Are Pof Girls Really Bad Relationship Material?

[soulforge]

Whats your opinion guys...there must be some good girls on there?

I must admit.. the last two girls i have tried to have relationships with, was both from Pof...

And both had issues...

How many of you have had actuall relationships with pof girls??

 

[pyros]

there could be a few 'ok' women on POF (by ok I mean with little issues), but the vast majority are fu-cked up. By vast majority I mean more than 90%.

Even if they do not look fu-cked up in the head in the begining, they are, so it is just a matter of time before you see their real issues.

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

Why on POF and none of the other sites?

 

[soulforge]

Pof and ok cupid both seem the same

 

[Solomon]

What personally amazes me is that despite nearly 20 years into it, guys are still under the assumption that online chicks are somehow different from real world chicks.

Every chick, in my opinion, has issues. But, if all of the chicks you're meeting on POF have issues, then that means that they have issues no matter where you would have met them.

So it makes more sense to look inward and ask yourself, why am I attracting all of these chicks with issues? It just doesn't make any sense to me to blame your computer or an online dating site.The crazy chick who is on an online dating site is just as crazy hanging out at the bar or when being introduced in a social circle. What difference does it make if she's using online or not? Crazy is crazy.

Women are women, so it doesn't matter where or how you meet them. The chick I meet in the bar is 99% likely either already subscribe to an online dating site, or she's at least thinking about creating an online profile.

That said, I personally think that there is a huge difference between pay-for online sites like match.com versus free sites like POF. I've scored a few ladies from POF, but the majority of chicks that I have met on that site are extremely jaded and cynical. That's because my opinion POF is pretty much only interested in securing advertising on its site.This consequently attracts low caliber people. I mean, if you're not paying for anything, then what do you have to lose?

I've had much better success over the years with match.com. I've met a lot of women, and they're just different. Yes, I know there are the same chicks on both sites. But that's more of an exception than the rule, and exceptions don't change the rules much.

I personally think of match.com as the Nordstrom of the online dating world. POF is the Walmart of the online dating world, and OKC falls somewhere in between. it's really all about expectations. When I go into Nordstrom, I expect a nice shopping Indians, quality sales people, and expensive items. We all know what to expect from Walmart.

If you live in an area like Cali/NYC/Toronto etc where there tons of hot chicks online than yes I agree but since I don't live there (though I've visited those places)



I disagree....

Women on POF (and Match in my area) are bottom of the barrel to compare it to a high end lounge or bar is ludicrous. The venues that I frequent you have to dress sharp like 95% of women in my area on POF would not get in because 1. They don't meet the dress code and 2. Those women just don't frequent the venues I go too (cause they're ugly as hell) and wouldn't get any attention

1.5 The women that are on Match in my area are the same once on POF what happens is 1. Eventually they quit Match just to do POF or Tinder I personally have seen this


2. Women online tend to have more issues HENCE they are online. I know girls in real life who don't have to resort to online dating because they are always meeting men through social circles or other areas. Women who live active lives here don't have problem meeting men. Sure like any women they have issues but most girls I meet aren't single fattie momes like on pof. On top of that the venues i go to the girls are faaaaaaaaaaar hotter. Even the ugly girls. When I go on POF I see this.... and this

when I go out in the field I see this...that's a real pic of my buddy (I took it) with 5 girls (4 being single)

Now compare the two which women would rather approach/talk too/bang/date etc???

If you live in a area where there tons of hot chicks online than I can see your point, but for a guy like myself living in a small-to midsize town online dating is only good for SLUMBUSTING. I remember a few years ago Naughtyninja (who is now banned) was helping me tweak my profile and he basically said

"dude the women in your area are hideous, GTFO"

I went to Cali in January and the women on POF are far superior sadly than in my area

One thing I learned if you stay in shape, now how to carry a conversation you will do well with cold approach. If you're good looking and white than yes online dating is easy and you can slay tons of poon but if you're colored is best to stay in shape and hit the field. I see tons of colored men doing very well with women in the field

just my 02. cents which now is $4.05 because of inflation

 

[soulforge]

any experiences of good relationships coming out of pof?

 

[hockeyfreak79]

What Solomon said! Do a search for old POF threads, it's been discussed in detail many times before.

I've had sum short term flings from OLD. They were ok for short term but that's it! I haven't gone back to pof and don't plan on it. Ever

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

its actually no different than saying girls in clubs are different than normal women...bars and old are deviant behavior harmful to women and a rejection of natural femininity, thats why they are worse

Bar H03s are bar h03s. They also live "normal" lives. If a high percentage of their time is keeping up image in the bar, then they do whatever bar h03s do...

 

[skinnyguy]

Going on POF is like sticking your hand in a dumpster

Please have some respect for yourself and stop trolling those sites. Even if the girls weren't getting 200 emails per day, I still wouldn't touch them with a 10 foot pole.

 

[devilkingx2]

it's just common sense. the fact that they have to resort to online dating would mean 1 of 2 things

1. they're bottom of the barrel amongst their peers

2. they have no lives/friends/hobbies

in the case of 1, your only hope is that wherever she's from the bottom of the barrel is really really high, like 7+ out of 10.

in the case of 2... there's still the off, off, chance that she's a hot girl with no social life... maybe she lives in the middle of nowhere?

as for personality issues, generally speaking if nobody you know irl can stand you(and if she was popular irl she wouldn't need online dating), there's a reason for that. maybe they went through everyone they know in real life or they have a rep as a crazy chick so everyone stays away.

 

[soulforge]

well i have been using POF on and off for around 2 years.. mostly for hook ups... only twice have i tried for a relationship, in both cases, these chicks had red flags all over the place..

I seriously need to accept Pof is for hook ups only, best not try to wife up these hos

 

[SmooveMooves]

Does a bear piss in the forest?

 

[soulforge]

Does a bear piss in the forest?

Meaning what lol

 

[No.Danny]

Meaning what lol

I think he's just seriously concerned.

 

[jurry]

Theres plenty of garbage on OLD because ugly psycho girls are not comfortable with themselves and dont go out as much, so you wouldnt see them in the usual locales for meeting women. This is true of both genders, plates have shown me what its like from a girls perspective and trust me there are some weird fvcking dudes on there.

For some reason this leads people to conclude that ALL women on OLD are trash, I guess because it makes for an easy headline. Ive met dozens of girls thru it and had a few relationships, one that just ended after close to a year. She is a total sweetheart, good family, cute, good job, etc.

Please dont be this ignorant with the all or nothing absolutist arguments of "all girls who do X are this", "all girls who do this are Y". Girls are girls, you just have to sort thru and filter more on OLD to find quality ones.

 

[9Volt]

Theres plenty of garbage on OLD because ugly psycho girls are not comfortable with themselves and dont go out as much, so you wouldnt see them in the usual locales for meeting women. This is true of both genders, plates have shown me what its like from a girls perspective and trust me there are some weird fvcking dudes on there.

For some reason this leads people to conclude that ALL women on OLD are trash, I guess because it makes for an easy headline. Ive met dozens of girls thru it and had a few relationships, one that just ended after close to a year. She is a total sweetheart, good family, cute, good job, etc.

Please dont be this ignorant with the all or nothing absolutist arguments of "all girls who do X are this", "all girls who do this are Y". Girls are girls, you just have to sort thru and filter more on OLD to find quality ones.

The VAST majority of chicks that need to and do online dating are trash. Always something majorly wrong with them. Town slvts, alcoholics, drug addicts, major family issues, compulsive liars, some even escorting online and it's blatant in their profiles, nut jobs etc. It's like searching a garbage dump for a diamond.

I've stated a while back I PERSONALLY know SEVEN chicks out of all the chicks I know and the SEVEN who used OLD? Had either been institutionalized for attempting suicide, had huge credit card bills and were KNOWN nut cases as dudes I knew dated them, known by other chicks and dudes as nut jobs, caused workplace issues, were gold diggers etc. and all but one of them were hot (one is overweight). Most of them weren't able to even maintain relationships with other chicks and were called nuts etc.

I'm not just saying that to be "all or nothing" but as far as chicks I'd met as well? Every one was crazy and it's like they can't restrain themselves from just putting it out there either.

Chicks who have things going for them, are normal, have educations and good jobs, and have friends, social circles, and look good aren't wasting their time with online dating as they don't need to. Any chick who goes online is on there for a REASON. She either is known throughout her area as a slvt, has serious issues, or isn't wanted for whatever reasons (crazy etc.)

OLD is not just online talk but dudes in real life who don't post on forums know it's a buffet of slvts and nuts.

The best chance with online dating would be match as paying cuts down on a good portion of the trash (not all).

Online dating is like a dive bar or searching for a "good person" in a bunny ranch or some clinic. There's just a much higher concentration of low quality people in those areas or people with serious issues than you can find by looking elsewhere.

In fact I don't think I know anyone who met and dated for a long time or got married to anyone online. (Let alone the marriage was great and they highly recommended OLD) I can't think of anyone I know.

 

[jurry]

Sorry that youve had that experience dude but it is still just YOUR experience, which for some reason you have decided is now the absolute truth.. Leading you to make ridiculous statements like:

"Any chick who goes online is on there for a REASON. She either is known throughout her area as a slvt, has serious issues, or isn't wanted for whatever reasons (crazy etc.)"

If you want to be taken seriously, stop making demonstrably false claims and just say "lota low quality chicks there, personally it hasnt worked out for me or people I know", why do you need to take it further and try and present your experience as absolute, objective law?

 

[9Volt]

Sorry that youve had that experience dude but it is still just YOUR experience, which for some reason you have decided is now the absolute truth.. Leading you to make ridiculous statements like:

"Any chick who goes online is on there for a REASON. She either is known throughout her area as a slvt, has serious issues, or isn't wanted for whatever reasons (crazy etc.)"

If you want to be taken seriously, stop making demonstrably false claims and just say "lota low quality chicks there, personally it hasnt worked out for me or people I know", why do you need to take it further and try and present your experience as absolute, objective law?

It's not just my experience. I personally know dudes who besides myself have not only gotten multiple nudes from multiple chicks who live in their state before even meeting them but heard about the meets, the chicks, the nasty sex and conveniently the seven chicks I know who I've seen using online dating and talked to just happened to be nuts? One's I've met too? Ones I've talked to? Court cases for criminal sh1t, baggage etc.

I've talked to MANY on there. That's besides seeing more and more trannies, chicks tatted up the wazoo, chicks looking for sugar daddies, chicks posting with money on their beds smoking weed with bottles of liquor in a sh1t apartment, fake profiles etc.

How many awesome successful relationships and marriages off OLD do you personally know? I don't know anyone. Everyone I know met through social circles, friends etc. never through OLD.

I guess you prefer to contrarian troll. I'm not saying it's utterly impossible but it's pretty much searching for a diamond in a garbage dump. No sane person goes to dive bars to look for quality women. Nor do they go to a bunny ranch looking for the "one". One dude may pick up the one chick out of God knows what that may be normal but sorry to say it's not a great idea to think you're going to get quality from those places.

 

[jurry]

I know of several, how many awesome successful relationships do you know of period? The odds are not great regardless of the way you meet.

The only one clearly playing the troll is you, holding out these absurd absolute statements just hoping for someone (sadly me in this case) to take the bait and argue over it. Not worth my time.

Get a life bro, how many times you been banned from this site now?

 

[9Volt]

I know of several, how many awesome successful relationships do you know of period? The odds are not great regardless of the way you meet.

The only one clearly playing the troll is you, holding out these absurd absolute statements just hoping for someone (sadly me in this case) to take the bait and argue over it. Not worth my time.

Get a life bro, how many times you been banned from this site now?

People who met through social circles? Many. Many successful ones. A few dudes who've gotten divorced but know of no one who needed to or met anyone online that had a great relationship or marriage.

I don't buy the absolutes either that are spewed on here. But as far as OLD? It's pretty much bang on with countless users experience. Hell you could go on ANY review of POF and the site gets like 1 1/2-2 stars. Countless complaints. Their own forums are countless complaints.

Like I've said possibly Match or a pay site would bring more serious people.

As for anyone I've had a serious LTR with? All were met through social circles or out and not online.

Who knows. Perhaps this is your way of trying to "one up" dudes as if you are the "special" one who's found diamonds online.

The odds are extremely slim. Not impossible. But the majority of people are low quality or have several issues.

To be honest there was one chick who seemed cool and I'd known her by face from my part time. She'd left I'd saw her online and we'd got to talking on the phone. I'd went on vacation for two weeks and didn't contact her so she'd moved on. Very cute chick and her pictures were her and recent. She may have been an exception but the vast amount of the chicks online are either loaded with baggage or trying have several issues, getting banged out, or trying to get dinners etc.

No reason to make things up dude. It is what it is. Their may be a small amount of dudes having great relationships off OLD with quality chicks but I've personally never seen it or heard of it. Everyone I've known or know meet people through social circles.

Doesn't mean dudes shouldn't try OLD. They'll find out themselves.