Apply phone rules to IM?

[Halo]

Hey guys, in addition to the more usual approaches, I have been having some fairly good luck with sites like match.com lately (few makeout sessions and a lay). I am curious though if the rules of the telephone should also apply to IM. I am talking to a few who expressed interest, initiated IM conversations, etc. I prefer to use these things only as a tool to setting up a real date and all, but with a few of them that has not been possible yet. Should I take it as a sign of deflated interest when they come online and do not IM? I don't think I should always be the one to initiate contact, whether it is the phone or email or whatever.

I guess I should just bite the bullet and push the issue, I just don't want to be the obsequious moron I once was.

 

[Starman]

I would do it occassionally .. but not everytime...

I have talked to women..who say they went on dates .. and when they see the guy online..and they dont initiate an IM .. it drives them up the wall!!

because they are curious as if they werent attractive enough to the guy..

its kinda like showing interest(date)..then pulling back (not IMing)

it works

 

[Krassus]

With IM, i don't even bother asking for a date. I usually have several conversations with a girl before determining if i can take this somewhere or not. The conversations are usually 30-45 minutes in length, and i can tell if she will sleep with me by the third conversation. I know that this goes against a lot of advice that gets passed around here, but it's just one of those things that are crazy enough to work.

I keep the conversation focused on the girl about 80% of the time. If i feel like it's getting tilted my way too much, i try to give short replies and then ask her questions that will result in her telling me a lot of useful things about her. I act funny and talk about sexual topics in a light manner. I usually generate enough interest with the first conversation for HER to initiate each new conversation with me from then on.

While talking, i try to act a little aloof from time to time, while still demonstrating good conversation skills. This means i don't always reply to messages immediately, and sometimes take my time. But not the point where it would annoy her of course. I usually find out about her sex life during the second conversation, and during the third or fourth, i jokingly ask her if she'd like to fvck.

I've tried this two times and it worked better than anything i've ever heard of. There is no need to waste time or money on dates just to find out that she's not interested. Once i find out if she wants to fvck everything becomes easy, since she's really open to me. We can go on one date and then fvck afterwards, but it won't be an awkward date because we both know what's coming afterwards.

 

[Starman]

what exactly do women say to "wanna fvck"?

 

[Krassus]

Originally posted by Starman
what exactly do women say to "wanna fvck"?

I don't say those exact words - i try to make it out into a lighter joke, yet one she realizes i want an answer to. They usually react with something like a laugh and a light question to see if i'm serious, then once i say that i'm open to that possibility, something to let me know that she is as well. So they won't say something like "yes i will," but more like something a little lighter and not as straight-forward, yet clear enough for me to understand. From that point on, their IL goes THROUGH THE ROOF if we don't meet. I mean like to the point where they will sign on just to talk to me and message me immediately EVERY single time they're on.