Apology via text message: yes or no?

[Tomo]

Not going into detail. This is not one of those apologizing for being submissive and other little things. I truly stuffed up. Tried to see her in person today but things came up between us. Have another chance in a few days in class.

But I was wondering if I could just apologise in text? Say I tried to get in touch in person but realise you don't want to. Keep it brief and let it be? I'm not too fussed on the outcome; just the fact I know this time, I have to admit I was wrong.

What do you guys think? Normally I'm happy to next a plate but this is one of those rare relationship material type of girls.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Apologizing is very beta, you should never apologize for anything. If she doesn't even want to talk to you, then why apologize? Why even think about this nonsense at all?

 

[Jariel]

It depends what you did and the nature of your apology.

If you're apologising for something petty or for the pure reason of winning her back, then I agree with the above comment that it's pure supplication and a beta thing to do.

However, if you did something unreasonable and hurt her...if you were truly in the wrong, then it shows maturity to accept responsibility for your mistakes.

One thing I've learned over and over again is that we guys try way too hard to protect our egos and that's a sign of insecurity. A confident man owns up to his mistakes and learns from them, he doesn't try to pass blame and he isn't afraid to be direct.

My advice would be to wait a month at least. She may still be hurt, resentful and irrational and if you try to apologise during this time, she will probably throw it back in your face or treat it as some kind of power advantage. Let those feelings settle before you reach out.

Again, it all depends on how much you hurt her. If you did something bad, then I suggest you write a letter. Don't make excuses and don't try to pass blame. Just tell her you understand what you did wrong and you're sorry you hurt her.

 

[Tomo]

From my point of view, it had to be done to prevent any future 'conflicts'. Where I'm from, everyone knows everyone. Furthermore, said HB is well connected with all such females - even a few I am gaming e.g. she was able to hone in on me in a giant lecture theater filled with people sitting next to a certain girl whom she knew the name of. Had a few weeks or so of her adding whom I had added online; particularly females.

Yes I know, I'll admit this is probably beta but it is a strategic retreat. Obviously I will be cutting all ties with her after this but at the very least I end on a good note so that things don't come back to bite me in the future. If she was just any plate off the streets, I'd next her without thinking but alas, I shat where I ate and of course I plan not to do this again. Ever.

 

[JoshSway]

Not going into detail. This is not one of those apologizing for being submissive and other little things. I truly stuffed up. Tried to see her in person today but things came up between us. Have another chance in a few days in class.

But I was wondering if I could just apologise in text? Say I tried to get in touch in person but realise you don't want to. Keep it brief and let it be? I'm not too fussed on the outcome; just the fact I know this time, I have to admit I was wrong.

What do you guys think? Normally I'm happy to next a plate but this is one of those rare relationship material type of girls.

In general, do NOT apologize. I actually wrote an article on my site recently about 5 things to do when she's gone cold, and NOT apologizing is one of them. However, if you absolutely know where you ****ed up with *100%* (yes *100%* certainty it could be ok. Yes, text is fine. Be sure to keep your apology very brief and again only if you 100% KNOW you ****ed up in a BIG way. Otherwise do not do it.

 

[VikingKing]

If she is mad, let it be and act normal. She will probably come and bring it up to you. If she doesn't continue to act like nothing happened.

 

[PlayHer Man]

Apologizing is very beta, you should never apologize for anything. If she doesn't even want to talk to you, then why apologize? Why even think about this nonsense at all?

Agree 100%.

Sh!t happens in life. Never apologize for things outside of your control. And if things are IN your control.. then you are doing them deliberately.. therefore there is no reason to apologize. :crackup:

Women are not royalty that you need to bow and scrape for their approval. All that matters is that YOU approve of your behavior.

 

[n00bPimp]

Depends on the situation. If you do decide to stick with text make sure you dont **** up the text also so look up apology texts as there are some great ones out there.
ie. do a search on the http://howtoga.me site for texting ideas.

Unlike other people's advice, I think sometimes you do need to apologize. Not all girls have low self esteem and some out there still have self respect. And most are certainly not perfect 10's who are looking for a true alpha, less attractive girls will actually be put off by true alpha behavior as they come off as too unnattainable.

 

[DonGorgon]

never apologize to a female.. express regret instead