get some wayne dyer cds. either buy them or find a place to download them.
they aren't about gaming - they're better.
to me the "game" is like learning how to walk when you are blind. it works, but you're still blind - you may get the chic but you haven't evolved as a human being - your base urges are just better met.
go beyond just trying to figure out women. figure out life!
you may think getting a woman is the answer, but man, i tell ya, its not. I could have been married 4 times over by now, and im sooooo glad im not. i wasn't ready for it and instead of growing i probably would have been stuck in whatever state i was presently in with which ever woman i was with. the same old emotional roller coaster.
im just entering a point in life where im happy with myself and happy with whatever life has to offer at whatever moment. I can take the tough times in stride and i can enjoy the good times when they present themselves.
the old stoic philosophers would say this is the gift given to men. They aren't coddled like women, they are cast out into the world and forced to find their own way. no one will ever come to save you as a man - especially not a woman.
it may seem like a punishment, until you find the strength to grow strong. then you pity these women who lack such character as to have to seduce, manipulate and use trickery to try and get what they want. You'll walk proud through life and nothing will be able to knock you to your knees. And should something manage that, you'll have the strength to get back up, by your own will alone.
Being a man is hard, but if you rise to the challenge, you will experience a life that a woman could only hope to have. One of character, strength, determination, virtue, honesty, and more.
anyway, i dont think of wayne dyer as self help (even though many will say he is). I'd call him a teacher, and he teaches you to put your life in the appropriate context. something like tony robbins (although i think tony robbins is a manic nutjob in comparison to dyer).
it's never too late man. you may think your life is crap right now, but there are TONS of people in loveless marriages your age and older. Some will get divorced. Some will live their lives out in a loveless marriage because its all they know, they don't feel they can do better, or they lack the courage to take life on by themselves.
And let's be clear on one thing also. Any guy, and i mean almost ANY guy can get a girl if he wants one badly enough. There are tons of average women out htere who would date almost any guy if he had the balls to ask her out.
So i'm guessing here that ultimately you aren't really looking for a relationship, but rather are looking for a savior - in the form of a woman. The moment women sense this, they aren't interested - because THEY are the weak ones looking for a savior.
Its like as much as you want a woman would you want one that could offer you nothing but only wanted you because they thought you could save them?
Once you save yourself you will have more women than you know what to do with.
Set aside the six months to a year of your life to saving yourself. Commit to an exercise routine. Commit to working on your low self esteem. Commit to focusing on yoru career. etc.
You can do it man. Anyone can change their life around in six months if they want to and are prepared to rise to the challenge.
Your own worst enemy is you, not some chic. Win the inner battle first and the world and women will be a cake walk.
I'm rooting for ya!
J
