40quid
Don Juan
As you can see, I haven't posted here in a long time. In fact, I'd forgotten about sosuave.net and fastseduction.com until I picked up a copy of "The Game" by Neil Strauss.
Throughout my life, I've always been good at school. I'd always been good at other things as well, such as music, but the one thing that I felt was completely out of reach was having success with women.
Sure, I'd meet women, but the ones that I liked never liked me back. I made a list a long time ago about the type of women I would like to meet and I was quite taken aback by my high standards.
She needs to be:
- smart
- someone who "gets" my sense of humor
- really attractive
- well-cultured and classy - she needs to be able to handle herself in formal situations
Until recently, women who met these standards never liked me back. When I got tired of getting turned down, I finally turned my attention inward. After a long time, I realized the painful truth:
My life is a mess. I need to get my house in order.
I looked in the mirror on day and named off everything in my life that I felt that I needed to improve.
(1) I had an acne problem
(2) My teeth needed cleaning
(3) I was overweight
(4) I was a smoker
(5) I was blindly self-centered and no fun to talk to
(6) I spent entirely too much time worrying about my lack of success with women
(7) I was nervous when speaking to women I was physically attracted to
(8) I felt nervous when speaking in public
. . . and on and on and on.
I picked several things on that list and worked on them until they got handled. First, I worked on my diet and stopped eating all that horrible fast food. That started to clear up my skin. I made an appointment with a dentist and worked on my teeth and breath issues.
I found some exercise regime that I could stick with and worked out 3-4 times a week so that I've lost 20 lbs and put on some muscle. I stopped smoking because it affected my workouts. I started actively asking about other people during conversations, instead of always referring the topic at hand back to myself.
I forced myself to get involved in my university alumni network and jumped at a chance to work with influential members of the network. I started conquering my fear of public speaking by speaking at these alumni meetings.
And then. . . and then . . . the women mysteriously started appearing in my life. First, I would meet them through alumni meetings or through mutual friends. Then, I found that I would just naturally attract them because of who I was becoming -- a secure, fun, dynamic person with a large social network. I've found that I don't have enough hours in the week to hang out with my various groups of friends. Now, my friends are actively trying to set me up with single women that they know.
I've also found that because I'm so busy, I don't have time to worry whether or not a particular girl will call me back. If one doesn't, fine, I can go out and meet another three or four girls in the next couple of weeks.
All I'm saying is this -- all of you out there who are having problems with meeting women -- turn off your computers. Make a list of all the things that you need to work on and WORK ON THEM.
Go out and get a life. The women will come later. YOU have to be ready for them first.
Throughout my life, I've always been good at school. I'd always been good at other things as well, such as music, but the one thing that I felt was completely out of reach was having success with women.
Sure, I'd meet women, but the ones that I liked never liked me back. I made a list a long time ago about the type of women I would like to meet and I was quite taken aback by my high standards.
She needs to be:
- smart
- someone who "gets" my sense of humor
- really attractive
- well-cultured and classy - she needs to be able to handle herself in formal situations
Until recently, women who met these standards never liked me back. When I got tired of getting turned down, I finally turned my attention inward. After a long time, I realized the painful truth:
My life is a mess. I need to get my house in order.
I looked in the mirror on day and named off everything in my life that I felt that I needed to improve.
(1) I had an acne problem
(2) My teeth needed cleaning
(3) I was overweight
(4) I was a smoker
(5) I was blindly self-centered and no fun to talk to
(6) I spent entirely too much time worrying about my lack of success with women
(7) I was nervous when speaking to women I was physically attracted to
(8) I felt nervous when speaking in public
. . . and on and on and on.
I picked several things on that list and worked on them until they got handled. First, I worked on my diet and stopped eating all that horrible fast food. That started to clear up my skin. I made an appointment with a dentist and worked on my teeth and breath issues.
I found some exercise regime that I could stick with and worked out 3-4 times a week so that I've lost 20 lbs and put on some muscle. I stopped smoking because it affected my workouts. I started actively asking about other people during conversations, instead of always referring the topic at hand back to myself.
I forced myself to get involved in my university alumni network and jumped at a chance to work with influential members of the network. I started conquering my fear of public speaking by speaking at these alumni meetings.
And then. . . and then . . . the women mysteriously started appearing in my life. First, I would meet them through alumni meetings or through mutual friends. Then, I found that I would just naturally attract them because of who I was becoming -- a secure, fun, dynamic person with a large social network. I've found that I don't have enough hours in the week to hang out with my various groups of friends. Now, my friends are actively trying to set me up with single women that they know.
I've also found that because I'm so busy, I don't have time to worry whether or not a particular girl will call me back. If one doesn't, fine, I can go out and meet another three or four girls in the next couple of weeks.
All I'm saying is this -- all of you out there who are having problems with meeting women -- turn off your computers. Make a list of all the things that you need to work on and WORK ON THEM.
Go out and get a life. The women will come later. YOU have to be ready for them first.
