Another reason men don't have dating power

[HaleyBaron]

I just watched someone in a friend group be disallowed from hangouts simply cause a girl there lied that he was being uncomfortable with her. Flirting, coming onto her, whatever you want to call it. And seeing that pissed me off just cause this average looking girl said it. No reasoning, no "you guys stay apart then", he just took the girl's side. Having seen this repeatedly in my time, not only are women being allowed to be the choosers of who is in a social circle and who gets to go to parties, you got these men who bow to them because they don't want to make any waves or cause any disruptions. It makes me actually hate the men more than the women who get on any guy that she doesn't like that even looks her way. Women are going to have biases no matter what, but when the men agree with the women, it just becomes a f*cked up mess. And it is not like these men are chasing after the women themselves. They literally do this so they continue to appear agreeable. So men aren't even trying to support other men when women and men mingle.

We see this constantly out in public, too, not just privately. Bars, clubs, grocery stores, restaurants, malls, there's always someone ready to judge any man that even makes a woman feel an inkling of dissatisfied. If the guy gets a woman's number or makes her smile, it's fine. No one does anything. But if a woman makes a face of disgust or shows any sort of disapproval, it's like the police descends on you.

 

[Oatmeal31]

I just watched someone in a friend group be disallowed from hangouts simply cause a girl there lied that he was being uncomfortable with her. Flirting, coming onto her, whatever you want to call it. And seeing that pissed me off just cause this average looking girl said it. No reasoning, no "you guys stay apart then", he just took the girl's side. Having seen this repeatedly in my time, not only are women being allowed to be the choosers of who is in a social circle and who gets to go to parties, you got these men who bow to them because they don't want to make any waves or cause any disruptions. It makes me actually hate the men more than the women who get on any guy that she doesn't like that even looks her way. Women are going to have biases no matter what, but when the men agree with the women, it just becomes a f*cked up mess. And it is not like these men are chasing after the women themselves. They literally do this so they continue to appear agreeable. So men aren't even trying to support other men when women and men mingle.

We see this constantly out in public, too, not just privately. Bars, clubs, grocery stores, restaurants, malls, there's always someone ready to judge any man that even makes a woman feel an inkling of dissatisfied. If the guy gets a woman's number or makes her smile, it's fine. No one does anything. But if a woman makes a face of disgust or shows any sort of disapproval, it's like the police descends on you.

Says a lot about the social group too. If they're going to disallow him from meetups, they weren't friends to begin with. Do women tend to get the benefit of the doubt?

Yeah, unfortunately. It's why they tend to get away with huge accusations, and the damage is done, even when people finally come around.

Sometimes, people aren't so sure about the guy or dislike him, and believe those accusations out of spite i.e. the McGregor - Nikita Hand case

Just be aware of who you're hanging around and what can happen

 

[MatureDJ]

It's OVER for OstracizedMeetupCels.

 

[Vanderdonck]

I would just leave the friend group. They don't sound like real friends.

 

[BaronOfHair]

I just watched someone in a friend group be disallowed from hangouts simply cause a girl there lied that he was being uncomfortable with her. Flirting, coming onto her, whatever you want to call it

-Are you a part of this crew, or did you observe all of this from afar?


-Did she speak the truth? Was this guy more Superbad-era Mike Cera than Julian McMahon in Nip/Tuck?

-If the answer to question 1 is "Yep", and "No" to 3 and 4, what kept you from enlightening everyone else to the truth?
Injustice and disenfranchisement only persist where we allow them to


"So men aren't even trying to support other men when women and men mingle"

Don't expect other men to ride to your rescue, simply because you share the same/similar genitalia... That's an error women have been continously making(Expecting the entire female population to reflexively defend them, all in the name of imagined sisterhood)since The 1970s. On average, folks only come to someone else's aid when an investment of their own is being menaced in some way. At least 50% of an infantry regiment's motivation for answering a distress call from a platoon that's pinned down by enemy fire can be summed up as follows: "If too many of our comrades get slaughtered, WE'LL eventually be overwhelmed also"

 

[Clockwerk50]

Have you tried telling the inner circle that you don’t want to hang out with this particular girl, just to see what happens?

Men may be more prone to getting ejected from social circles or being excluded from them, but I’ve also seen it happen to women.

When I was in my early 20s, there was a social circle where the boyfriend of one of the girls got involved with another girl. The group was having a get together, and I was invited. That evening, the other girl called me and asked what I was doing. I told her I was heading to the get together and that she could come with me if she wanted.

We went together, but when we arrived, she immediately got the cold shoulder from all the girls. They even told me, “I can’t believe you just did that” even though I was unaware of the drama. I ended up driving her home and asked if she knew why they were acting that way toward her. She said she didn’t know.

Years later, I found out something happened between the boy and the girl but I don’t know up to what extend.

It goes without saying that women are the more relationship-centric gender. They become possessive about it as well.

 

[Divorced w 3]

It’s bc they secretly want to get a chance with these women. This type of stuff used to drive me nuts so I would leave those groups. I never identified well with guys like that anyway. We would meet for academic reasons and I’d get along with one or two of them and always was nice so I’d try to make it work. Non-athletes, intellectual nerds, long term never did it for me. When you leave those groups and start having lunch with the lacrosse team, the women from that former group ironically is going to want you but you won’t care bc you’re partying at the lax house off campus that they’re not invited too and the hot blonde too had your eye on in western civ is actually giving you IOI’s l

 

[The Duke]

What's worse is "men" who sit there and dont say anything about this crap. And that's why we are in the mess we are in.