It's True It's True
Don Juan
This sounds very AFC and I know this, but hear me out.
A week or so ago I posted my situation. To be brief, Ive been with my current gf for 3 months. Her ex before me is in jail, she broke up with him while he was in there because they were always fighting, he was overly possesive, the whole thing.
They hadn't talked in months, and he started writing to her. She wrote back, yadda yadda. I got advice from this board, and one day gave her the ultimatum to stop writing to him, or we break up.
She chose me, and said she wanted to be friends with him because they were friends before they were going out, but it means more to her to be with me, so she would stop.
A few days later, she said since she can't write to him, she wants to tell him in person that they can't talk anymore and that her current situation won't allow it. I didn't want to let her do it, but I did. She claims she's not writing or seeing him anymore. I believe her, at times, but then I just dwell on it and think, what if? She has her own car, what would stop her.
I want to know what you guys think. When I asked her to stop contact with him, she agreed. Do you guys think I can trust her or what? She seems to be a very trustworthy person, and claims to not have cheated on her boyfriend even when he was in prison. How hard is it for a girl to move on from an Ex like this one, as this is my first real relationship. If not easy, what can I do to help the process. I'm hoping by that saying she CANT see or talk to him, that she won't want to see her more, but that's the gut feeling I am getting whether it's justified or not. I really get pissed off when I think about it, but she isn't even doing anything. It's just me dwelling on it and wondering.
Last thing, just to throw this tidbit out there. she used to be one of those "skater" type chicks that dressed "weird" and did drugs like ecstasy, shrooms, and whatnot before she met me. I'm the complete opposite, kinda preppy kid that drinks all the time. I'm by no means a "nice guy" but different from what she's used to it the punk type kids. I do like her alot and want to make it work, but I hate thinking of what if this, what if that all the time. I may not even have anything to worry about.
any suggestions are welcome
A week or so ago I posted my situation. To be brief, Ive been with my current gf for 3 months. Her ex before me is in jail, she broke up with him while he was in there because they were always fighting, he was overly possesive, the whole thing.
They hadn't talked in months, and he started writing to her. She wrote back, yadda yadda. I got advice from this board, and one day gave her the ultimatum to stop writing to him, or we break up.
She chose me, and said she wanted to be friends with him because they were friends before they were going out, but it means more to her to be with me, so she would stop.
A few days later, she said since she can't write to him, she wants to tell him in person that they can't talk anymore and that her current situation won't allow it. I didn't want to let her do it, but I did. She claims she's not writing or seeing him anymore. I believe her, at times, but then I just dwell on it and think, what if? She has her own car, what would stop her.
I want to know what you guys think. When I asked her to stop contact with him, she agreed. Do you guys think I can trust her or what? She seems to be a very trustworthy person, and claims to not have cheated on her boyfriend even when he was in prison. How hard is it for a girl to move on from an Ex like this one, as this is my first real relationship. If not easy, what can I do to help the process. I'm hoping by that saying she CANT see or talk to him, that she won't want to see her more, but that's the gut feeling I am getting whether it's justified or not. I really get pissed off when I think about it, but she isn't even doing anything. It's just me dwelling on it and wondering.
Last thing, just to throw this tidbit out there. she used to be one of those "skater" type chicks that dressed "weird" and did drugs like ecstasy, shrooms, and whatnot before she met me. I'm the complete opposite, kinda preppy kid that drinks all the time. I'm by no means a "nice guy" but different from what she's used to it the punk type kids. I do like her alot and want to make it work, but I hate thinking of what if this, what if that all the time. I may not even have anything to worry about.
any suggestions are welcome