MatureDJ
Master Don Juan
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https://medium.com/@penny.lipmann/h...y-truth-low-status-invisible-men-e6fecc7ad93a
The author seems to say here that "day game" doesn't work:I focus on the lowest of the low here—men with almost nothing going for them in terms of looks, status, wealth, family, education, intelligence, or social skills. These people deserve empathy and help. But I don’t know how to help them and my honest answer to the question: will I give them a chance, hang out with them, get to know them, maybe date them? Is hell freaking no!
Of course I’m ignoring them for very good reasons. For starters, because they’re exhibiting such low levels of social intelligence by employing a strategy that involves bestowing unwanted attention on someone who is clearly unreceptive. But also because it’s the simplest way to shut them down — don’t engage.
Beyond a first failed attempt, these guys should not invade my personal space or pressure me to show interest in them. But here’s the thing, these are not smart men. That doesn’t excuse them from being, at best, pests, and at worst, sexual predators. But I really can understand why, in their minds, I seem like a stuck up *****. I genuinely do think I’m better than them. These guys are pathetic losers to me.
Shouting after you, ‘you’re such a stuck up *****,’ as you walk away from them with quiet contempt is not the kind of thing a man with any power says.
These men have reasons to feel disgruntled, they’re devalued by society and don’t know how to acquire value because they often don’t have the social/emotional intelligence or support to overcome their difficulties alone.
Am I suggesting it might be better if some of the worst kinds of invisible men were never born? Maybe. My gut instinct says yes ...
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