"Are you dating anyone else" question after 2 dates.

[Alex DeLarge]

So I went out the other night with this girl I met about a week and a half ago. I have about 3 plates going right now and this girl is my favorite so far. We were just having a conversation about relationships and stuff like that which she brought on.

Then she asks me this question "So are you dating anyone else right now?".. When I first met her she texted me saying something about how she didn't know if I had a girlfriend, I just said to her "I didn't think I gave off the vibe of a mormon to you" or some sh1t like that.

So the whole "Are you dating anyone else" thing came up the other night and I just said truthfully "No, I'm not.. To tell you the truth I don't go out on many dates, I'm usually more focused on other things going on in my life".. Although the night before I made out with 2 girls at some silly party, I don't consider those girls date-worthy whatsoever.

Do you guys think this is a red flag that she might be really clingy or insecure? I like everything about this girl so far and can definitely see things going more serious in the future, but I do not feel like I know her well enough yet to be monogamous with her yet.

Any answers are appreciated, but if you're all going to say "fvck staying with one girl they're all wh0res anyways that's not DJ.. NEXT" please don't bother replying. Thanks.

 

[Iceberg]

Do you guys think this is a red flag that she might be really clingy or insecure? I like everything about this girl so far and can definitely see things going more serious in the future, but I do not feel like I know her well enough yet to be monogamous with her yet.

She might be clingy or insecure. She kinda sounds like it. But I suppose the only way to find out for sure is to continue dating her. Just keep your eyes open.

Any answers are appreciated, but if you're all going to say "fvck staying with one girl they're all wh0res anyways that's not DJ.. NEXT" please don't bother replying. Thanks.

The kind of guys who say that probably don't even have one plate....let alone the 5 plates they recommend you having.

 

[AlexDP]

I'd just take it as a sign of interest. She seems to be curious, but that's probably all. As for exclusivity in general, I usually let the girl come up with the question. I keep quiet about the subject, because it's always a bit awkward and also because I don't want to give off any creepy vibes.

However I do have to say that I don't really spin plates myself. I'll go out and enjoy myself with women, but truth be told I don't like dating as such. I never really "formally" dated my current girlfriend and the girl before her. We just started hanging out more and more and ended up being boyfriend and girlfriend.

Perhaps some of you will consider it gay, but with all the STD's going on and people screwing each other over all the time, I always sleep with just one woman at a time. This is also because the girls I go for only have sex with guys they're exclusive with anyway (this IS common in Europe and no, I know they're not cheating).