"are you mad at me?"

[calvran]

There's this girl, hooked up with her once, then called her to go out again (too soon) and she lost all IL. I start ignoring her, sometimes saying hi if I see her. Tonight I wave to her and she comes up to me and asks if I am mad at her. I ask her what would give her that impression, she says "You never talk to me anymore!", I jokingly go into the whole, "Okay then, how have you been?" blah blah blah with her for a few minutes, and she was digging it somewhat, but I didn't really stick around to see.

My question : What is the proper response to this?

 

[Lan]

Originally posted by calvran
...asks if I am mad at her...

What is the proper response to this?

Dont answer her and say this right back to her.

Are you mad at me?

--Lan

 

[Evil-Rom]

You failed the test.

 

[The TallOne]

Originally posted by Evil-Rom
You failed the test.

I understand that he did fail it..

But perhaps you could enlighten him as to what would have been a good response?

 

[Lan]

Dude... I just posted what he could say. There isnt much better than that bro. Its called a **** test JUST in case you didnt know that.

How to pass a **** test a la TD

1. DYD Style: The answer she wants followed by something sarcastic.
HB: Where were you last night?
You: At home all night thinking about you...... but then I got bored and called over 10 strippers..
Plays on her emotions and disarms her anger initially. You give her the answer she wants, but save you from looking like a biotch following with the sarcasm.

2. Immitate her tonality, facial animations, and body language.

3. Ignore her comment.

4. Withdraw - It has the potential to convey that you have other GF's or can at least get them.. Shows her she is replaceable..

--Lan

 

[squirrels]

Usually when girls say "Are you mad at me..." you can safely assume they mean, "Are you not going to be my friend just because I'm disgusted by the thought of romance with you?"

 

[Lan]

LoL Squirrels... I had to read that a couple of times before I understood what you were saying.. Its probably because Im up WAAAY past my regular bed time...

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

The perfect answer...

"Should I be?"

Let her show her cards first and then you can retort appropriately...

 

[manicmaximum]

Originally posted by squirrels
Usually when girls say "Are you mad at me..." you can safely assume they mean, "Are you not going to be my friend just because I'm disgusted by the thought of romance with you?"

brilliant

 

[Lan]

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
The perfect answer...

"Should I be?"

Let her show her cards first and then you can retort appropriately...

I dont agree with this because it puts you in a supplicating frame.

 

[ScrewIt]

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
The perfect answer...

"Should I be?"

Let her show her cards first and then you can retort appropriately...

I kind of agree with Lan on this. This appears somewhat of a ****y indirect way of implying that you are mad, yet not stating directly that you are.

if you want to presetn to the girl that ur not pissed.
try this: "why would i be?"

it shows u havent lost your cool and that having a grudge or soemthing against her is completely oblivious to you.

 

[Lan]

No no no...

refer back to my first post on the thread. That is HOOP THEORY at work.

--Lan

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Lan
I dont agree with this because it puts you in a supplicating frame.

How so? You're asking as if you could care less what she has done since what ever it was has not bothered you enough to even notice. How's that supplication?

 

[Lan]

When you say that, you have accepted HER frame. Its just like a **** test. Thats why you use hoop theory.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I still don't get it. Seriously, bust some knowledge on me...

(That's "Ol'skool" for you young bucks).

 

[Scrumtulescence]

Originally posted by squirrels
Usually when girls say "Are you mad at me..." you can safely assume they mean, "Are you not going to be my friend just because I'm disgusted by the thought of romance with you?"

Like many posts on these boards, a gross generalization.