Im Bengali and Ive been getting a decent amount of girls starting from around 7th grade. Though, girls always tell me that they cant tell where Im from. MANY people have told me my race is very ambiguous, and everyone thinks im mixed but im not. I think its because my mom has really light skin and my dad is brown, so i have kind of a light brown skin color. I live in California and Ive dated asians, hispanics, and european girls. Oddly never any bengali or indian girls lol, for some reason Im not attracted to them. I would say I attract Hispanics the most ( to the point where they have approached me ) and asians the least, with european girls in the middle. Though I was not born here, I was around 3 months old when I came here, and I dont have an accent. Id say my English is very good, and Id even go as far as to say ive mastered English writing.
I also kind of had that mindset when I was younger, thinking I couldnt get girls because I was a different race. I was still a very talkative and social person so I just talked to everyone. I didnt go after girls because I didnt think they would be into me. But then many girls started liking me, almost at the same time. I still doubted myself even if it was obvious the girl was into me, and this cost me many opportunities in my life, but not all of them. I dont regret them though because I have learned from them. I realized race didnt matter, if you are confident, have DECENT looks ATLEAST, can hold a conversation and approach girls, ANY GUY FROM ANY RACE can get girls.
I would describe myself as ****y, honest, confident, smart, and funny. Just the other day, a girl in my lab told me I was arrogant, I told her I was just confident in my own abilities and skills and she agreed. I am 20, she was in her mid twenties maybe, Later that day I was talking to her and she said she would date me if I was 10 years older. I told her Id be done with school and and it would be too late for her. I invited her to the beach this week, she couldnt cause of exams but told me she was dying to go over spring break. I told her I might be going again and I might allow her to come, she invited herself. This girl is european, I think Israeli.
This other girl from my job, shes Vietnamese, I flirted with her a couple times before ( thought I wasnt interested, just bored), but the other day I was talking to her and I mentioned drinking and how I dont really drink and never really got SUPER drunk. She told me she wanted to go drinking with me to see how am I when im really drunk.
Those are just two examples, I have more and those are just from last week.
I personally feel like I can get any girl I want and if I cant than its her loss. This is the attitude I have when I talk to girls. I actually feel like my race and skin color is a bonus. I think I stand out, and I think of myself as unique. I think cute girls with my skin color are really attractive.
My advice : Dress nice, be clean, have basic hygiene, SMELL GOOD, work out, speak english well, be confident, be smart, be funny, always trust yourself, learn how to hold a conversation, TALK TO EVERYONE, EVERYONE should want to be your friend, always learn from your mistakes, and keep educating yourself.
Good Luck.
