Any suggestions on how to improve my lame life?

[Young OG]

My life is pretty boring and lame. I have around 3 friends, they all usually work on my nights off of work. Every once and a while, they will have one of my nights off and then we hang out. All 3 are far from DJs and are horrible wings.

Let me explain my situation and then I'll go over my weekly schedule. Maybe you guys can help me figure something out to help me improve my life and social circle.

In 2007, I moved to another state with my ex/kids mom (my parents also moved here). She never wanted to go anywhere and do anything, so I didn't meet many people because of that. In 2013, we broke up cause of her cheating multiple times. I kept banging her behind her new boyfriends back for a year to get some and out of spite. I discovered this site and swallowed the red pill in April of this year. I work alone, I have a route and I go into around 4 retail stores per day. I work Tue - Sat. My kid goes to her moms on the weekends. Here is a summary of my lame life per week:

Sun: Go to gym
Mon: Pick kid up, take kid to school, go to gym, pick kid up from school, eat dinner and spend time with kid
Tue: Work, go to gym, pick kid up from my parents, eat dinner and spend time with kid
Wed: Work, go to gym, pick kid up from my parents, eat dinner and spend time with kid
Thur: Work, go to gym, pick kid up from my parents, eat dinner and spend time with kid
Fri: Work, go to gym, pick kid up from my parents, eat dinner and spend time with kid
Sat: Work, get car ready for car show, go to car show, go home watch tv

As you can see there is little time to meet women and new friends. There is a group of people I hang out with at the car show, but they all have girlfriends and when the show is over, they just go home. I really wish I had some friends to hang with on my days off and to night game with. I could care less if I have a girlfriend, but it would also be nice to have some women to hang with and bang on saturdays and sundays.

This is probably a stupid thread, but does anyone have any ideas how I could gain a good social circle and have something to do on saturday and sundays? Should I try OLD again? I tried it last year when I was a AFC and I was skinny with no muscles. I never even go one date. Going home on saturday night after the car show is really depressing. Any input would be much appreciated.

 

[Rainman4707]

You get weekends off, that's more than most guys get.

You say that you cannot meet girls in the real world, then i suggest you go online or on tInder.

Try joining a sports team.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

May be once every couple of weeks you could get a sitter for your kid or your folks could sit. The kid won't resent you for having that time for yourself. Also if you have Saturday night's free, go out and meet people instead of watching tv. Force yourself to talk to strangers. Take up sociable hobbies that you will enjoy, where you get to mix with women. I go to life drawing and there's loads of hot art students If the people in your life are lame, well time to find new people. Simple. But sitting and watching tv of a Saturday won't make that happen.

 

[thatfeel]

Advice like "get up and force yourself to socialize with people" or "go out and meet people" is standard run of the mill advice for any topic such as this, not that its bad or anything. My question is how many people here have actually done that themselves and created or joined a lasting and fulfilling social circle instead of just short term transient casual relations that lasted maybe a few weeks?(relations with both men and women). I just don't think its the norm.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

Take a dance or art class, maybe hang out at starbucks or a coffee shop? Take up new hobbies maybe ones that have meet ups etc

 

[sph21]

Here's an idea: challenge yourself to make a spontaneous action. It's fun and teaches you how to be more confident & unpredictable

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

By going out and forcing oneself to do things, well no, there are no guarantees. But there's a far greater chance of meeting somebody, anybody, than being Sat in front of the television feeling sorry for oneself. Last time I went out on my own, I got chatting to a group within half an hour, got a date with one of the girls the next week, kissed her within the hour, left and went to a club, got chatting in another group, and met two other birds who gave me their numbers too, one of whom was literally throwing herself at me.

It's far easier than you think. As long as you don't stand there staring at people like a mental patient on day release.

EDIT. And no, not all relationships have to be deep, meaningful and long lasting. Having a few mates to spend a few hours a week with and then go home to your own life is ideal. It nurtures independence and stunts neediness. It also saves energy for those people who really do matter.

 

[Young OG]

Thanks for the replies. I will try out tinder eventually, once I get my abs more defined. I want to use a shirtless pic.

I guess I could try going to some bars alone. Unfortunately the bars by my house all suck. The good ones are farther away, so if I'm drinking, then I'll have to use uber.

To the people who suggested sports, I only play golf. I used to play hockey when I was younger, but it's very expensive, so I would rather not get back into it. All the other sports I suck at. I'm way to short for basketball...

 

[foreverAFC]

join a martial art, you will have somewhere to go after work and you will meet cool people and learn skills that could be used for self defense, look for a jiu jitsu or boxing/kickboxing gym

 

[Young OG]

join a martial art, you will have somewhere to go after work and you will meet cool people and learn skills that could be used for self defense, look for a jiu jitsu or boxing/kickboxing gym

I have actually considered this. I was in taekwondo when I was in grade school.