Asking broads out at the GYM.

[spiegel549]

What up boys. I have posted about this previously but I seem to recently get myself frustrated when I don't approach attractive women at the gym. Set me straight guys if its something I should do or not do.

1) I am there to work out, I am a fitness nut and keeping in shape is #1 to me but the gym I go to is always packed with hot broads.

What is the official "rules of the gym" ?? Obviously women are there to workout and not pick up men and I most certainly don't want to become the "gym creeper" that asks all the girls out LOL...

Today this HOT girl is working out right next to me for a solid 15 minutes...in between sets I would look at her and smile but she wouldn't make eye contact with me...some girls in the gym look and smile so you can tell they are into you, but some don't even acknowledge your existence.

I always feel like I am missing out on opportunities to meet new beautiful women by not approaching. What do you guys think?

Do you HAVE to get eye contact and positive signs before a cold approach at the gym?

 

[DonDiscovery]

in my experience, girls at the gym have their 'ugly' clothes (and mentality) on and are focussed on their workout rather than men...this might make them very resistant to any kind of pick up attempt

that said, if you are smooth enough, its probably possible

 

[alphamailman]

I was told that's when their guards are down. They feel a lot more self-conscious in these so gym clothes and are covered in sweat. If you can pick them up then, they'll have to prove to you they look better on a date or whatever.

 

[-Gripz-]

Women always check me out at the gym and some even orbit around me as I'm working out, but even I don't approach at the gym. Being a bodybuilder (and no I don't do roids) I just want to get my workout in and leave.

 

[zinc4]

i have approached at the gym with limited success...but really, it's best to keep the gym for working out IMO unless you have some hot chick who you think would be a sure thing

 

[Demonpenz]

I would try it out just to make sure. Just walk up to a girl and go.

"Did you see my name on the wall of honor in the back for record bench press..No big deal or anything...you can get my autograph later" say it in a tounge in cheek fashion.

 

[evan12]

Gym is one of the best places to find women , most women are already looking for bf or upgrade their current one, you just have to have social skills , women care about their reputation in gym so they are more careful in interacting with men .
I commit to my self to talk at least with one woman every time I go to gym , and I am doing that some time we talk more than 5 minutes and some time it is one word , but I was surprised how they are open to conversations , just put these things in account :
1 - they are not looking for instance sex like women in bars so keeping thing on social level is very helpful
2- dont approch women who are seriously building muscles they are man haters mostly
3- approach women who are pretending they are building muscles most of them are for men mainly and they welcome any new male approach.

my big barrier is my english skills , but for you you should have no problem.
I also use Jekozy, every time I am there I start conversation with half naked women and the other men keep watching me .
that day there was a guy doing pickup in the gym too , and he started 3 conversations with three girls in less than one hour every conversation was about 10 minutes , he basically just moved from one to another , and no he wasn't body builder , just regular guy around 37 year old .

last word dont afraid to be creeper of the gym or else you wont be able to hit on any woman .

 

[sageproduct]

I've done two or three approaches in the last 3 or 4 times I've been to the gym.

1) Of course we're there to work out. That's also a damn excuse for not approaching and we know that as well. If your best friend unexpectedly ran into you while you were lifting, you'd stop to talk to him. Same thing goes, you can spare a quick minute to go talk to that extremely hot girl that all the guys are eyeing.
2) If you're wondering about the "rules" then you don't do much daygame. I believe that in general, it's against the "rules" of society to approach a woman AT ALL. At least in a daytime setting. To cold approach in the daytime is to break a social norm. But you know what, fwck social norms.
3) Who cares if she gives you eye contact or not before you approach, it doesn't really mean anything, unless she is blatantly eye-fwcking the sh1t out of you, which I've probably only seen twice in my life. None of the girls I've cold approached who ended up going out with me made eye contact with me prior to my approach - in fact, I think most of them didn't even see me until I approached. On the contrary, I've had some girls make eye contact with me, act really friendly when I approach, then proceed to reject me or tell me they have a boyfriend/husband/fiancee.

I used to be deathly afraid of the "creeper who hits on all the girls" status. Now I've realized that 1)people don't actually give that much of a sh1t what you do and 2)it's actually kind of fwcking hilarious when people know you regularly approach girls

 

[spiegel549]

I've done two or three approaches in the last 3 or 4 times I've been to the gym.

1) Of course we're there to work out. That's also a damn excuse for not approaching and we know that as well. If your best friend unexpectedly ran into you while you were lifting, you'd stop to talk to him. Same thing goes, you can spare a quick minute to go talk to that extremely hot girl that all the guys are eyeing.
2) If you're wondering about the "rules" then you don't do much daygame. I believe that in general, it's against the "rules" of society to approach a woman AT ALL. At least in a daytime setting. To cold approach in the daytime is to break a social norm. But you know what, fwck social norms.
3) Who cares if she gives you eye contact or not before you approach, it doesn't really mean anything, unless she is blatantly eye-fwcking the sh1t out of you, which I've probably only seen twice in my life. None of the girls I've cold approached who ended up going out with me made eye contact with me prior to my approach - in fact, I think most of them didn't even see me until I approached. On the contrary, I've had some girls make eye contact with me, act really friendly when I approach, then proceed to reject me or tell me they have a boyfriend/husband/fiancee.

I used to be deathly afraid of the "creeper who hits on all the girls" status. Now I've realized that 1)people don't actually give that much of a sh1t what you do and 2)it's actually kind of fwcking hilarious when people know you regularly approach girls

This was hilarious....but dead on. I am going to start engaging in the gym.

Guys who have made the gym approaches...any pointers on openers? My normal night opener usually is a compliment on how cute she is etc.

What do you think as far as gym openers that have worked from your experience?

 

[sageproduct]

Well I like making my approaches direct so its always a variation of "Hi you're cute I had to meet you."

I think I said something once like "You know you're ruining my workout because I can't stop checking you out"

 

[Purefilth]

Well I like making my approaches direct so its always a variation of "Hi you're cute I had to meet you."

I think I said something once like "You know you're ruining my workout because I can't stop checking you out"

And my guess is that it didn't result in a number or date.

 

[bish0p]

None of the girls I've cold approached who ended up going out with me made eye contact with me prior to my approach - in fact, I think most of them didn't even see me until I approached. On the contrary, I've had some girls make eye contact with me, act really friendly when I approach, then proceed to reject me or tell me they have a boyfriend/husband/fiancee.

I'm not trying to start an argument here, but in another thread it seemed as if you were questioning me on similar situations I've had with women...but I'm now reading that you have had these same experiences?

What the hell, man lol

 

[bish0p]

And my guess is that it didn't result in a number or date.

Have you ever tried it? Because I've used similar openers before...not at the gym, but in day game and I've had success with it.

 

[sageproduct]

And my guess is that it didn't result in a number or date.

Actually, I've done 3 approaches at the gym that I can remember.

1. Had a bf, but gave me her number. Didn't really pursue anything w/her, it was clear she wasn't going to cheat and I could kind of see she wasn't hot/social enough to be good social proof.
2. Engaged.
3. Polite rejection, I was really sluggish/off that day

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Don't remember disagreeing with you. Checked your post history, if you're talking about this thread, I actually totally agreed with you on that topic and my question was purely inquisitive.

 

[Purefilth]

Have you ever tried it? Because I've used similar openers before...not at the gym, but in day game and I've had success with it.

lol purely directed at sageproduct And Ive never used that opener - it doesnt feel natural for me, and it seems canned to read it.

Ill normally go with a situational opener - and guage the response I get on how to direct the convo / walk off.

No offense sage, but you have had ONE date, that doesn't make you an expert.

I'm still waiting for the LR- then ill stop giving you little digs like this.

Don't take it personally, I just dont get the whole virgin giving pickup advice thing.

Keep at your plays though

 

[sageproduct]

I'm not giving advice. Just offering my experiences, since only one person who posted before me in this thread actually had experience picking up at the gym to share.

And it was a phone number, not a date.

 

[ARrocket]

lol purely directed at sageproduct And Ive never used that opener - it doesnt feel natural for me, and it seems canned to read it.

Ill normally go with a situational opener - and guage the response I get on how to direct the convo / walk off.

No offense sage, but you have had ONE date, that doesn't make you an expert.

I'm still waiting for the LR- then ill stop giving you little digs like this.

Don't take it personally, I just dont get the whole virgin giving pickup advice thing.

Keep at your plays though

Actually Purefilth, I disagree. Virgins shouldn't give advice on how to have sex. But getting a girl's number, getting her attracted to you, and getting her to MEET you are usually prerequisites to sex, and being a virgin has nothing to do with your ability to excel at these preliminary steps.

Back on topic, I'm a fan of the direct approach as well, but I'm not sure if it's appropriate for the gym; I'd probably go situational, but try both of them out and see for yourself

 

[bish0p]

Don't remember disagreeing with you. Checked your post history, if you're talking about this thread, I actually totally agreed with you on that topic and my question was purely inquisitive.

Yea that's it....not a big deal, I probably just read it wrong.

Good to see guys around here doing direct game..
.it's definitely one of my favorites.

 

[BadNews]

Well I like making my approaches direct so its always a variation of "Hi you're cute I had to meet you."

I think I said something once like "You know you're ruining my workout because I can't stop checking you out"

I hate this approach - it reeks of AFC to me. Can you picture James Bond using a line like that when approaching a woman? PLEASE come up with something either more creative, or suave. There is literally nothing "cool" about walking up to a girl and spewing "you're cute I had to meet you" out of your mouth. I watched your pickup videos, and while I truly applaud you for approaching, you need to have something better to say to get a conversation started. Just my 2 cents.

Actually Purefilth, I disagree. Virgins shouldn't give advice on how to have sex. But getting a girl's number, getting her attracted to you, and getting her to MEET you are usually prerequisites to sex, and being a virgin has nothing to do with your ability to excel at these preliminary steps.

Back on topic, I'm a fan of the direct approach as well, but I'm not sure if it's appropriate for the gym; I'd probably go situational, but try both of them out and see for yourself

I do not agree with you. Women give their numbers to guys ALL THE TIME - it literally means nothing. I could get 20 numbers a day if that were my goal (hell make it 100 if I don't care what they look like), but what does that prove? You are correct about the creating attraction part, and unfortunately being a 20 year old virgin is pretty solid evidence that our friend has been unable to create said "attraction" from any of these numbers he has obtained.

"Hi you're cute I had to meet you." WILL NOT make a girl think "oh, this guy is so attractive" and then proceed to undress you with her eyes.
More likely she will think "Aww, thats kinda cute" or "Umm, ok...this is officially awkward."

One of my plates told me about some dude hitting on her literally yesterday. (Yes this was obviously some sort of sh!t test, but I don't play those games)
From what I gathered the interaction went something like this:

"You're very fetching, I had to come meet you."
According to her "awkward conversation" ensued as she was forced to talk to this guy while waiting for the train.
She said, and I quote, "It was SO uncomfortable."

...Sounds slightly familiar...I can post copies of the conversation between us if this seems too much a coincidence for you. Let me know.

 

[bish0p]

I hate this approach - it reeks of AFC to me. Can you picture James Bond using a line like that when approaching a woman? PLEASE come up with something either more creative, or suave. There is literally nothing "cool" about walking up to a girl and spewing "you're cute I had to meet you" out of your mouth. I watched your pickup videos, and while I truly applaud you for approaching, you need to have something better to say to get a conversation started. Just my 2 cents.



I do not agree with you. Women give their numbers to guys ALL THE TIME - it literally means nothing. I could get 20 numbers a day if that were my goal (hell make it 100 if I don't care what they look like), but what does that prove? You are correct about the creating attraction part, and unfortunately being a 20 year old virgin is pretty solid evidence that our friend has been unable to create said "attraction" from any of these numbers he has obtained.

"Hi you're cute I had to meet you." WILL NOT make a girl think "oh, this guy is so attractive" and then proceed to undress you with her eyes.
More likely she will think "Aww, thats kinda cute" or "Umm, ok...this is officially awkward."

One of my plates told me about some dude hitting on her literally yesterday. (Yes this was obviously some sort of sh!t test, but I don't play those games)
From what I gathered the interaction went something like this:

"You're very fetching, I had to come meet you."
According to her "awkward conversation" ensued as she was forced to talk to this guy while waiting for the train.
She said, and I quote, "It was SO uncomfortable."

...Sounds slightly familiar...I can post copies of the conversation between us if this seems too much a coincidence for you. Let me know.

Here's the thing with the direct method that I've always liked...it's a time saver. I feel that either a girl is going to like me or she's not. With the direct approach I'm not wasting my time.

Was it a sure thing every time? Of course not. But neitherwas indirect gaming (no matter what sosuave is, the method is indirect).

You guys seem to make such a big deal out of how to approach women when it's just not that hard. All you gotta do is get over the embarrassing part and approach how you want.