Hey sosuaverinians, decided to say screw it and try out online dating. I sent out like 6 messages, half of them were me buzzed saying very stupid things that I just doing to entertain myself "hey was just admiring your profile and was wondering when you gonna let me clap dem cheeks" 
. I said that to the girls that I weren't interested in on a personal level. I got 2 replies from the joke messages one was "lmao ur funny" (actually think I could have continued talks with her lol) and the other was "ur a sicko".
The other 3 messages I sent were sincere and I got one response out of that batch. I'm currently talking to that girl now and she seems like someone I'd mesh with. She really seems interested because in her 2nd message she just gave me her number without me asking for it. We live like 4 miles from each other so that's both good and bad.
My issue is I actually never been on a date nor have I even kissed a girl haha (I had to throw in the curve ball being that its sosuave right). I would say I have a 98% chance of meeting up with this girl as long as I don't say to her "when you gonna let me clap dem cheeks!" :flowers: .
For the first "hang out" I would say I should go for an activity, perhaps tennis? bad thing is when I play tennis I go hard and sweat like crazy definitely not attractive lol; might be a good idea to tone down the intensity then. Good thing is it would be fun without me having to carry a conversation. After tennis what would be something good to do? Hopefully I won't be drenched. Buffet lol? eat and talk some more. Problem I see is this not being "romantic" opportunities for touching but not for kissing. I'm up for suggestions.
A other idea is maybe a secluded park with trails and a creek. Focus will be 100% on convo, which I'm not enthusiastic about since I would rather have some of that pressure be alleviated with something more active/fun. Thing about the park is it would be ideal for that romantic element. To me park would be a good choice for the second "date". If anything first encounter do the tennis, I will make sure to kino, have fun, fluff talk and try to get her to laugh; ultimately there would be no kiss close if first date is tennis (is that a bad thing or is 2nd date appropriate/reasonable for the kiss).
Did I mention sometimes, in a conversation, I draw a blank as if I my brain was a potato? That problem usually happens when the other person doesn't provide continual conversational material. I have trouble making conversation flow but I guess I just need to be random and say whatever to avoid those silences. Even with my "best friend" we have long moments of silence where we are just chilling not saying anything. I noted this observation many times and just laugh when it happens.
My goal is just to have fun with this girl. I pretty much have no friends (I will make sure it doesn't come off that way to her :nervous and I'm just looking for an activity partner just hang out! It helps that that activity partner is a girl amirite, because no lie I'm dyin' to show the world what a sexual beast I am. I'm a virgin but when it comes down to that I wouldn't be timid and would lay her with a tenacity and ferociousness that will make me bust in 5 seconds (jk don't know how long I would last).
From my time here on sosuave, I have ton's of information rolling around in my cabeza. Basically in my interaction with her I will try to build attraction as much as I can. Questions don't build attraction, so I will try to flirt and fluff talk (not very good at this) at every opportunity. My major foreseeable downfall would be not building enough attraction and instead coming off as more of a friend. Being that I met her through a dating website it would seem my intentions and her intentions are clear though.
Random question: when first meeting would it be good to just go up to her and give a huge hug just to get that initial touch barrier out the way and maybe portray that I'm a touchy person (when I'm not). Potential of that coming of weird if I don't say something funny before/while I do it. Could be like "[Her name]!" and act like I haven't seen her in ages when we just met; I dunno you all tell me. Could immediately lighten the mood and get that initial awkwardness out of our system (actually correction MY system lol).
Any other feedback/advice would be appreciated!
*edit* Phone advice would be helpful, from my time here it seems that I don't want to get into a texting frenzy. I need to start with a few text's then probably go for an actual phone call. Upbeat conversation with an effort on sounding fun (easier said than done) and then right when the conversation is at its climax I will suggest a meet up. Do I pick her up or do we both go separately?
. I said that to the girls that I weren't interested in on a personal level. I got 2 replies from the joke messages one was "lmao ur funny" (actually think I could have continued talks with her lol) and the other was "ur a sicko". The other 3 messages I sent were sincere and I got one response out of that batch. I'm currently talking to that girl now and she seems like someone I'd mesh with. She really seems interested because in her 2nd message she just gave me her number without me asking for it. We live like 4 miles from each other so that's both good and bad.
My issue is I actually never been on a date nor have I even kissed a girl haha (I had to throw in the curve ball being that its sosuave right). I would say I have a 98% chance of meeting up with this girl as long as I don't say to her "when you gonna let me clap dem cheeks!" :flowers: .
For the first "hang out" I would say I should go for an activity, perhaps tennis? bad thing is when I play tennis I go hard and sweat like crazy definitely not attractive lol; might be a good idea to tone down the intensity then. Good thing is it would be fun without me having to carry a conversation. After tennis what would be something good to do? Hopefully I won't be drenched. Buffet lol? eat and talk some more. Problem I see is this not being "romantic" opportunities for touching but not for kissing. I'm up for suggestions.
A other idea is maybe a secluded park with trails and a creek. Focus will be 100% on convo, which I'm not enthusiastic about since I would rather have some of that pressure be alleviated with something more active/fun. Thing about the park is it would be ideal for that romantic element. To me park would be a good choice for the second "date". If anything first encounter do the tennis, I will make sure to kino, have fun, fluff talk and try to get her to laugh; ultimately there would be no kiss close if first date is tennis (is that a bad thing or is 2nd date appropriate/reasonable for the kiss).
Did I mention sometimes, in a conversation, I draw a blank as if I my brain was a potato? That problem usually happens when the other person doesn't provide continual conversational material. I have trouble making conversation flow but I guess I just need to be random and say whatever to avoid those silences. Even with my "best friend" we have long moments of silence where we are just chilling not saying anything. I noted this observation many times and just laugh when it happens.
My goal is just to have fun with this girl. I pretty much have no friends (I will make sure it doesn't come off that way to her :nervous
and I'm just looking for an activity partner just hang out! It helps that that activity partner is a girl amirite, because no lie I'm dyin' to show the world what a sexual beast I am. I'm a virgin but when it comes down to that I wouldn't be timid and would lay her with a tenacity and ferociousness that will make me bust in 5 seconds (jk don't know how long I would last). From my time here on sosuave, I have ton's of information rolling around in my cabeza. Basically in my interaction with her I will try to build attraction as much as I can. Questions don't build attraction, so I will try to flirt and fluff talk (not very good at this) at every opportunity. My major foreseeable downfall would be not building enough attraction and instead coming off as more of a friend. Being that I met her through a dating website it would seem my intentions and her intentions are clear though.
Random question: when first meeting would it be good to just go up to her and give a huge hug just to get that initial touch barrier out the way and maybe portray that I'm a touchy person (when I'm not). Potential of that coming of weird if I don't say something funny before/while I do it. Could be like "[Her name]!" and act like I haven't seen her in ages when we just met; I dunno you all tell me. Could immediately lighten the mood and get that initial awkwardness out of our system (actually correction MY system lol).
Any other feedback/advice would be appreciated!
*edit* Phone advice would be helpful, from my time here it seems that I don't want to get into a texting frenzy. I need to start with a few text's then probably go for an actual phone call. Upbeat conversation with an effort on sounding fun (easier said than done) and then right when the conversation is at its climax I will suggest a meet up. Do I pick her up or do we both go separately?
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