What do you think about relationships at work? Or maybe not to be in a relationship but only to have sex? Is it possible to hit on your manager? There is my manager who I really like. I commented on her status saying stay sweet and she replied to me :
I appreciate the nice words, but please don’t say to me things like that. I’m your manager.
What to do? Tips, advice
A lot of this depends upon the type of work you do and how your current job fits into your career.
If you're working a white collar type job, then it's not a good idea to try to start and to maintain romantic relationships with your co-workers. There's a lot of risk in doing this. I'll highlight the reasons one by one.
A lot of white collar, office/corporate roles have environments that actively discourage starting these interactions though strict harrassment rules, #MeToo, and other policies. These elements are enforced by the Human Resources Departments, which is usually staffed by anti-male feminists.
If you manage to sidestep HR problems with your interactions with women at work, then there's the reality that romantic interactions fail. As a result, you now have to regularly interact with someone with whom you shared a failed romantic interaction. Depending on the length and intensity of the romantic interaction, this can range from mildly annoying and very unpleasant. Mildly annoying would be an interaction that was 1-2 dates with no sex prior to failure. Very unpleasant would be some sort of multiple month to multiple year romantic relationship that failed. Dealing with this person will stink and will likely cause you to go want to get a new job. It's not easy to get a new white collar job, regardless of economic conditions. It usually takes somewhere between multiple months to a year to find a new white collar job.
This is why people say, don't shiit where you eat.
There are types of jobs where a man can get away with starting romantic interactions at work. These are usually in lower to moderate wage service sector jobs which are often not long term jobs. These happen in gyms, bars, restaurants, retail stores, and nightlife. Nightclub bouncers date strippers and female bartenders regularly. Male and female fitness trainers in gyms tend to have sex a decent amount. A lot of young (usually under 25) retail store and restaurant workers have short term sexual relationships with each other, and then move on to other lines of work, sometimes while one or both attends college and then later goes into white collar work.
Blue collar work tends not to have a lot of females in it, so it's rare that blue collar males have dating opportunities at work.
Out of all the women in your workplace, in your social circle, on the streets, in your city, you have to hit on your manager, the single person on whom your job and career depend? Just don't do it man. Apologize and move on, this was a bad move.
I agree that a female manager is the worst person to hit on at work, even if a man happens to be working some lower wage service sector job where it is acceptable to date while at work.
It seems like the female manager handled the situation well. Things could have been worse. She could have reported him to HR and he could face termination.
