NewMike
Don Juan
A girl i've been seeing lately asked to see a pic of my ex. How do I handle this? Why would she want to see the pic? Any reasoning behind this besides curiosity?
Asks about ex
- Thread starter NewMike
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She wants to see how attractive she is and compare her to herself.
Last weekend a chick I've been seeing for a few months began asking all kinds of questions about my ex. I had been saying nothing up to this point but she was being really persistent.
I told her some stuff and by the end of the conversation I asked her "Are you happy?" She said she wished we never had that conversation. I can tell it negatively affected her Interest level in me too.
I knew better not to talk about ex's but she wouldn't let it go. From now on my response to any "ex" questions will be "The past is the past. Let it go. Forget about it"
I'd say if your ex is way better looking than this current chick it may give her some self esteem issues. Could be good or could be bad.
If the new chick is way better looking then she may start looking at you differently. Probably bad.
So either way I don't think its worth showing her the pic.
Last weekend a chick I've been seeing for a few months began asking all kinds of questions about my ex. I had been saying nothing up to this point but she was being really persistent.
I told her some stuff and by the end of the conversation I asked her "Are you happy?" She said she wished we never had that conversation. I can tell it negatively affected her Interest level in me too.
I knew better not to talk about ex's but she wouldn't let it go. From now on my response to any "ex" questions will be "The past is the past. Let it go. Forget about it"
I'd say if your ex is way better looking than this current chick it may give her some self esteem issues. Could be good or could be bad.
If the new chick is way better looking then she may start looking at you differently. Probably bad.
So either way I don't think its worth showing her the pic.
Shadow Dancer
Senior Don Juan
I don't concern myself about this really. If a girl asks, I'll show her. To do that she has to already be at my house. And I have to have one laying around cause I aint gonna search for one.
I really don't give 2 shiet if she reacts negatively. Biatch, I didn't bring it up. You did. You wanted it, you got it, so deal with it. And that's exactly how I come off if they seem wierd afterward. If they can't deal, I've got no time for them and tell them so.
If she gets weird I'll usually say something like this...
"I enjoy hanging out with you but you're acting rediculous. You asked for it so I showed it to you. Seriously, if you can't handle it, don't ask. Look, I'm sure we could, and will, get back to having a great time BUT you have stop acting like a homo. Otherwise, you should leave cause we're wasting each other's time. And I REALLY hate to waste my time. So what's up, am I wasting my time?".
That's it. They might pout for a second but then they snap out of it and we get back to having a good time. I've yet to encounter a girl who actually decided to leave. If I ever do, no biggie. Just means that I find out sooner what type of GIRL, not woman, I am dealing with.
Oh and yes, I call her a homo. It's a pretty silly thing to say which break up the tension but still lets her know I'm serious. Afterwards she'll usually ask, "Did you call me a "homo"?". hahahha. I'll say, "Yeah, I called you a homo. You homo.". Laughs often result and we get back to having fun.
-Shadow
I really don't give 2 shiet if she reacts negatively. Biatch, I didn't bring it up. You did. You wanted it, you got it, so deal with it. And that's exactly how I come off if they seem wierd afterward. If they can't deal, I've got no time for them and tell them so.
If she gets weird I'll usually say something like this...
"I enjoy hanging out with you but you're acting rediculous. You asked for it so I showed it to you. Seriously, if you can't handle it, don't ask. Look, I'm sure we could, and will, get back to having a great time BUT you have stop acting like a homo. Otherwise, you should leave cause we're wasting each other's time. And I REALLY hate to waste my time. So what's up, am I wasting my time?".
That's it. They might pout for a second but then they snap out of it and we get back to having a good time. I've yet to encounter a girl who actually decided to leave. If I ever do, no biggie. Just means that I find out sooner what type of GIRL, not woman, I am dealing with.
Oh and yes, I call her a homo. It's a pretty silly thing to say which break up the tension but still lets her know I'm serious. Afterwards she'll usually ask, "Did you call me a "homo"?". hahahha. I'll say, "Yeah, I called you a homo. You homo.". Laughs often result and we get back to having fun.
-Shadow
