Approaching Girls in Bookstores and College Libraries

[davelmn2003]

My question is pretty specific. I'm looking for hot girls who can hold interesting/intelligent conversations. I'm thinking about bookstores and college libraries...

What are the best first lines I should use to approach girls who seem always to be busy looking for books or some other things?

I simply don't know how to BEGIN a conversation? Introduce myself first? or talk about the books she's looking for and then introduce myself?

Also, what if she only answers your questions but doesn't put questions to you? Wouldn't you look like a dork who intrudes into her space?

If you have an interesting conversation about the books, how would you number-close?

Finally, are these good places to look for the kinds of girls I want (see above)?

 

[HappyHobo]

Your intuition is saying "introduce yourself" why wont you just do it?

Alright.. ill get down to the core of things and make it simple.. but not any simpler.
You asked :

What are the best first lines I should use to approach girls who seem always to be busy looking for books or some other things?

I will explain a great FUN way to pick up a girl... but for this .. you will need..
1) a backbone and guts 2) To look nice and neat
First, if you see a Hottie looking at the shelves for books, then just go about your business looking for books..but look among the shelves she is looking at... as you look make sure you have one eye on which book she is about to grab...
as she is grabbing, reach your hand over and pretend you are trying to grab the same book... but you dont have to have your hand on it too if your on that quick.. you just have to have your hand their for her to think u wanted that book too
AFTER THIS, say "Whoa im sorry i didnt know you were going for the same book too, we seem to have the same tastes in books and just about the same timing too except your a bit faster than me. *then you smile* " she will probably GIGGLE or say Yeah we sure do or something like that... after she says that .. go RIGHT into introducing yourself... no hesitation!... and then she will most likely introduce herself to you too... then after that talk about the other kind of books you like to read... and books you have read... just a general conversation about books... dont talk about dating yet..... after the conversation about books is done... THEN talk about dating... THIS IS WHERE YOU CLOSE and say you have to go now it was great talking to you... we should get together for a cup of coffee sometime... and you get her home phone number... and call her.. ITS REALLY EASY!!! but remember the 2 things u have to have first before you do this !!!!!

Also, what if she only answers your questions but doesn't put questions to you? Wouldn't you look like a dork who intrudes into her space?

WHOA.. sorry i got carried away with the first question.. ill make this one shorter..
Her not putting questions to you will not begin until you let her know that you are an interesting person.... You have to begin with asking her questions first before you can do that though
And NO, you are not intruding her space... think of it more like a priviledge you are giving her.. by letting her talk to you... b/c that is what it is!

I hope this has been helpful.. if it was a waste of my typing energy, brain energy and time.. forgive me

 

[davelmn2003]

Hey HappyHobo, your advice is helpful! Thanks. I've never ever approached girls that way (at least not with the intention of getting a # or a date).

More inputs from DJ's who've done this would be great!

 

[Mr. Mystery]

Walk up to her and say, "Hi". And then have a conversation.

Alot of bookstores have coffee shops these days, invite her to sit with you for some coffee and a discussion of a subject that interests you.

Mr. Mystery

 

[Lionheart]

Start with the common topics first : THE BOOKS.

After you have got a bit of conversation out of her - or not, you will be able to gauge her interest, if she is looking straight at you and is enthuastically answering your questions and is looking interested in the conversation - THEN introduce yourself and start moving things up....Mystery's plan to take her to a bookstore's coffeeshop is great.

This sort of thing is similar I think to the 'juggler method' that SexPDX was talking about, you open with something common to the situation and start a nice casual conversation, and then move on from there once you have gauged her interest.

I personally think that that is a pretty obvious way to start a conversation, have we forgotton how to talk to each other nowadays?

Obviously some people need it explaining to them.

 

[Leporello]

Hey, HappyHobo, you stole my idea.

Although, it should be used with a small amount of caution, in case she's reaching for a book you wouldn't be caught dead with. Say, Chicken Soup for the Slutty Anorexic or something like that.

 

[Walden]

What are you kidding me! I'd be waiting by "Chicken soup for the slutty anorexic" that sounds like a woman 'd like to meet!

As for starting convo there's two approaches , greeting and non greeting.

Generally your instinct in starting a convo is to have someone looking at you before you start talking (this is how it works when you want to go tell your friend at a party something , you go "Hi Jim" Jim looks at you and you start telling him what a great shag his sister is or whatever it was you had to say.

However , cold starting a converstation , your best bet is to just get into the person's space ie so they're close enough to notice you. If she looks over , nod and say hi out of politeness.

When you go to start a conversation just launch into whatever witty line or question you were thinking of and when she looks over ( a few words into your sentence) smile ad carry on with what you were saying. If you are the only two people standing near the Junior Fiction For Repressed Lesbian Vegans shelf then she will assume you're talking to her , and respond. You don't need to get eye contact.

If you do greet her and launch into your rap it sounds like you're selling something (which you are).