Apartment yay or nay, advice needed.

[DonChino]

I'm 21, going to community college and have one class left before associates. I will transfer to university but in the mean time, one semester. Should I get an apartment?

I have been living with my parents thus far never moved out or anything. I have had an itch to move out and I feel that if I had my own place the logistics would be perfect. I believe I would learn alot. It would be a big change that I welcome with open arms. After getting my first job 2 months ago I have added and been added to a good share of girls cellphones. I have gotten rid of plenty of social anxiety and I finally feel like I'm getting out of the trenches of hitting rock bottom; which I can say was an extremely difficult time in regards to outlook on life in general. Does it make sense to continue on to the next step and get a place and at the same time finally lose the v-label? I would say so.

That being said, apartment yes or no? I can continue living at home and saving till transferring to uni in 6-8 months. But those months are going to be a LONG 6-8 months if you catch my drift. I definitely think its holding me back tremendously in the dating scene not to be living on my own because I have no where to pull back to and escalate. The only negatives I can see is not being able to save like I have been doing BUT that money is being spent on a good cause since I will be learning and experiencing something I should have done years ago.

 

[Exhumed]

Go for it. I'm 18 and I'm gonna get an apartment for my sophomore year in college can't wait for that sh*t

 

[Prodigy746]

I am 22 and just got my apartment 6 months ago. I would say go for it if you can afford it. I never had problems w my parents but i love living by my self, you can imagine the freedom.

 

[DonChino]

Great response Espi.

What does this have to do with getting an apt? There'll always be girls...doesn't matter if you live at home or with your parents. Work on being a happy guy...i.e. being ambitious, having goals to accomplish...an ambitious guy makes for a sexy guy.

I was getting at how I have been progressing and the next step was to get the heck out of my parents place. Getting my own place would give me more drive in daily routine; I can get over the mental hurdle of being a boy living at home with his mom and dad.

I couldn't disagree more...living at home means you'll have more money in the bank and the occasional opportunity to splurge on a girl...if that's what you want to do...i.e. you can use the money that you have to rent a limo for a night and take her out to dinner before taking her to a hotel room. A guy can do that when he has some money in the bank. Of course, if you instead focous on seeting goals and accomplishing them, then you'll fine tune your confidence, which means you can eliminate wasted time and money taking girls out...instead, you can come to her apt. and fvuck her there....some girls actually prefer it that way.

I thought the whole point was to avoid spend money on them. Instead of me splurging I could easily just invite them over to my place and watch a movie/chill and it would cost nothing. Doing this also would provide great opportunity to escalate further after-all just them being in my place, one on one, is green light to seal the deal if I play the cards right. Getting a hotel room just feels/seems so unnatural if you know what I mean; its not very smooth in my opinion. You have a point about HER apartment but I just like the logistics of being able to have a place 100% of the time and said place is familiar to me; so I can get the mood right all the time.

Learning and experience are great...but you can learn and gain experience without wasting money on rent. Save your money.

You have very good points Espi. I don't disagree with anything you said. But that being said, I feel that my reasoning is equally good. I'm fidgeting to make a major change in my life and an apartment seems to be it. I would like you to continue to respond if you are able and more importantly if anyone else can chime in to what Espi or I said that would be even more valuable.

I don't have money coming out of my pockets, I have a couple grand saved and that's it. I'm weighing if the gain will overcome the loss. Loss being money and the gain being experience. I want to say, not sure if this is foolish or a dream, that I will come out a changed person after getting my own place. That change could be what kicks me into gear to making things happen instead of being what I have been for the past 20 years. Like I said that just might be a pipe dream, I'm not sure that's why I started this thread.