Asked a girl out by email - comments on response

[Magnatolia]

Hi All,

I asked a girl that I knowby email if she'd be interested in catching up and seeing a movie or something with me. When she got back she replied and said that she's really busy over the next week or so but that she would get back to me about catching up.

Is this a positive response or her way of saying she's not interested?

Thanks

 

[Tomatoes]

You know what? She might be busy for then next week....?

Leave it be for a week then ask again. When you ask say in a way "if your not still busy would you wanna blah blah blah"

See what she says... If she still aint got time for you. Shes prob not intrested.

 

[MightyMate]

Why dont You wait a week and see. Btw i think You should ask the girl that You know on at least messanger if You dont want to phone.

 

[JJMcLure]

Don't hold your breath!

Maybe she is telling the truth, maybe not. So if you are confused as to what her response means or disappointed she didn't say yes, maybe next time you will ASK HER IN PERSON or at least ON THE PHONE. Then you not only maximise your chances but you can interpret her body language/voice tonality and determine the meaning better.

Asking a chick out by e-mail is weak. They know it, and you know it.

Think how many guys ask her out in person, and then you do it by e-mail. Think how it makes you look. More or less confident? Less is the answer. That works against you badly.

Say she does suspect you aren't comfortable speaking to her to ask her out, then she wonders what the date would hold in store. Several hours of uncomfortableness, nervousness? She wants to avoid that.

Next time you see her just act normal. Neither ignore her or chase her like a puppy.

 

[ER!C L!VE]

I haven't had any luck with girls who give me answers like "I'm busy". I'd mentally next this girl and meet other girls online in chat rooms, myspace, hotornot, etc. You could shoot her another email again in a couple of weeks, however ask for her phone number and ask her out on the phone or in person. If she's down, you're in. If she's still 'busy', then move on. If she's too busy to talk on the phone, then forget her.

I don't like to ask girls out online. I prefer to get the girl on the phone and ask at the peak of a good conversation about sex.

Keep casting out your net and catch as many fish as you can. Keep the good ones.

Good Luck! :cheer:

 

[Q-Pid]

******** for "persuade me better"

 

[DJHoolahoop]

its about a bunch of things though. I don't think one can just say that a guy is being weak by asking a girl out by e-mail. Sometimes that gives the girl a better chance at responding. Is pressuring a girl into going out on a date or not giving her the chance to think about it the way to go? Or is it better to find a girl who actually is past all of that and doesn't think "oh, this guy is obviously a loser if he has to e-mail me."

how bout this, see how the guy is outside of the e-mail. If he obviously uses e-mails and online forms of communication as his crutch to talking to girls, then chances are he will be different in person. Does a DJ concern himself with how he bags a girl? or bagging a girl that is actually interested in him?

 

[tmpgstx]

The more insecure a girl is .. the more 'in the moment' you have to be in supressing her fickleness. E-mailing a girl with insecurities is giving her an easy way out. If she is confident and finds you interesting - you wouldn't get the 'over the next week or so'. The 'or so' part is NOT good. It indicates passivness and very little interest. She is just being nice by replying.

 

[Logen]

Originally posted by Q1
******** for "persuade me better"

i agree. or she may just not be interested.

demonstrate higher value and ****y funny.

here's an aim convo i just ahd with a pretty hot chick. she was totally not into me at first, ignoring me and all that. a few well placed ****y funny and negs and i got ehr to meet me at my school.


(23:50:01) (23:50:01) logen: hay what are you doing tomorrow? like in the evening
(23:50:51) Babe11: mmmm not sure
(23:50:52) Babe11: why?
(23:51:00) Babe11: whats tommorow?
(23:51:01) Babe11: thurs?
(23:51:05) Babe11: yeaaa
(23:53:18) logen: yes thursday no ****
(23:53:27) logen: we'll hang out
(23:53:38) logen: i work at ****** college can you come to 68th street?
(23:54:01) Babe11: and do what?
(23:54:11) logen: have crazy sex
(23:54:14) logen: duh
(23:54:36) Babe11: uhhhhh sureeeeeeeeee
(23:54:47) logen: ok see that was a joke
(23:54:53) logen: like hang out you know
(23:54:57) logen: like normal people
(23:56:30) Babe11: i know but where?
(23:56:41) Babe11: what are the plansss????
(23:56:46) logen: at ****** college
(23:56:58) logen: ***** i make plans up on the spot i'm very dynamic and adventures
(23:57:08) logen: we may end up in like africa or something you never know
(23:57:29) Babe11: lolz
(23:57:37) Babe11: sounds exciting
(23:58:13) logen: i assume that's a yes?
(23:58:29) Babe11: sure what time?
(23:58:52) logen: 12noon
(23:59:28) Babe11: thats cool
(23:59:39) Babe11: ****** college is pretty big so where?
(23:59:41) logen: we can check ******'s gym out he has a sweet place
(23:59:47) logen:****** college is not big
(23:59:59) logen: where? my number is ***** *** ****
(00:00:04) logen: call when you get out of the train
(00:00:22) logen: i'm not waiting outside in the cold for you sorry
(00:00:32) Babe11: geee well thanks
(00:00:35) Babe11: hahahhaa
(00:00:50) logen: oh snap whats this an attitude?
(00:01:28) Babe11: stop being so immature mike
(00:01:36) Babe11: geezzz louiseee
(00:01:48) logen: lol
(00:01:59) logen: awesome you're getting the hang of it
(00:03:08) Babe11: hahahahaa


edit: the ***** are names and stuff. not curses.

 

[Hunterchilla]

i disagree with every post, there is no ******** or anything like that

if you want to meet someone, a friend, a girlfriend, or a lover anything like that, your not gonna say im busy for the WHOLE WEEK>

a girl said this to me, then i waited a week and then i asked her again and she said she was busy that week aswell. GIRLS are not gonna be straight up and say NO i dont like you, their gonna avoid the confrontation. SO in my oppinion if she said that shes not interested.

busy or not, id ****ing try to make time.