not married wouldn't do the same thing.

I hate to tell you this but it is time for you to get your own. Stop depending on the fruit that have already fallen under the tree and get your own from the tree.

A woman that signed a piece of paper for the government is hardly comparable to fallen fruit.

 

[jophil28]

The same thing happened to me several times when my mother was in a nursing home. An occupational therapist used to regularly lean over and show me her tits, and another, very attractive nurse did the same thing and was very seductive. We both knew what they were up to, and it was just a fun thing. Women do it for fun.

"Women do it for fun"...Indeed they do. It is called attention seeking.
As RT says," Attention is coin of the realm in girl world."

The diifficulty for us is making the distinction between a woman's natural inclination to merely flirt with a man who is showing her some attention, and a woman who is open to taking it further.
IN the first instance, it is impossible to differentiate.
In my experience about 98% of women, married or single will respond in kind to a flirt. That does NOT mean that they want to sleep with you.

 

[squirrels]

You ever go near closing time? Ask her if she wants to have a drink with you before she goes home. That's harmless enough, isn't it? After all, having a drink with someone isn't "cheating"...make it seem like, "I'm going to xxxx to have a beer...you feel like coming along? You say you're married? Oh, I'm not asking you to sleep with me, but that's OK, I understand."

Could be she's looking. But it may be the wrong circumstances. If you saw her out on "ladies night" on Friday night at the bars, then you could probably pick her up...there, in a professional setting, social conditioning is on high so she can't make that kind of image-decimating mistake.

Could also be, as some of the others pointed out, that she wants to see if she still CAN attract eligible young men before she considers a divorce. If she was unattractive, you don't respond, and she stays with her sh*tty husband out of fear of being unable to do better. But if you DO, maybe she'll get out and play the field.

I would NOT invest much effort in this girl or hope for a "relationship" of any kind beyond fugg-buddy. She has three kids. If she's down, then you might be able to tag it, but you open yourself up to drama if HE finds out.

If she's not easily down, then stop wasting your time and find a woman of your own. Or 2. Or 3.

Normally I fugg with married women only if they approach me first, and even then I won't at times. I had a woman come up to me in the club once and tell me I was "very attractive"...my friends were telling me to go with her, but she was still wearing her rock. I called her on it and she gave me the, "Oh we're separated, don't worry". Yeah, OK. I don't need to be railing you and end up with some jealous hubby sticking a shotgun in my grille.

Then again, I've messed with women who have been "going through messy divorces", albeit far away from "home". That's some good lovin' right there.

 

[sodbuster]

A married woman who cheats has PROVEN she can't be trusted. The rest of them,we may or may not trust-they haven't proven their integrity[or lack of ]yet.

 

[Powerlifter]

Thanks men for the replies.

My ex sister in law met her now husband at her work a man my brother had met and actually felt a friend. My brother has 3 kids and one of the reasons for my sister in law having the affair was his drinking got out of hand my ex sister in law fell in love and finally divorce my brother which really hurt him but it was his wake up call to stop drinking.

Now 15 years later my nieces and nephew are successful and well rounded and at there young ages at the time wasn't affected by the affair or divorce it seemed to actually bring everyone closer together so my point is not all kids are damaged by affairs or divorce but I am sure many are.

Anyway, from reading the post I have decided to move on from this lady but dam guys she is so fine and that beautiful ass body and I mean a Jennifer Aniston type just a sexy babe. But that aside I just needed to hear it from others about this situation and really already knew my discision to not pursue this lady.

Maybe you have saved a brother from himself.

Peace

 

[( . )( . )]

A married woman who cheats has PROVEN she can't be trusted.

What a load of rubbish, do you realise your actually comparing yourself to the loser she "cheated" on by believing that crap. And do I even need to mention the branch swing analogy that women adhere to? "Trust" is subjective. I trust her to be a woman who's obviously unhappy in her marriage, who's taken the next progressive step.

 

[Powerlifter]

I forgot to mention my ex sister in law has not cheated on her new husband after all this time both are very happy together.

Something to think about and not every man who comes into an affair is a scum bag.

Powerlifter

 

[sodbuster]

So when she decides you are a loser[this is a woman we are talking about-ignore logic],she won't cheat on you like she did the first time? Even if the thought you are a loser only lasts a week,then goes away-a low integrity woman may have already may have broken her vows and your marriage. Unless you forgive her[NOT in any relationship of mine].
The fact that a woman will cheat on her first husband and not on her second is like the fact that several people have sailed solo around the world and made it. It may have happened,but it doesn't mean I want to try it.

 

[( . )( . )]

So when she decides you are a loser[this is a woman we are talking about-ignore logic],she won't cheat on you like she did the first time?

This argument only holds water if you are indeed a loser. You seem to have this delusion that just because a woman made some bullsh!t vows and signed a piece of paper she all of a sudden transforms into some sort of romantic notion of ownership that conforms with your moral ideals. And woe betide if she happens to grow tired of some random guy you know nothing about and decides to branch swing (like pretty much every other NORMAL woman that doesnt have the luxury of independance we men take for granted.) In your eyes she will automatically be labelled a dirty "cheater" that cant ever be trusted.

Give me a break, your dreaming man seriously.

I wont even start with the social pressure on a woman to marry, and the sea of douche bags out there she has to pick from.

 

[AMDG]

the sea of douche bags out there she has to pick from.

Such a feminist viewpoint :nono:

 

[( . )( . )]

Such a feminist viewpoint :nono:

Yeah your right what was I thinking, theres an abundance of real quality men out there. It's just like the 50's all over again.

Feminist lol, at least it's a change from misogynist.:crazy:

 

[jophil28]

A married woman who cheats has PROVEN she can't be trusted. The rest of them,we may or may not trust-they haven't proven their integrity[or lack of ]yet.

Agree with Sodbuster.

A married woman who cheats is certainly untrustworthy by her actions.
The argument that her cheating represents taking a "first step" in exiting from an unhappy marriage is nonsense. That POV is precisely the kind of justification that is frequently sprouted in those tedious mags for gullible chicks, and sometimes is the theme of those awful chick flicks. "She is lost in her miserable marriage and is simply seeking out a loving man."( of course her husband is always portrayed as the cold cruel tyrant and she, the victim. Remember "The Titanic" movie ?)

Cheating is always coincident with lying and deception.
She has other choices and options if she wishes to leave her husband .
A woman's unhappiness is not a free pass to find immediate gratification on another man's c0ck.

 

[sodbuster]

It seems some here want to make the excuses FOR the women-the same ones WOMEN use.ANYTHING to make the little angel look pure. It's not her fault I know all this DJ stuff and her husband is AFC.BS! In todays society she has the option of a divorce with no stigma.Then she can find another guy.

I feel with equal rights comes equal responsibliity. If I would disrespect a man for doing it-I disrespect the woman also. Signing that piece of paper is a legal contract. Women want it more than a man does[women want marriage to have a wage slave working for them] If a business partner of yours gives me business secrets from your company[that wrecks your company]-do I want him as MY partner? NO

 

[( . )( . )]

Again you seem to be clinging to this notion that marriage should all of a sudden transform a woman into somehow adopting a mans way of thinking of honour, loyalty and all that sh!t if she happens to marry some loser who dropped the ball, doesnt work like that anymore ( did it ever?), and people who still believe this are going to get hurt.

Anyway were only going around in circles here.