Anyone here ever get hung up on a married woman?

[white sox bill]

Ok, heres what happened...
Last year, I got involoved with a married woman. It was hot and heavy. Then her hubby caught on after a short while. It ended. Her and her husband tried reconsiling to no avail. She called me ervy once in a while towrds the end of last yr to talk about what coulda been, how she thinks of me all the time and so on.

The last time I spoke to her was in February. I called her from an airport and I told her I'd call her when I got home. I had a change of heart, I promised myself I'd stay out of her life as long as she was married. As of 2 months ago, I heard from a freind the marraige was still on the rocks. I guess it was then I started to miss her. So here I am, thinking about her and wondering if and when she will ever divorce.

Now her B-day is in a month. This would be the perfect time to tell her why I didn't call, and tell her I'm thinking of her and so on. But do this in the form of a card. Just a few short sentences, nothing long. Send it to her work. Is this a good idea? The reason she hasn't called, she probably thinks I've moved on and she doesn't want to look desperate. Opinoins?
Bill

 

[WestCoaster]

Cheating if for AFCs

Why be a part of cheating?

Why be with a married woman when there are so many available single women out there? Doesn't make sense to me.

Sounds like you have a bad case of oneitis and a heavy symptom of AFCness.

Be a man, get a new broad or date several different chicks. Get a grip, no one is worth it. How would you like it if your wife cheated?

Oh, I forgot, "there's no one like her, she's great in the sack, we had incredible chemisty" ... blah, blah, blah.

If she's an American wench she's just going to get fat, ugly, and mean anyway. Plus, she's just a no good ho' anyway. She should put up a red light and at least get paid for her services. I have more respect for prostitutes than cheaters because at least they're saying who they are and not pretending to be upstanding.

Move on ... unless you crave getting venerial diseases.

 

[white sox bill]

Re: Cheating if for AFCs

Originally posted by WestCoaster
Why be a part of cheating?

Why be with a married woman when there are so many available single women out there? Doesn't make sense to me.

Sounds like you have a bad case of oneitis and a heavy symptom of AFCness.

Be a man, get a new broad or date several different chicks. Get a grip, no one is worth it. How would you like it if your wife cheated?

Oh, I forgot, "there's no one like her, she's great in the sack, we had incredible chemisty" ... blah, blah, blah.

If she's an American wench she's just going to get fat, ugly, and mean anyway. Plus, she's just a no good ho' anyway. She should put up a red light and at least get paid for her services. I have more respect for prostitutes than cheaters because at least they're saying who they are and not pretending to be upstanding.

Move on ... unless you crave getting venerial diseases.

Yes but I am dating several other women. None of them trip my trigger though. And no I won't touch this girl as long as shes married. Maybe its the fact you always want something you can't have. Yes, I agree cheaters suck!

 

[Survivor]

It sounds like you have the right idea.

Continue to date other women and don't even think about getting with her until the divorce is final.
Do what you know is best and exercise some self-control.

Such is the paradox of desire. A big reason your attraction to her is so strong is simply because she's unavailable. You said it yourself. You want what you can't have. The excitement that comes from tasting the "forbidden fruit" is probably why the sex was so good too.

As long as you are aware of your emotions and know why you are experiencing them, you'll be better equipped to do what you know is in your best interest and not necessarily what "feels" right at the time.

Stay under control, my friend.

 

[mysterymanelp]

Re: Re: Cheating if for AFCs

Originally posted by white sox bill
Yes but I am dating several other women. None of them trip my trigger though. And no I won't touch this girl as long as shes married. Maybe its the fact you always want something you can't have. Yes, I agree cheaters suck!

The reason that none of them trip ur trigger is because u still have the hots for this married chick. Are you comparing these girls to the married chick?

I remember when I went to the club and I met this really nice looking lady asked me if I wanted to dance so I said sure after dancing for a while she tells me that she is married and that I will make somebody very happy one day. She then tells me do I want to go and have a couple of drinks with her.

I tell her no because she is married and that I would not feel right. I surprised myself and my friends. And the reason why I didnt go along with it was because If my wife was out and she told another guy that she was married I would like him to do the samething.

I guess what I am saying is dont be the cause of a couple getting a divorce. How would you feel if you were in that guys shoes.

 

[WestCoaster]

More fish in the sea

Actually, the guy is getting reverse DJed ... he wants what he can't have.

Too many women in this world (well, he lives in Wisconsin so I'm not sure on that one ... but it's probably better than hippy Northwest) to be spending one iota of time on a married broad.

Just keep dating till you find one that sparks, but make sure she's not married.

I can't find anything more unappealing than a married wench to be honest.

 

[MichaelangelloB]

I'm with WestCoaster. Marrage is for suckers.

 

[Chrispy]

I'm gonna sound like i have harsh words, but you commited adultry...that's a sin! Easier for me to criticize and judge that you're wasting your efforts with someone who already has someone to go home to....like her husband for gawd sake...so you're clearly just wasting your time and the more wrapped up you are in it, the worse off you are.

Besides, I find that women like that with more than one option to play around with are just a plain waste of time.

Move on!

 

[Don Juanabbe]

Why the f*ck would you wait around, much less want to be with a married slut?

 

[Crank_It_Up]

Re: Re: Cheating if for AFCs

Originally posted by white sox bill
Yes but I am dating several other women. None of them trip my trigger though. And no I won't touch this girl as long as shes married. Maybe its the fact you always want something you can't have. Yes, I agree cheaters suck!

why date a woman that doesn't "trip your trigger"? They are keeping you from finding the women that do trip your trigger. Get rid of them and the married woman too, and go for something better.... don't compromise yourself.

 

[cave dweller]

Bob

Bill,

H*ll, you name is not white sock bill.
Your real name is BOB.
ie. Back Door Bob.
Why in the h*ll are you wasting you time fvcking a d*mn low life married slut?--------WRONG ANSWER
Get your head out of your *ss pal.

cave dweller

 

[white sox bill]

Thankxx everyone for a kick in the a**! My football coach did the same thing to me sometimes. I realized I re-lapsed to the dreaded AFC thing. Time to go get some new women--without the baggage!
Bill

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Say "No" to married hos!!!!!

 

[Ricky]

Yeah, do what you MUST DO

FORGET HER AND MOVE ON TO THE SINGLE BROADS>

You made a mistake, alot of us do, I could tell you a story or two of my own.

NEVER EVER MESS WITH MARRIED CHICKS AGAIN. THEY ARE PSYCHO AND COULD GET YOU KILLED!

 

[Marcopolo]

I sort of made that mistake once-went out with this wench who had a live in boyfriend. She did not tell me about this guy until I had slept with her, and then she told me she was abused, etc. She may have been, may not, but I used that to justify cheating with her, I thought I could "save" her. She kept saying she would leave him and that she really loved me, blah blah blah, and this dragged on. Bottom line is if they are still there they don't really want to leave for whatever reason. At a point in time after our realtionship for all purposes had ended- she finally left him when he realy did piss her off. It just showed me that she never really did give a rip about me, she wasn't "trapped" there. I still can't believe I let her treat me like such crap. Bottom line-DON'T date a gal who lives with another guy, period-she will play both of you for a fool.