Attracted Or Friend Zoned?

SoulMan13

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There's this HB8 I've been gaming for about 3 weeks now. I've number closed already. We go to the same college so we see each other around quite often. I think I had the chance to K-Close about a week ago (she lingered around when it was time to go our separate ways) but passed as my breath smelled. I haven't had another chance since then. I've also asked her out twice now but she has been busy both times. She used to be really into me a few years back when we were young (around 13-14) but I never made anything of it as I wasn't interested.

When she sees me alone in the cafeteria, library etc she will come and sit with me and make conversation if she's alone, she smiles at me if she sees me around, she makes eye contact with me in class, bought me a drink when I asked etc. Also my grandma happens to live a few blocks away from her so when I go to visit her on a Monday she always asks me to walk with her, however, I also visit my grandma on a Wednesday and walk the same way but on Wednesday she just completely ignores me and walks on her own. I've put my arm around her shoulders and waist etc and she doesn't move away so she's receptive to my kino. She's also touched me lightly on my arm a couple of times. She also gives me this look where she stares at me and smirks/smiles when I'm not looking and when I look she turns away still smiling, sighs a lot when I tease her and looks annoyed but then just randomly giggles when its quiet. We have good conversations and when it goes quiet she will always re-initiate.

However, she seems really comfortable around me which I thought was unusual. Also, when we were on the sitting together on the bus I moved my leg closer to hers so they were touching slightly and she moved hers away straight away, I tried again later on but she did the same again. Plus, she initiated texts with me for the first week or so but hasn't initiated a text conversation with me since. Now we'll only text if I text her first. She's also starting liking a lot of pictures of this boy on Instagram and favourites all of his tweets, does this mean anything?

Do you think she's attracted to me or do you think I've landed firmly in the friend zone? Should I give up now?
 
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Arthy

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Girls who has high interest in you, wont confuse you, i believe you are in the friendzone my friend.
 

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You're probably friendzoned but don't take it too hard. If you enjoy hanging out with her then keep hanging out with her, just make sure you don't act creepy.

It never hurts to have friends, especially hot female friends.
 

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possible friendzoned disapearing for sometime will do you good, also pplease tell me she is not the only girl you are seeing?
 

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Alvafe said:
possible friendzoned disapearing for sometime will do you good, also pplease tell me she is not the only girl you are seeing?
How can I disappear when I see her almost everyday? I've tried walking with other girls, walking with my headphones in etc to stop her from approaching me in the past when I tried to go NC but she approached me every time and its not like I can just tell her to go away lol. So I just decided to quit the whole NC thing as it just wasn't working. Have you got any suggestions?

No, she is definitely not the only girl I'm seeing, I don't want to ever catch that dreaded oneitis again LOL. I've got another HB8 on the side that I've already F-Closed I'm just more interested in this girl.

Also, are you sure I'm friend zoned? She doesn't even make an effort to text me, does that sound like a "friend" lol?
 

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There are different levels of "friend". There's that guy that you say hi to but have never talked to outside of school friend, there's lifelong friends, etc.

In my opinion, don't actively avoid her. Just be cool with her when you're around her, but don't go out of your way to hang out with her either. She probably sees you as some chill guy at school.
Maybe you can change this but touching her leg on the bus won't be what does it. Ask her to get coffee or something with you. Depending on how she rejects or accepts you, you'll know her interest level.
 

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SoulMan13 said:
How can I disappear when I see her almost everyday? I've tried walking with other girls, walking with my headphones in etc to stop her from approaching me in the past when I tried to go NC but she approached me every time and its not like I can just tell her to go away lol. So I just decided to quit the whole NC thing as it just wasn't working. Have you got any suggestions?

No, she is definitely not the only girl I'm seeing, I don't want to ever catch that dreaded oneitis again LOL. I've got another HB8 on the side that I've already F-Closed I'm just more interested in this girl.

Also, are you sure I'm friend zoned? She doesn't even make an effort to text me, does that sound like a "friend" lol?
disapear is never look for her, and when she goes after you says you are busy with something else.

quick history, I had one girl who liked to talk with me but I wanted more, after I said I wanted more we started to become distants, but every damn time she was lost she would ask me for advice or talk with me, in the end she did bring nothing to my life and only make me lose my time because when I asked for anything from her she couldn't and is taht from a girl who said she never cared what my opnions was.

so I will repeat jsut don't lose time time with her, when she try to talk with you be busy with something else, talk and get to know otehr woman in your school and hang with then or make any other friend and stay with then if anything she will have to start to amke effort to hang with you
 

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I think you're friendzoned. If she really is interested, she would show it clearly and wouldn't confuse you. Girls can really be charming and also be flirty at times.
 

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You're posting in the high school section so I'm guessing you're younger. Girls at that age don't necessarily know the signals they give off when they do certain things, and guys take friendliness as flirting.

Unless she clearly is interested through words or actions (i.e. a kiss) do not assume. Plus, if you think you already have her you won't try as hard. Now imagine you don't... Your mindset will change and you'll work to impress her.
 
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