Approach Journal - Danny

DannyM

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Hey guys,

I would say im pretty confident about myself and goodlooking but I have really bad AA and freeze up alot, Im going to start this journal so hopefully you guys can give me pointers on what im doing wrong, and also its something for me to look back at until I get this stuff down. Hope you have a good tiem reading this as will be trying my best.
 

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hey man its a numbers game..I can approach..talk on the phone and have had a date..from there not that good...yet
 

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Went out tonight to local town (Huddersfield, UK) and got there about 10:30pm with my friend.....I said to him before we were gonna try direct approach and see how it went on.

We get in the first bar and see a guitar hero arcade machine lol, so we start playing that and half way through it some chick taps me on the shoulder and asks what im playing....i was chatting to her while playing it for the next 2 mins and she eventually said she needed to go back to her friends...We finished the song and i turned round to see her and her friends had just left...missed opportunity i guess.

Me and my friend then went to a diff bar and decided we'd take turns doing direct approach on girls....after about 20 mins i plucked up the courage and walked up to the hottest girl there....it went like this!

Me: I just had to come overa nd say your really beautiful
Her: Thanks
Me: So what do you have going for you other than your looks?
Her: Nothing I have a boyfriend

Oh well...she wasnt intrested, i asked another girl pretty much same thing a few mins later and got pretty much same response. We then went onto the dance floor and I could see a group of girls staring at us...One was HB7, HB5 and HB2 lol....HB7 came over to us and started dancing with us....She then asked if we were gay? wtf lol...and then asked me my name...danced with her abit more and then she asked me if her mate could have my number...Her mate was a 5 so i declined and just said I had a GF which is a lie and exact same thing the previous two i had asked had said to me lol. My mate also tried to get the 7's number but she said no.

Anyway we move on to the biggest club in huddersfield and a see one of my friends there as he shouts "ronaldo"......for some reason alot of people seem to think i look like cristiano ronaldo the footballer but I really don't see it...we have maybe the same hair, facial shape and tan but thats about it? Anyway he has a 7 with him who is just his friend and she starts talking to me, so we all go away and dance and she keeps smiling at me but i ***** out of doing anything about it prob due to fact shes my mates friend...either that or im just a wuss....prob a combination of both lol.

We then go and sit on some couches and two girls HB8 and HB8 come sit near us (its a communal couch where loads of peopel can sit on.) And i have the idea that i should see if one of them is ticklish....i tickle her and she turns round and smiles...they both say hello to me and my friend and then say sorry we have to go to the bathroom but we will be back, I say to my friend "well they have gone" and to my suprise a minute later they came backand started talking to us....i picked the girl i thought looked slightly more attractive and my friend chatted to the other one! she started asking me loads of questions liek where i was from etc and what i did....The problem i have when a girl asks me what I do is it comes across if im talking bull**** when really im not, I am training to be a professional wrestler which is what ive always wanted to do since i was a child and I also run ghost hunts paranormal investigations with a medium friend for a lil cash on the side...****ing weird combination i know but this either completely intrigues the girl or just freaks her out, unfortunately it did the latter lol oh well, If im honest the girl ****ing bored me to **** for 20 mins and we had absolutely no chemistry, fortunately for my friend the otehr girl was more receptive and he got her number...I prob picked the wrong girl to be honest as after talking to her mate I don't care how hot she was I wouldn't **** her.

We then decided to go home and call it a night....This was my first night doing proper approaches in a club and a certain points my aa was through the roof lol, I feel kinda bad that i missed some opportunities but maybe im being too hard on myself? I have a date tmrw witha girl off the net so i will post how that goes, Im really wanting to try some day game...does this direct stuff work better in the day?
 

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the only thing i would have to critisize you on is, you walked up to one chick and said "hey beautiful"....UH UH!!! she knows she is attractive....if she is as good looking as you say she is, then many guys have probably told her that she is beautiful.....If i were you i would have came up with a different, original, more clever approch...alot of girls that ive asked, thats STRAIGHT UP said they hate it when guys approach them saying hey beautiful/sexy/gourgous/cuttie ect. they perfer something unique clever and interesting!
 

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Captin Krunch said:
the only thing i would have to critisize you on is, you walked up to one chick and said "hey beautiful"....UH UH!!! she knows she is attractive....if she is as good looking as you say she is, then many guys have probably told her that she is beautiful.....If i were you i would have came up with a different, original, more clever approch...alot of girls that ive asked, thats STRAIGHT UP said they hate it when guys approach them saying hey beautiful/sexy/gourgous/cuttie ect. they perfer something unique clever and interesting!
I know, thats being direct. I was instantly displaying intrest...I didn't want to spend 20 mins beating around the bush asking her who lies more men or women I just wanted to make it clear that i was sexually intrested in her with no bull****...for some girls this works and for some girls they prefer the other approach like you said.
 

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Hey Dan,

You ever been to Club Society?, I find it hard sometimes in Huddersfield and Leeds clubs to approach some of the women, due to the blearing Bassline, but I've had some of the most brilliant feedback from Huddersfieldian females, probably abit easier for me seen as I'm not from the area and my approach is automatically a different accent = difference and new.
 

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Seems I need to restart this....Have been in a relationship since about september 2009 which i ended 1 week ago! Just trying to get back into it all...don't really have any intrest in a relationship and im rusty as hell haha!

Randomly walking up to a woman seems foreign again after so long, should i start just randomly talking to any chicks again to build up confidence or should i just suck it up and go for numbers?
 

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Ok have a bit to report as been going out abit recently, if you guys can comment that would be great thanks:-

Saturday 28th May:- Huddersfield, Uk
This was my worst night by far.....I seemed to not be able to let go of my emotional attachment I still had with my ex, despite several iois from girls in the 6-8 range I just couldnt be bothered to do anything and I think I had some aproach anxiety also, had a good night with my friends though so it wasn't a total loss.

Wednesday 1st June - Paris, France
Decided to get away for a few days to clear my head...stayed with some friends in Paris, went clubbing twice and was opened 10+ times one night, not sure if this was due to me being british or whatever but it helped my confidence loads! On the 2nd night I got a lay from a 7 where she pretty much initiated everything.

Saturday 4th June -Huddersfield Uk

This was a night of complete contrast to the previous saturday! when I got to town I walked down an alley and saw 4 women stood outside a dress shop eyeing up a dress! I walked past them and just casually said "I can't see you in that...." I didnt expect any response but they all immediately looked round and asked me where i was going....had a conversation with all of them for about 10 mins outside the shop...one of them was really pretty but for some reason I didn't go for a number and walked off...about 30 secs later some random chick just ran up to me and high fived me? I caught her hand and talked to her for a few mins before I had to go meet my friend! This initial confidence boost seemed to set me up for the rest of the night....I didn't exactly keep track but i opened about 10 groups with situational openers as from memory I always have better experiences when i open a group as opposed to a woman on her own! Anyway we go to a club called tokyos and I opened the 2 girls behind us in the queue one was a 6 and the other was a 7! the 6 immediately latched onto me and gave me a discount voucher for the entry so i saved like £2 haha! The problem then was that later on this girl found me again and would not leave? I didn't really have high intrest in her so I just told her that i had to meet some friends and would see her later.

Anyway we get to the outside part of the club and I see some chick (7) and we start talking....I immediately make a mistake of negging her too hard and she **** tests me by saying "I didn't find you attractive anyway" I pretty much say to her "nice **** test, you should tell your pupils not to dilate when you see people your not attracted to then" and she walked off angry! 10 mins later she came up again starting rubbing me on the arm??? and asked my friend "why do you hang out with this douchebag?" so we just walked off. Danced upstairs for abit then came back outside one last time to see if any cute girls were outside! Just as i was about to leave 2 girls 5 and a 7 walk past looking lost...tap one of them on the shoulder and pretty much just said "wow you guys look lost?" Me and my friend chatted with them for a good 20 mins...did the best friend test on them, was abit playful and then got the number of the 7 whow as called Beth!

Anyhow me and my friend then left the club. Forgot to mention that I bumped into my ex in a club tonight but it didnt mess with my had and things carried on as normal. 10 mins later Beth texts me to ask if i'd had a good night so her intrest level must be pretty high! Overall was a good night! If I would of been told to "fck off" by every girl I had opened tonight I wouldn't of cared as I was only wanted to be as social and open as much as possible! Comments would be greately appreciated thanks and Monday's update is coming soon!
 

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Just wanted to add that things seem to be improving since I split up with the ex. In 2 months I have dropped from 21% bodyfat to 10% mainly from going to gym 6x a week, and eating pretty much as healthy as I can, Ive gone back to Wrestling training, taken up badminton and have a full time job with the police in digital forensics that takes up most of my time! I am probably in the best shape I have been in for some time I just hope I can keep it going!!

Mini FR:
Beth text me about 15x on Sunday....And i arranged to meet her for a drink on Monday, Im going to update what happened on Monday soon.
 
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