Any tips on DJing cashiers?

[medjaun]

I've been practicing my DJ skills on cashiers recently. One thing that throws me a bit though is the fact that you have such limited time. I feel like the 30 sec to a minute you are around them is too short for a # close but maybe I'm wrong.

I met this HB7.5 at Office Max today and gave her lots of EC with a nice smile. She reciprocated the 3-4 times our eyes met and seemed to dig it as I got the doggie saucer eyes. My problem is I was trying to decide to get her number but then didn't say anything as I thought it might be a bit too forward even with a bit of rapport (which I didn't do).

Are there any good guidelines for these situations? A friend of mine says its best to see them 2-3 times at where they work to build to a # close but I'm not sure.

I plan to go back and see her again and of course this time I'll do more than smile and figure might as well go for the close but could appreciate any tips.

 

[JH6]

me, I avoid cashiers because you don't know if they are being nice to you because they like you, or nice to you because its their job to be nice to you.

See what I mean?

If you walk up to a girl in public, she can always say go F yourself, but can you see the cashier at the grocery store saying this to you? Nah I can't.

 

[medjaun]

True to a point but they don't have to be nice to the point that this chick was. Hell cashiers can be pretty blase' if they want to and just give you no time of day. I think there is a difference between "nice" and "i like you" type looks. Way I figure is the worst thing that can happen is they say no, big deal. What I'm trying to figure out is with the ones that are potential pickups how fast can you push things.

 

[Tazman]

I think it's still difficult to gauge their interest because of their job. My sister was a cashier for a couple of years and she hated how rude some of the customers were. Things like not speaking at all when they were greeted, throwing money down on the counter rather than handing it to them, etc. So when she and others would come across "polite," friendly people, they tended to "warm up" to them.

That's why I hate going to the gym sometimes. I see some of the girls that work there greet people when they come in and leave, so I expect the same treatment, but sometimes when I pass them as I'm entering/leaving they either won't say anything, or they wait until I'm a few feet passed them to say "have a good day" or whatever so I have to turn around to say the same back.

Sometimes I think there might be some interest because of the way they do that only to me it seems, but then I don't know because they have (very rarely) said it to my face, unexpectedly. That's why I leave it alone unless I get something clearer. Then again I'm an AFC........

 

[medjaun]

That's a good point about how rude people set up cashiers to be more friendly to nicer customers. In my case she wasn't so much nice as she just gave me back really good sexy EC. I guess I'll find out when I see her next.

 

[Tazman]

keep us posted.

 

[So pimp its scary]

If your gonna mack on a cashier, at least go for it the first time, or become a regular to the place and just keep talking to her. When the time is right you get the number.

As a general rule, cashiers appreciate a bit of an interesting conversation from time to time. There are those that prefer to just do their job, but those ones suck.

The eye contact is the big difference...

 

[ARK]

Look at her name tag. Use her name and introduce yourself. Then everytime you go in say her name. Ask her about how busy they have been today(make small conversation). Pay with a credit or debit card and mention something about her needing your signature. After a few visits she will be inclined to ask for your name.

 

[medjaun]

So you guys think I need to go there a few more times or just try to # close next time.

The trouble is that I don't need these supplies too often but I guess I could make some excuse to go there.

 

[So pimp its scary]

Don't make excuses to go there... just go there if you have to... when she seems comfortable talking to you, then just get her number.

I can tell by the question that you ask, that you still have the wrong attitude about this.

 

[h2o]

yeah, don't go "out of your way" to chatting her up...

...that's the wrong approach because:
1) face it, you're making an excuse, and thus you are lying about the real reason you are there...that's fake...women appreciate it when you are real
2) if you don't get any action, you've successfully wasted time that could have been better spent on something else
3) you get my drift...that's money spent on gasoline for trips to the store, etc...you're going out of your way

now, of course, if you still fear rejection, feel free to go out of your way because you would in fact be getting something out of it for yourself no matter what: and that being the overcoming of fear of rejection

in this case, it seems pretty pointless. just take whatever else comes your way...don't go out of your way, unless there is positively something in it for you...like learning/practicing approaches, for example

by the way, So pimp its scary, you wrote a good post on this that i liked (and that approach you wrote about doing on the girl on the sidewalk was awesome :woo: )...about not getting too caught up on just 1 girl...maybe you should read this, medjaun:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=78524

(i sometimes find myself being guilty of that sort of thing)

 

[medjaun]

Thanks for the advice guys. Like h2o said sometimes I do get a little too hung up on one chick, got to remember there are loads more out there. I do have other prospects out there though so its not like a oneisits type of thing.

I'm just trying to gague the proper time frames for # closing. I see some people doing cold approaches where they ask right away (and which you have to I guess since you might not see them again) and then I hear I should take my time in situations like this (altho sopimp did suggest doing it right away, but since I didn't build rapport that was out of question). But it seems like the point is that you have to have rapport either way, if you can build it quick then go for # then, if not then just wait till you get to that point. That seems to make more sense to me now instead how I was thinking, basically making it too complicated. As others have said when dealing with these women I have to remember they are just humans and you can;t just force your way to getting their # etc... You have to create some kind of connection that motivates them to succumb. I think sometimes I put the cart before the horse, so worried about the result (# close, sex etc...) that I forget about the actual road that needs to be traveled to get there. Sopimps idea about no expectations ties into this.

But I get the gist of what I think you guys are saying and that is don't think too hard about this one girl and just go with the flow a bit more. I'm still caught up in over analyzing things and I can tell it will take a little time to get over that.

 

[medjaun]

hmmm doesn't seem to have bumped when I replied...

 

[Max0r]

This is more a reminder to myself, yes they are often being more friendly to you because that's their job. Who cares. Take advantage of it. When you EC lock a chick with the right BL, it doesn't matter if she's paid to be nice to you or not, THOSE CHEMICALS IN HER BODY WILL BE RELEASED AS A RESULT OF THE EC REGARDLESS. Who cares WHY she's opening to further advance.