I asked a girl to come out kayaking with me (not a bad date idea) and she agreed. Then I find out she invited her sister and her friend to tag along. I just met this girl about a week ago, so maybe she's just not comfortable enough yet to hang out us 2 by ourselves, or maybe she's just not interested. What do you guys think?
ask her on a date, she invites her sister and friend. now what?
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Maximus Rex
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I would say leave. That's what Leykis would recommend, but since I've read and become versed in seduction material, now I would say treat this the same way, you treat approaching a target in a group setting. Use group theory, negs, jealousy plotlines, and social proof. Also use these chicks to open other sets.
If this had happened to me, I would have told her that "I invited you, not your friends."
It's kind of rude on her part to just have these people tag along.
I would tell them not to come. You definitely wont be getting any from this girl from this date, and most likely not for future ones.
I wouldn't say "next" her right away, but maybe ask her on one more date, this time ALONE and see what happens.
It's kind of rude on her part to just have these people tag along.
I would tell them not to come. You definitely wont be getting any from this girl from this date, and most likely not for future ones.
I wouldn't say "next" her right away, but maybe ask her on one more date, this time ALONE and see what happens.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
I'll go against the grain and pretty much disagree with all the advice given in this thread.
You asked her to go KAYAKING. On a FIRST "date." In fact, that doesn't even sound like a date...sounds like a fun time, but doesn't sound intimate at all. Which is PROBABLY why she assumed it would be alright to invite people along.
YES, it was a RUDE move on her part to invite people along without consulting you first, but as far as the seduction part of this is concerned, I don't think it's a huge red flag.
I mean, if somebody invited me to go skydiving with them, and I knew another person who had been dying to go skydiving, I'd think to invite them along.
IMO a FIRST date should be something FAR more casual, FAR more intimate, and FAR LESS time consuming.
So you can go kayaking if you want, or you can cancel. IF you think you have enough game to game her somewhat in a group setting, go for it. Maybe afterward you can get her back to your place, maybe not. But the next time you see her, there HAS to be isolation. Ya dig?
You asked her to go KAYAKING. On a FIRST "date." In fact, that doesn't even sound like a date...sounds like a fun time, but doesn't sound intimate at all. Which is PROBABLY why she assumed it would be alright to invite people along.
YES, it was a RUDE move on her part to invite people along without consulting you first, but as far as the seduction part of this is concerned, I don't think it's a huge red flag.
I mean, if somebody invited me to go skydiving with them, and I knew another person who had been dying to go skydiving, I'd think to invite them along.
IMO a FIRST date should be something FAR more casual, FAR more intimate, and FAR LESS time consuming.
So you can go kayaking if you want, or you can cancel. IF you think you have enough game to game her somewhat in a group setting, go for it. Maybe afterward you can get her back to your place, maybe not. But the next time you see her, there HAS to be isolation. Ya dig?
You can do whatever you want, just think of it as a win-win situation.
If you tell her you only invited her, not her friends, your intentions will be more clear. If she finds this rude or chooses not to come at all then, you've saved yourself a good amount of time and money.
If you don't say anything, just treat her and her friends as a group. It'll be even easier for you because you'll already have a bit of social proof since she has already agreed to hang out with you. You can also use the other girls to open up new opportunities.
If you tell her you only invited her, not her friends, your intentions will be more clear. If she finds this rude or chooses not to come at all then, you've saved yourself a good amount of time and money.
If you don't say anything, just treat her and her friends as a group. It'll be even easier for you because you'll already have a bit of social proof since she has already agreed to hang out with you. You can also use the other girls to open up new opportunities.