arghhhhhhhh!!!!!

[wizzard]

ok Guys,in short
So ive known a hb for a year and recently had a bit of a thing goin with her, more just **** buddys, but im kinda interested in developing it further, but she says she is confused as she has been hurt in the past and doesnt know if she is ready for a relationship!! Then she asks me if we can go on holiday together!!

So, we talk about it, and decide to go, but i wasnt sure if it was just as 'friends' or something more............. so, anyway, i leave her alone for a bit, to let her 'think' ....lol about what she wants to do regarding a Rs.... I text her to ask if she wants me to pick up some brochures, and she doesnt anwser, then i see her briefly the next day, (not really to talk to, she was working) and i got the vibe she was uncomfortable seeing me, so im guessing she has bombed out for some reason, but her best friend told me, that she really likes me, but just doesnt know about RS, so i know she is really attracted to me!!
Do i sit it out for a bit n see if she comes round, or do i just next her?
thanx

 

[Donny Brasco]

Option A - Just move on, find some other girl, let her know, either she comes around or you lose her.

Option B - Lose your self respect, grovel and be your AFC self. Give her all of the control and get punted a few weeks/months because she finds a better loser.

If she is attracted to you this "I've been hurt before" does not wash. If you don't play the game right your going to lose. It is a game, she's playing a game with you.

Thats my perspective anyways. If she's your phuckbuddy why not just leave it at that?

 

[Nannu]

Yeah, sex is the whole point isn't it? And you're already getting that...so just chill and she'll start missing you and come back and she'll leave and try to get you to act like an AFC but you won't...so she'll come back and **** your brains out....and she'll leave and try to get you to act like an .....an on and on and on until she's convinced that she "loves" you....whatever the hell that is.

 

[wizzard]

yep, they are the two options, but i wouldnt say that liking one girl ,makes you an AFC! Im here to geta LTR, because A) im 32., and ive done the shagging around bit, and B) i like them!

Ok, i understand that i cant 'force' her to be with me, and nor should i chase her like a lost puppy (YUK!!!), so maybe i SHOULD call her on it, the problem being, that if you pressure someone too much, they tell you to get lost, cos it kills the attraction, because its an AFC thing to do! And im not average, im not frustrated, nor am i a chump, im a good guy, that happens to like a particular girl, and so lies my confusion.

Probably is playing 'games' , but only with herself, its only a game if you both play! But, i WILL not, pine for her, if she doesnt respond, nor will i draw my curtains and sulk in a dark room for days on end, i have a good life, and will continue to live it, so im thinking, that i'll just let her get on with it, and if she decides she wants it, then, if i havent mentally moved on from her already, i would go with her, dunno wht else to do............
Thanx for the reply my friend
ps i sent her a txt sayin somethin like, if she didnt want to go away, that was ok, shes bein too distant, so i wouldnt contact her again, and not to worry bout answering back, cos its ok

 

[Donny Brasco]

She wants her cake and wants to eat it too, right?? Tircky, good luck. Remember there's 3 Billion others out there.