Blue Phoenix
Master Don Juan
Are You a Soft Target for Manipulators?
Read each statement below. If the statement is true or mostly
true for you, circle T; if it is false or mostly false, circle F. Be
sure to circle either T or F for every item. No fence-sitting.
1. I should always try to please other people T F
and make them happy.
2. I have always needed the approval of other T F
people.
3. Other people should be kind and caring to T F
me in return because of how well I treat them.
4. I often feel that I do not have a clear sense T F
of my own identity.
5. Other people should never reject or criticize T F
me because I always try my best to live up
to their expectations, needs, and desires.
6. It is very difficult for me to turn down a T F
request from a friend, family member, or
someone at work.
7. Often, being nice prevents me from T F
expressing negative feelings toward others.
8. I believe that nothing good can come from T F
conflict.
9. I believe that most of the things that happen T F
to me are more in the control of other
people than within my own control.
10. I am always deeply concerned about what T F
others think of me in nearly every area of
my life.
11. I should always try to do what others want, T F
expect, or need from me.
12. I would feel very guilty if I did not make the T F
needs of others more important than my own.
13. I tend to rely more on the opinions and T F
judgments of others than I do on my own
opinions and judgments.
14. My sense of self-worth and value comes T F
from how much I do for others.
15. I believe that people like me because of all T F
the things I do for them.
16. I very seldom say no to anyone who needs T F
my help or wants me to do a favor.
17. I have a great deal of trouble making T F
decisions on my own.
18. I would have difficulty describing who I T F
really am or what I think, feel, or believe
independent of how other people see me.
19. I am easily intimidated by another person’s T F
display of anger or hostility.
20. Other people should never be angry with T F
me because I would go to any length to
avoid conflict, anger, or confrontation
with them.
21. It is extremely important to me to be liked T F
by nearly everyone in my life.
22. I feel that I need to earn other people’s T F
love or approval by doing things to make
them happy.
23. I often say yes when I would like to say T F
no to requests from others.
24. I would go to almost any length to avoid T F
a confrontation.
25. I believe that other people would question T F
my value as a person if I did not do things
for them.
26. I believe that luck, opportunity, and the T F
goodwill of others have much more to do
with what happens to me than anything
that I do by myself.
27. I should always try to put other people first, before me. T F
28. I think it is my responsibility to calm down T F
people around me if they become agitated,
angry or aggressive.
29. I often feel confused by all the feedback I T F
get from others about how to run my life.
30. I want everyone to think of me as a nice person. T F
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Read each statement below. If the statement is true or mostly
true for you, circle T; if it is false or mostly false, circle F. Be
sure to circle either T or F for every item. No fence-sitting.
1. I should always try to please other people T F
and make them happy.
2. I have always needed the approval of other T F
people.
3. Other people should be kind and caring to T F
me in return because of how well I treat them.
4. I often feel that I do not have a clear sense T F
of my own identity.
5. Other people should never reject or criticize T F
me because I always try my best to live up
to their expectations, needs, and desires.
6. It is very difficult for me to turn down a T F
request from a friend, family member, or
someone at work.
7. Often, being nice prevents me from T F
expressing negative feelings toward others.
8. I believe that nothing good can come from T F
conflict.
9. I believe that most of the things that happen T F
to me are more in the control of other
people than within my own control.
10. I am always deeply concerned about what T F
others think of me in nearly every area of
my life.
11. I should always try to do what others want, T F
expect, or need from me.
12. I would feel very guilty if I did not make the T F
needs of others more important than my own.
13. I tend to rely more on the opinions and T F
judgments of others than I do on my own
opinions and judgments.
14. My sense of self-worth and value comes T F
from how much I do for others.
15. I believe that people like me because of all T F
the things I do for them.
16. I very seldom say no to anyone who needs T F
my help or wants me to do a favor.
17. I have a great deal of trouble making T F
decisions on my own.
18. I would have difficulty describing who I T F
really am or what I think, feel, or believe
independent of how other people see me.
19. I am easily intimidated by another person’s T F
display of anger or hostility.
20. Other people should never be angry with T F
me because I would go to any length to
avoid conflict, anger, or confrontation
with them.
21. It is extremely important to me to be liked T F
by nearly everyone in my life.
22. I feel that I need to earn other people’s T F
love or approval by doing things to make
them happy.
23. I often say yes when I would like to say T F
no to requests from others.
24. I would go to almost any length to avoid T F
a confrontation.
25. I believe that other people would question T F
my value as a person if I did not do things
for them.
26. I believe that luck, opportunity, and the T F
goodwill of others have much more to do
with what happens to me than anything
that I do by myself.
27. I should always try to put other people first, before me. T F
28. I think it is my responsibility to calm down T F
people around me if they become agitated,
angry or aggressive.
29. I often feel confused by all the feedback I T F
get from others about how to run my life.
30. I want everyone to think of me as a nice person. T F
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